"constructive criticism" vs rudeness

That's a good question. For me I got called immature the other week by a girl who hates me at college and has made my life very difficult. We were supposed to be saying something contructive to each other. I told her how hard she worked and how she was good at her job. I would say what she did was an insult and not constructive criticism. Nevertheless a week later we had to say something we were proud of I made her really annoyed when I said that I was proud of being immature since it didn't give her the power she wanted over me. She is a bully and she is the one who is immature not me but I will be nice to her and treat her with respect even though that is very difficult. I think people can give constructive criticsm but there is a close line between the two.

I think criticism can be constructive but it depends on a number of things: the intentions of the person offering the criticism, the frame of mind of the person receiving the criticism and the value of the criticism itself. Too often when people say they are offering "constructive criticism" to others it's just an excuse for them to be rude and hurtful. At one point in my career I had to conduct regular job evaluations with employees so I know that it is pretty difficult to criticise someone in a constructive way - particularly when they're not really in a receptive mood! Personally I'll only offer criticism to someone else if I feel I'm the appropriate person to do it and if I feel it could potentially be a real benefit to the other person. I know that I'm not good at taking criticism (unless I've specifically asked someone for their opinion I'll normally tell them where to shove it!) so I try to avoid subjecting others to it.

I think constructive criticism can be very useful and it can be given in a nice way. I dont think rudeness is called for at any time not just when criticising.

I think there is such a thing as constructive criticism. I think if you canhelp someone with constructive criticism that is great. It is better to it that way than to be rude to someone. I think the line is drawn if you know the person well enough for them to take your words serriously and not take them as a put-down. I can take some criticism very well if it is constructive and if I know for sure the person who is giving it to me is sincere and not just demeaning me. I think alot of people also say unkind words to others and they don't care how it makes others feel. They may mean it to change a persons ways but that person only begins to get or feel worse.

I believe in constructive criticism. If it is said in a helping way, calmly and friendly, something said by someone that was not mean spirited is constructive criticism. Something said with a mean spirit or yelled or just said with a bad attitude I consider rudeness. Most people don't realize that they say things without concern for the other persons feelings. I try not to do that, even though I am sure I have been guilty of it myself.

It really depends on the intent of the person criticizing and the way he says it. Constructive criticism may be said with firmness, but it is always in the "you-can-do-better-if-you-do-this" sort of way, and it is followed by some helpful advice. Rudeness is when someone criticizes you only for the sake of pointing out your mistakes, i.e. not even offering any insight on how you can improve yourself.

I would say it is all about inentions. I think they shine through when you make a remark. If you are truly telling someone somthing for their benefit you should make sure to word it in a way that doesn't come off as rude :)

I would say it is all about inentions. I think they shine through when you make a remark. If you are truly telling someone somthing for their benefit you should make sure to word it in a way that doesn't come off as rude :)

I think that constructive criticism can be delivered in a way which doesn't envelop rudeness or meanness. It depends to whom you're delivering the criticism. It's true that some people don't think before they speak, which is always a mistake because things don't come out in the way you intend them. If you're delivering constructive criticism to a friend, whom you know can take it as advice, rather than criticism, then that's fine, but you need to deliver this criticism AS advice, not pull them to pieces. There is no excuse for rudeness, and no excuse for being mean to anybody about something they've done. Let them ask for constructive criticism, and then advise them. That's how I would handle things. Goodness' knows, we're not all perfect and we shouldn't expect others to be. Brightest Blessings.

