Who Imposes Discipline At Home?

@molusk (857)
Philippines
May 18, 2007 6:05pm CST
When it comes to discipline at home, who imposes it, you or your partner? At home, my partner is the one who imposes it. I am quite lenient to the children so my wife sees to it that our children do not go overboard because of my tendency to give whatever it be that our children might wish. In your case, is it you or your partner who imposes discipline? Or both of you?
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@cynddvs (2949)
• United States
19 May 07
We both discipline equally. I might be considered the one to discipline the most since I'm the one at home with my daughter the most. But we always try to stick together on discipline so that our daughter doesn't try to play one of us against the other to get her way.
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@molusk (857)
• Philippines
19 May 07
Yes. Firmness in imposing the needed discipline is a must to be effective
@maehan (1444)
• United States
18 May 07
I am the bad guy while my spouse is a good guy. Study, discipline, daily activities are plan by me MOM (Ministry of manpower). Dad will play and have fun with them. Oh yes, they can have men to men talk.
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@molusk (857)
• Philippines
19 May 07
That is also a good way of dealing with your children. Like you are friends with them . That way, they can easily confide their problems with you like a friend does.
@lecanis (16661)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
18 May 07
My child is still really young, so mostly he is disciplined if he is doing something that could be harmful to him, or if he's pinching or pulling off glasses and things like that. In those cases, it's whoever is closest to him who does it. In the future, I would hope that we take equal roles on such things. I don't want to have the kind of relationship where my child plays one parent off another, or where the only thing I say is "Wait til Dad gets home." I want to be able to discipline my own child when he needs it, and expect my partner to do the same.
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@molusk (857)
• Philippines
19 May 07
discipline should be therefore shared by both so that in the absence of one, home discipline will still be observed. A good thought on that.
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18 May 07
Make sure that you work as a partnership and don't let the children play one of you off against the other. If you are going to be lenient and make your wife do the discipline stick to her decisions and don't mollycoddle them so that she ends up looking like a tyrant. I must have had wonderfully obedient children as I don't remember having to discipline them or who did it. Perhaps we just forget those parts. I remember at bedtime story time it was always us parents that fell asleep first! I do remember our elder child screaming a bit and us having to put up with it as we were not going to give in. I appreciate tantrums in the shops now as at least it means the child has been told 'no' and is not just getting everything they want and being allowed to run amok. Good luck. Children appreciate discipline in the end so stick to it.
@molusk (857)
• Philippines
19 May 07
That is so true when they grow up, they will have realized that the discipline their parents imposed on them have made them nore equipped to face the realities of life.
• United States
18 May 07
If the kids are home all day long with the mother, the kids are going to listen to the father, and the other way around. I'm the mother of 3 kids somedays they listen and somedays they don't. My husband and I take turns with that. Which ever can get them to listen. LOL.
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@molusk (857)
• Philippines
19 May 07
So both of you imposes home discipline. That is also nice to hear.
19 May 07
i am not marriend but in my home my mom learn discipline from my father i see so many insident on that