Flaky People

I think I AM what you describe as a "flaky" person. Oftentimes, I think it's because I have a hard time saying no to people, so I end up overcommiting and overscheduling myself. Then I get into the position where I have conflicting plans and I have to make choices and rearrange my schedule. I don't do it to be inconsiderate. It's quite the opposite. I'm trying to please too many people. I just thought I'd give you another perspective on it. I can't say for certain that this is true of the people in your life, but it could be.

I swear some people seem like flake magnats - me for one. I, too, try not to rely on other people because they just seem to fall down on the job. I bet you are real responsible, I think responsible people really expect other people to be at least reasonably responsible & feel even more betrayed & let down when they don't come thru. I know I do.

I really believe that we should not ever make a promise or commitment unless we are going to follow through. Its better not to make one then to break it. If you dont keep you word then people just dont take you seriously. I agree . People should help you if they say they are going to.

Hello,desertdarlene,i seldom ask other people to do somethign for me if i can do it by myself as i do not want to blame them if they fail to do it and break the promise. The relationship will be affected if they break the promise. Luckliy i have not experienced many flaky people,but i believe there are many flaky people nowadays,may be they just do not want to say no when someone asking them for help.

I've had so many encounters with "flaky" people, people who promise to do things, that frankly I just don't ask anymore...If I want something to get done...I do it myself rather than rely on someone else for a favor

Yes,I agree with you ,that flaky people have common character in the world.they always seek pretext,It means that faker peopel never pay attention to your request.I believe that flaker people can not be trusted !

I experience being let down nearly every day of my life. I'm not the kind of person to let people down...when I say I'll do something I make sure to follow through. If I'm not able to do something, I'm up front with people about it. So it's extremely difficult for me, when I count on someone else (like my husband) to help me follow through for someone else (like family & friends), because I not only have no control over my husband but I have to trust he'll carry the same convictions and follow through for people, even though I know there's a chance of let down from him. I'm coming to findout that there are just some people that will always be flaky. I'm also learning not to plan to do something for others when I'm dependent on someone else to be able to do it. It's really frustrating for me to see someone let down too. It's easy to get mad and angry at the person, but it ends up not being worth it. My anger or frustration isn't going to change that person or manipulate them to do what I hoped for. They'll always be flaky unless the Lord helps them not to be. So I've come to learn to enjoy the times I have with people that are good and work out and not to expect much...then the feeling of disappointment and let downs are very minimal.

Oh yes the fairweather friends and those that hang around you when they need you but when you need them whooosh as if by magic they are gone! Then you think the amount of times you have helped them out, sometimes you have put them before yourself. Unfortunately we live in a very very selfish society, a lot of people are out to get what they can, treading on people and being totally flaky. There are some genuine good people out there but they are like rocking horse whatnots

yesi dont like them either. they are full of themselves and only around when they are the ones in need.

Yes man not just you even I moreover all of the world hate flaky people because it makes the other person angry.

I know the problem, it gets me mad. You do your very own best to handle everything it is asked and can't count with nobody. Someone told me that they might have just forgot or they were pressed by someone else. The thing is we tend to think that people are like ourselves but they are not. I don't need people asking me 3 times before actually doing something but other people are expecting this. The first time wouldn't count or we would be dinning and having coffee everyday. Second time, they are listening but not doing anything. Only the third time is the real thing. Okay, let some time go in between.