I do belive that there is such thing as constructive criticism!!! It is way more different thing than rudness..!! Because to me constructive criticism include just not agreeing to some one's work. Or comparing it with other's work or just tell their flaws..!! Rudness is something insulting others not, seeing the other person's efforts in it..!! And just yelling on them. But yes some times this constructive criticism do get mixed with rudness...as in some cases it is "by mistake" and some people do it "intentionally"...!! In my case I myself get very fuled up by some criticism ...as it gears me up to do something to imporve me..and I feel like challanged by someone, so in this case, I tend to do a better work than usual!!! SO this "constructive criticism" is good for me but its not the same with every person so in their case they name it as "rudness". :)

I think if you disagree with someone you can tell them that without being hateful or attacking them. There's alot of ppl I don't agree with but I try to remember that they have their opinion too...no matter how off the wall I think it is. LIVE IN PEACE

It is difficult to draw a line between the two, but in my experience criticism are always constructive so long as it sticks to the issue of criticism, and not going to the personal level. Academically, it is easier to classify. But on regular interactions be it at home, relationships, or work, the line gets more blurry. It has always been, i suppose, a relative thing. When a person gets offended, there is a tendency to think that the person criticizing him has it against him. My suggestion is that polite words, courtesy and soft speaking always lessen the barbs of criticisms.

Having just been on the receiving end of a very mean comment that can probably be revised into having been stated as 'constructive criticism' by the person who uttered it, I don't think there is such a thing. She was being mean and thoughtless and it really doesn't matter how she explains it after the fact.

Yes I think there is constructive criticism, but there are people who do take it too far and it's like a full blown attack on them. I had a professor once who would just get mean and nasty when he told you about your work, I never asked him for help because of it. I ended up getting a C in the class because of it.

I think there can be constructive criticism, but most people don't know how to do it. First of all, constructive criticism has to be asked for, it just can't be spurled out. Also, constructive criticism is something that is said that is meant to help, though it might be painful to hear. Criticism that is given to hurt or discourage someone is not constructive criticism and can be considered rude. For example, if someone who loves to draw asked for advice and is told "you should just give up, you're not good," that is rude and not constructive criticism. But, if the person said "Well, I think you may need to take a class or practice your shading more" then that's constructive criticism.

I do some times tend to open mouth ins=cert foot. and not meaning to be me I guess we need to say may I suject this to you ?

I think you can give constructive criticism if you say it in a way that its positive and encouraging and not demeaning. It's when others start to name call you and say it negatively like "your useless" or "you don't know what your talking about" and things like that, then it becomes a rude comment. It would also depend on how well that person receives criticism as I know for a fact many take it the wrong way and sometimes I do to. If it is explained well and you know by the way the person told it to you, that they are sincere in what they are saying, then I accept it for what it is.

People must choose the right words to say and the manner they will say it. There are people who tell you the truth but too rude to say it while there are some who tells lies but say it in a good manner. And the vice versa also happens. i think it will just depend on the person hearing it if he/she would get affected on it or not. I believe, he/she knows more of him/herself. And acceptance will make things fine...

There's always be criticisms for as long as interaction exists among us. Criticizing somebody is often painful or difficult to "give" or "receive." If handled appropriately by both the person criticized and the person being criticized, results can promote constructive growth in individuals and relationships. Evaluation is important to improvement, but criticism should follow a "two way process." I remember a passage which says "Why do you notice the small piece of dust that is in your brother's eye, but you don't notice the big piece of wood that is in your own eye? Why do you say to your brother, 'Let me take that little piece of dust out of your eye'? Look at yourself first! You still have that big piece of wood in your own eye. You are a hypocrite. First, take the wood out of your own eye. Then you will see clearly to take the dust out of your brother's eye. (ERV). This reminds me that before I make criticism to others it is but appropriate to check my own behaviour first. Invite the other to present criticism of you too. Honesty and politeness are just some of the keywords used when we do constructive criticism. Offer criticism of the person's behavior, refer to what a person does. Direct your criticism to the present ("here and now") rather than the past ("there and then").

Hello miamilady, most constructive criticism are used at workplaces where worker's performance need some boosting. An employer may critize their weaknesses at work and at the same time give guidance to h/her employee's on how to improve it. From time to time parents will give their children constructive criticism so that their children will have a good attitude. Rudeness comes in when a person deliberately say something to hurt the other person's feelings.