Why Do So Many People Stick Their Noses Into Other's Business?
July 8, 2007 2:33pm CST
I'm curious to know what drives some people to constantly mind other people's business. Do these people just not have any life of their own and the only way they know to keep their lives interesting is to mind someone else's business? I truly do not understand why someone feels a need to involve themselves with someone else's life when that person obviously doesn't want them in their life and usually the person interfering simply wants to cause trouble. Does it make them feel more important to meddle in another's life? I've always had more than enough to keep me occupied with my own life and never needed to involve myself in someone else's business unless that person has asked for my opinion or help. I tend to think that meddlesome people are simply jealous people who want to create problems for someone else because their life is so empty. There sure seem to be a lot of people who feel the need to tell others how they are supposed to live or in some way involve themselves in someone else's life without that person's invitation to do so. Even if someone has been asked for help regarding a particular issue, that doesn't mean the person who has asked for help in one area wants their input on the rest of their life. For instance, just because someone is having a challenge financially doesn't mean they want a lecture on how to manage finances or on what this person needs to do to improve their finances. I was laid off from work almost a year ago and have been working only part time since then and I find that people consistently want to tell me I need to get a job. Duh now, don't they think I'm smart enough to know this? I've been looking for a job for over a year but haven't been able to find one as of this date. That doesn't mean I haven't tried. Yet, others feel the need to make the situation even more frustrating telling me the obvious. So, what about you? Are you a meddler or someone who has enough going on to keep your nose to yourself?
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• United States
8 Jul 07
Nope, I'm definitely not a meddler...I pretty much keep to myself..If a friend or someone I know wants to "volunteer" info to me that's one thing, but I've never gone out of my way to dig for "gossip"-- But oh, boy do I ever know people who are nosy busy bodies....My super is a classic case...Whenever he's up here to repair something I keep my mouth shut about anything private about my life...hey, he doesn't have to know, cause I know if I did say something to him, I might as well have broadcasted it to the National Enquirer --For instance one time a few years ago, he came up to fix the faucet..he was yakking with my mother and telling her about all the financial problems the people who lived over us were having...no doubt, the woman had what she thought told the super in confidence....yet here he is telling my mother all the blow by blow details--and no doubt also, would tell others who gave an ear to him--was this right? The irony is, is that he comes across as being a pillar of society and has done no wrong in life...hah...oh, I could tell you things there...heeehehe--but won't I think you hit it on the nail..people like this don't have very exciting lives and also maybe being a yakky gossip and meddling or telling people how to run their affairs empowers them and gives them a sense of importance in their boring lives...how pathetic
8 Jul 07
People who meddle are usually people who want to help. It has nothing to do with having nothing to do. in fact, they feel that if they did not, something may go wrong, but they just go about it the wrong way. They do not ask because they are afraid you will shout NO!!!!!!! scream and throw a fit, so they go ahead rather than risk your wrath. Also about you, they may have assumed that you are too close to the problem and cannot see the solution.
• United States
8 Jul 07
suspenseful, I'm not talking about people who simply offer unwanted advice. I'm talking about people who involve themselves to the point of causing trouble. For instance, last week when I needed to pay my landlord so I wouldn't be evicted, the desk clerk (whom I work with) took it upon himself to call the owner of the building and tell her that I was only going to pay her $400 instead of the over $1200 I'd promised her. He put me at risk for being evicted by his meddling. And, one of the maintenance men here decided to tell the landlord I had 15 cats with the hope of getting me kicked out. And, his buddy, one of the housekeepers not only told the landlord that there was a smell coming from my room (which there is not) but also attempted to break into my room. I just happened to catch her in the act. She could go to jail for it. These people have no reason to meddle in my life except for the fact that they don't like me because I make them do their jobs and I keep them from stealing from our boss. This kind of meddling is a far cry from someone who simply offers unwanted advice. What they are doing is malicious and can cause serious problems.
13 Jul 07
Yes, I agree with you. I also don't understand why there are many people who would like to interfere with other"s business. I have found out this kind of people everywhere and anytime. I am so sick of those people. It seems to me that they don't have something better to do in their life. I don't like gossiping someone else's life. It is sin and inconsiderate. I think if people don't involve themselves with someone else's life, our world will be better. Most of the world's problems are caused by others who have involved themselves with others' business. Thus, everything is getting more complicated.
• United States
12 Jul 07
I definitely have enough going on in my own life that I don't want or need to deal with someone else's. I have enough on my own plate. I think that people that stick their noses into other people's lives are either jealous or bored with their own lives so they have to try to live vicariously through someone else.