Do you undermine your spouse/significant other? Do they undermine you?

I totally agree!The worst thing someone can do is undermine a paren's authority in front of the children. My s/o and I disagree in a lot of ways but we don't undermine each other over it...not that it matters since the kids know our disciplining styles and know how to use it. The one time I can honestly say he does undermine me infront of them is when we're out shopping. The kids get major cases of the "gimmes", I say no treats unless you behave, they whine, Daddy gives in to get them to stop...then the whole cycle gets repeated thoughot the store and every other storewe go to.

We never undermine each other before our son. If we hold a different view, the other party will keep silent before the kid. We will just talk about it later behind the kid not to make think that we have a different view while educating him.

The only "kids" I really have are the step-kids. Since my fiance is their parent and I am not, he gets the final decision, however I will offer my opinion. I may have thought of something he has not, and if it's a good idea, we'll go with it.