Does your partner encourage you to look at other girls or guys?

I don't encourage my husband but I always tease him about it. Whenever I see pretty, attractive and sexy girl walks by, I will tell him "See..see...see... so pretty, so sexy lady huh? You better look at her now because she is showing some kind of interest in you!" And he always scold me for doing that. But, he WILL look! We always make it as a joke, just for fun. But whenever a handsome, sexy man walks by, my husband will stare at me and warn me, "You better don't look at strangers. You should know your status and don't do that in front of our son!" Oh, wow!

I think she is testing you. She's wanting to see/hear your reaction, which for her, will let her know how you feel about her. This is rather immature on her part, and tells me she has insecurity issues. And you are kind of damned if you do and damned if you don't - if you look at a woman she's pointed out and say, "You're right, she is very sexy," your partner will probably be angry. But, if you look at a woman who you think is indeed very sexy, but you lie to your partner about that, your partner's going to feel better, indeed, but it's based on a lie. You need to have a serious talk with her and ask her why she is doing this. Sure, she may be encouraging you and perhaps she is trying to express to you a fantasy she has or something along those lines. A calm, serious talk to get to the bottom of this will work wonders, I'm sure. Good luck.