fail to forgive

United States
May 26, 2007 2:03am CST
To fail to forgive keeps us bound to the past. It is a killer—not of the one who caused the resentment, but the one who carries the resentment. As another has put it, "Failing to forgive is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die."
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lamiaa
@lamiaa (581)
• Egypt
26 May 07
it is not the problem to forgive , my big problem is to forget , just one letter different but for me it is a big different .
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paradisesuns
@paradisesuns (1755)
• United States
26 May 07
Forgiveness and letting go of resentment (willfully forgeting) are a choice.
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lamiaa
@lamiaa (581)
• Egypt
26 May 07
FOR me it is not a choice , but i really don't think that some one hurt me and i need to forgive him , no i think only that i am hurt and need to forget .
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paradisesuns
@paradisesuns (1755)
• United States
26 May 07
I'm sorry you have been hurt by someone.Sounds like you need to give yourself and the situation time to heal.
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liranlgo
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
26 May 07
I do agree with the sentence you stated. It is drinking poison and waiting for the other to dye. I just solved it with myself, by thinking that there is no use in wasting energy on the other person. I believe that he or she will get his share in the future. I rather go on then not go anywhere because of this.
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paradisesuns
@paradisesuns (1755)
• United States
26 May 07
It is a real struggle, but not one we can't win :)
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Willowlady
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
26 May 07
Forgiving entails a bit of letting go. Also we need not forget what we had to forgive a person or group for. Our mental health is better served to allow forgiveness in our lives. I would agree with what you shared about the poison.
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