Your opinon about surrogate mother?

My husband and I have made a decision not to have children but whether or not we had made this decision my answer to your post would be the same. I would never even consider carrying a child for someone else for free or for money. If I was going to put my body through those changes involved in giving life to someone I could not give it away. No matter how close I am to someone and no matter how much they begged me to do this, I would not be able to hand over MY child to someone else. All due respect to those who can do it. I don't know what the legal implications are but imagine if you are the person looking for a surrogate. Say, you give up your life savings to someone to carry your child and they take that money. What it they changed their mind at the last minute and kept the child? You've lost all your money and even worse, you've lost the child too! How can you live with that? On the other hand, imagine you bear a child for someone else and give it away. Imagine you try to have a child of your own, only to be told that due to complications you can't carry any more children. If you were married, what strain would that put on your marriage to have given away a child and then not being able to bear a child for yourself and your husband? It's a lot to think about and a very emotive subject. Personally I am not saintly enough to make this sacrifice for anyone :)

I think its a good idea. The couple are getting a child and the Mother is getting paid.I can't see anything wrong with that! Its just a business deal. Some Mothers might miss their child for a while but if you worked hard to buy a new car, and then decided to sell it,you might miss it for a while too. Its all in a days work!

The way the society is developing newer techniques in family matters, it looks like in 30 years, the word father, mother will become obsolete. I know I have read a lot of news about this. For me, it looks like better than adoption or improvised version of adoption.

I wouldn't mind being a surrogate mother (not for the money though..helping another family is what would make me do it). I had thought of it too before I was married but I don't think my husband or his family would like it. I've also heard about some complications afterwards when the surrogate mother doesn't want to give the child (even though she knows that technically the child is not her's). Emotional complication is possible later if the surrogate mother is not well-informed (some of them are illiterate I heard). Surrogacy for money is like selling a part of your body (I feel). But there are people who might be in desperate need of money. It's an ethical question there and there might be no right answer for that one.

I think surrogacy is beautiful. It's wonderful that a woman can share such an experience with a couple who are very desperate for a little one of their own. I have considered surrogacy and am supported by my husband if I choose to do so. In Canada it's illegal to pay someone to be a surrogate, so people here do it because they want to. The couple can only pay expenses occurred by the surrogate during the pregnancy and delivery. Of course people work around this and end up paying in different ways or under the table, I know this. I have told both my sisters if they ever needed me to surrogate, I would without hesitating. Life is a beautiful thing.