Gossip

I do not indulge in gossipping. Actually, to be honest, we do not talk about a person negatively if he is not in that place. If a person has done good things, tell that at his back and in case he has done bad things, Tell it in front of his face. This is one of my life's principle.

Gossip is something I try very hard to avoid... building myself up at anothers expense never really works out. The speaker comes across as petty and cruel. I do discuss other people, but only with others who care about them as much as I do. And if people come to me with gossip, I try to help them see all the reasons a person might act that way or say those things. I have a sister who is agoraphobic, and I discuss with my other sister things we might do to make her more comfortable about leaving her house. But I would NEVER make light of her problem, or use it to 'prove' that I am better than she is! A small thing becomes no larger by damaging another small thing.

This the worst kind of pass time a person can indulge in.I hate gossip.It serves no purpose.People who are petty minded and have nothing to do kill their time by talking about others.

At the risk of showing myself in bad light, I will admit that I gossip and that I love gossiping. Its what I do in my 10 minutes of tea-break, its what I do while waiting for the bus, its what I do on lazy afternoons, its what I do when I feel depressed and nothing seems to work, its what I do when I meet neighbours at the corner shop, its what I do when both my hubby & me have some spare time or weekends, its what my son and me do when we want to unwind after a particularly trying time with studies…there are so many instances when I gossip and as I said I just love it. I believe it depends on when and where one draws the lines. Some of our families are so close that sometimes my husband will just comment on something that has happened in his friend’s family and just coz I happen to know that family inside out, we start discussing and then gossiping about them. In office too, during our small tea-breaks we will just gather and gossip about each other’s families and personal lives. Mind you, we could do this coz in the first place, such personal information was given by the main person concerned, so if then I am gossiping about it, am I at fault or is that person more at fault than me? And then my son and me…we will have our small session of ‘gossip’ after the grueling studies are over…what happened at school, which friend did what, who was punished and why, how many times he was called to the blackboard and whose fault it ‘actually’ was and the like. So as I said, I enjoy my gossip, we all do otherwise so many illogically expensive glossies would not be selling like hot cakes all over the world. what matters is where and how we draw the line.

Hi Pose123! I don't like gossips and I avoid people who spread gossips or just blabber about other people's lives. I totally agree with what you have just said that it is unkind to talk about other people behind their back whether it is true or not. I don't think that it is the behavior of decent people. Nobody has a right to judge other people because no one is perfect and all have committed some mistakes one way or the other. Take care and have a nice day.

First gossiping is wrong, and I know that I fall short in this. I believe most of my gossiping is venting when someone makes me angry. But if so and so was seeing someone behind someone else's back, I don't tell or listen to others talk about that.

Some great points there! And I think you've hit the nail on the head when you say "is gossip for building ourselves up? making one'self feel better about their self and life" - It's easy to be disappointed in our self and our life.. I mean isn't that how life is.. so why take it out on someone taking that same difficult journey.. a fellow sojourner..?:)

I think this is going to be a very good and timely discussion. We have all gossiped and listened to gossip, I am sure. I have heard you can't throw dirt at someone without losing ground. Very true. So many people have nothing better to do than to be gossip-mongers. They have so much wrong with their lives or their lives are so dull that they want others to be miserable by the things they tell. I am going to try to do better by telling others that if they don't have something positive to say then leave me out of it. I hope I can stick with it but I also know there are those who delight in telling me negative things. There are too many negative things in my life right now and I would like to see the positive.

Hi there. I learnt in my teenage years to stay well clear of gossip, because horrible things can take place all through, carrying words to others... I dont surround myself with gossiping people anyway, and if they happen to be where i am, I can easily walk away or switch off...

ive been seriously thinking about that and in my philosophy class my teacher stated how useless gossip is, so im really being careful with the conversations i am having with people ,careful somehow not to involve other peoples lives, its kind of hard to not talk about other people but at least if i ever do i try not to destroy or place real names and just place examples for worthy talk.

Many relationships and families have been ruined because of gossip. I think it is the nature of people to gossip even they could hurt someone and they spread lies on that person. They just love to talk on peoples short comings and mistakes even they don't know the truth. They will say that person is a trash or had done terrible things in life and then she/he will say something nice about her self that she's not like that person just to uplift her reputation by ruining others.