Abilene paradox

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I came across this concept recently. Even though it was 'discovered' so long ago (1974) I think it's very true and we don't expose it enough. Basically, the abilene paradox refers to the phenomenon when a group of people collectively decide on a course of action that is contrary to what every individual desires. it involves a common breakdown in group communication when each member believes that their preference is contrary to the group's and thus does not voice objections. Two examples: 1) person A suggests going to X restaurant for lunch just to make conversation, secretly hoping someone suggests a better option. Person B doesn't really like X, but does not voice disapproval in case he sounds like a picky difficult person. Person C doesn't like X either but keeps quiet since two people appear to be ok with that choice. They all end up going to X but none are happy. 2) Boss knows that project X is a disaster, but doesn't want to stop it because he thinks the VP really has put his heart into it. VP doesn't dare say that X is really a disaster since he thinks that the Boss is very keen on it, at the rate that the Boss is encouraging him on it. Manager doesn't want to voice his observation that this is draining the company's resources since it seems like the Boss and VP are backing this. Ultimately, the disaster persists. This is linked to group think and social psychology. Have you experienced similar situations?