A Rock and A Hard Place
By Bytemi
@Bytemi (1553)
United States
September 10, 2007 11:03am CST
OK, hopefuly someone else has been in the situation and relate and hopefully tell me how to better deal with the situation.
I am divorced and I have a three year old, almost four year daughter. I have dating my fiance for over two years. My daughter does not remember life without him there and he is great with her.
Now that she is in Preschool, a private one that my fiance helps to pay for, he of course wants to attend school functions, participate in the PTA and stuff like that, which I think is great. He treats her like his own daughter, what more could you ask for.
Sorry, I digress, anyways, my ex-husband has pretty much said that my fiance is not allowed at her school functions because it make him look like less of a Dad and we end up fighting everytime something comes up. Today, my ex-husband asked my fiance to babysit while we went to a PTA meeting together, which of course started yet another fight.
Can anybody help me deal with this situation?
1 response
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
10 Sep 07
I think the 3 of you (your ex especially) need to try some counseling or mediation. Your ex has no right to keep your fiance from public functions, especially since he is helping pay for your daughter to attend that school. It sounds like your ex is having a hard time moving on and is being a little too possesive of your daughter AND you. The way I'm seeing it, by him saying your fiance can't attend, he is (in his own mind at least) keeping up a public appearance that he is the only dad and your only partner.
I think you need to start off with a long talk with your ex about how you are feeling and to let him know that your fiance WILL attend things from now on. Also find out just why he doesn't want the fiance there, it might give you some insight on how to better deal with your ex when other issues come up.
