Flaky People

United States
May 6, 2007 9:35am CST
I am getting so sick of flaky people. These are people that promise to do something for you and then "forget". I feel so let down. I rarely ask anyone to do anything for me, but when I do, they always seem to forget. And, if you nag them they get angry. It makes me even more mad when they seem to remember to do things for everyone else or when they want to do something for themselves. I just can't count on anyone, it seems. Have you experienced flaky people? Are they more common nowadays or what?
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11 responses
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
12 May 07
I think I AM what you describe as a "flaky" person. Oftentimes, I think it's because I have a hard time saying no to people, so I end up overcommiting and overscheduling myself. Then I get into the position where I have conflicting plans and I have to make choices and rearrange my schedule. I don't do it to be inconsiderate. It's quite the opposite. I'm trying to please too many people. I just thought I'd give you another perspective on it. I can't say for certain that this is true of the people in your life, but it could be.
• United States
12 May 07
Thank you for a different prospective. The only questions I have is that when you do rearrange your schedule, do you tell people that you've rearranged it and why? That's my main pet peeve. It's not that sometimes people just can't keep all their commitments, it's just that they always "forget" that they've made them. If someone said to me, "Darlene, I can't do such and such because of so and so" then it wouldn't bother me.
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@miamilady (4924)
• United States
13 May 07
Most of the time I catch the conflict and I am able to call to cancel, with an explanation or an apology. I may have been guilty of forgetting altogether, but I don't think I've done that much. I understand your frustation with that. I've been in that situation a few times and it is very aggravating to be waiting on someone who doesn't show up.
@ElicBxn (61056)
• United States
6 May 07
I swear some people seem like flake magnats - me for one. I, too, try not to rely on other people because they just seem to fall down on the job. I bet you are real responsible, I think responsible people really expect other people to be at least reasonably responsible & feel even more betrayed & let down when they don't come thru. I know I do.
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• United States
6 May 07
Yes, I have been called responsible and dependable. I know everyone's not perfect and don't expect them to be. But, if someone says they're going to do something, I expect them to do it. Or, if they can't, call me and tell me that they can't for whatever reason.
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@ElicBxn (61056)
• United States
6 May 07
I swear that dependable & responsible people draw flaky people. This cat rescue group is the first time that I can sit back & let others do most of the work, my responsiblity is to get the cats to the adoption & help set up & break down & talk about my cats - big hardship on that one!
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@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
8 May 07
I really believe that we should not ever make a promise or commitment unless we are going to follow through. Its better not to make one then to break it. If you dont keep you word then people just dont take you seriously. I agree . People should help you if they say they are going to.
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• United States
8 May 07
I agree. If you think you can't do it, just say that you can't. Or, don't say you can do something if you're not sure.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
7 May 07
Hello,desertdarlene,i seldom ask other people to do somethign for me if i can do it by myself as i do not want to blame them if they fail to do it and break the promise. The relationship will be affected if they break the promise. Luckliy i have not experienced many flaky people,but i believe there are many flaky people nowadays,may be they just do not want to say no when someone asking them for help.
• United States
7 May 07
Sometimes you just can't do something by yourself and you ask someone for help. They say "yes" and promise to do this and that over and over again and never do it. This doesn't just include favors, but even things like returning phone calls, answering letters/e-mails, or just coming to a social event that you invited them to. They always say something like "Oh, I meant to do such and such, but I forgot. I'll do it tomorrow, I promise." Then, they don't do what they said they're going to do. It's easy to write them off if they are a friend or relative, but when they are coworkers or supervisors at your job, it's a bit harder.
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@pyewacket (44031)
• United States
7 May 07
I've had so many encounters with "flaky" people, people who promise to do things, that frankly I just don't ask anymore...If I want something to get done...I do it myself rather than rely on someone else for a favor
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• United States
7 May 07
I know, if you want someone to do it right, you do it yourself. But, there are times where you can't do it yourself and have to ask other people.
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• China
6 May 07
Yes,I agree with you ,that flaky people have common character in the world.they always seek pretext,It means that faker peopel never pay attention to your request.I believe that flaker people can not be trusted !
• United States
6 May 07
It's especially hard when you're at work and the person is in a supervisory position. I'm not pointing out anyone in particular, but there are a few supervisors I work with that are very nice, but are very forgetful. I'm afraid of asking them more than a couple of times for things because they get mad and it affects my job.
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@juls2me2 (2151)
• United States
8 May 07
I experience being let down nearly every day of my life. I'm not the kind of person to let people down...when I say I'll do something I make sure to follow through. If I'm not able to do something, I'm up front with people about it. So it's extremely difficult for me, when I count on someone else (like my husband) to help me follow through for someone else (like family & friends), because I not only have no control over my husband but I have to trust he'll carry the same convictions and follow through for people, even though I know there's a chance of let down from him. I'm coming to findout that there are just some people that will always be flaky. I'm also learning not to plan to do something for others when I'm dependent on someone else to be able to do it. It's really frustrating for me to see someone let down too. It's easy to get mad and angry at the person, but it ends up not being worth it. My anger or frustration isn't going to change that person or manipulate them to do what I hoped for. They'll always be flaky unless the Lord helps them not to be. So I've come to learn to enjoy the times I have with people that are good and work out and not to expect much...then the feeling of disappointment and let downs are very minimal.
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@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
6 May 07
Oh yes the fairweather friends and those that hang around you when they need you but when you need them whooosh as if by magic they are gone! Then you think the amount of times you have helped them out, sometimes you have put them before yourself. Unfortunately we live in a very very selfish society, a lot of people are out to get what they can, treading on people and being totally flaky. There are some genuine good people out there but they are like rocking horse whatnots
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• United States
6 May 07
Thanks for your response! Yes, that's a problem, too. I'm generally talk about people who can be really nice and can be helpful, but seem to forget when you ask them for a favor. Or, they just ignore it and never respond. You can ask them over and over again and they will always forget. You just can't depend on them.
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@lucgeta (925)
• France
12 May 07
I know the problem, it gets me mad. You do your very own best to handle everything it is asked and can't count with nobody. Someone told me that they might have just forgot or they were pressed by someone else. The thing is we tend to think that people are like ourselves but they are not. I don't need people asking me 3 times before actually doing something but other people are expecting this. The first time wouldn't count or we would be dinning and having coffee everyday. Second time, they are listening but not doing anything. Only the third time is the real thing. Okay, let some time go in between.
@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
8 May 07
yesi dont like them either. they are full of themselves and only around when they are the ones in need.
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@ntejani17 (742)
• Pakistan
6 May 07
Yes man not just you even I moreover all of the world hate flaky people because it makes the other person angry.
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