do you decorate for holloween

Canada
September 12, 2007 6:54pm CST
i have decorated the outdoors for the past two years and i love doing it. but my daughter and i were getting ready to leave to go tricker treating and i was out front. someone walked by with their kids and started making comments like why is this house decorated if they won't even hand out candy. they didn't realize it was my place. but i'm a single mom. i want to decorate for my daughter but i'd like to take my daughter out tricker treating as well. i'm not going to stay home to hand out candy and not let her go experience it. do other single parents out there who take their kids trick or treating feel bad that your not home to hand out to other kids
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@wiccania (3360)
• United States
13 Sep 07
I love decorating for Halloween, but I haven't been able to since i moved out of my parents house. Our first Halloween in the house, my mom came home about 2 weeks before Halloween with a skull mask and gloves, some sturdy wire, black fabric, glow in the dark paint and a plastic scythe. She gave em to me and my sister and said "build the grim reaper in the front yard." So we did. We used scrap wood from the shed and a few other items, and in the end we had a 6 foot tall grim reaper with glow in the dark face. I can certainly understand your dilemma. I'm a single mom this year, so I have to decide on trick or treating or handing out candy. Since I only plan on going around the block or so, we'll probably do a little of both.
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@briarose (124)
• United States
13 Sep 07
I didn't know today was holloween for anyone - shows how ignorant I can be of other countries! Don't think twice about it we live on a main road and never get trick or treaters used to make me sad but now that we have kids it is kind of fun we both go out. I have seen some houses who leave a bucket out and a note that says something like "we are out trick or treating, if this bucket is empty someone got really greedy!" and for the most part there still is candy in these buckets. I saw another bucket that said "take ONE you are being videotaped" LOL Anyway even though you are not giving out candy you are adding to the whole excitement by decorating and I think that is part of the fun too! Hope you had fun!
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
13 Sep 07
Those people most likely don't know you is probably why they said that. It is hard for single parents to be everywhere because you can't. Maybe a quick note on the door saying that you're out with your daughter and will be back soon to hand out candy. Or maybe have a friend with out kids to hand out candy for you. Just a suggestion and you don't have to take either one of them too. I love to decorate for the holidays be it Valentines Day, St. Patricks Day, Easter, 4th of July, Thanksgiving, Christmas or New Years. However we've been so far from home for so many years that I've gotten kind of tired of doing it year after year and now we're so far off the road it's no use anymore because no one can see it from the road and if they can, they can't really make out what the decorations are so another reason I feel it's a waste of time. Most of my family are four hours away although my parents will be a half hour away once they finish moving the end of this month.
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• Canada
13 Sep 07
Well I am also a single mother and we decorate every year and I take my kids ot every year as well. most years I buy some candy and hand it out after we get home if anyone drops by
• United States
13 Sep 07
I have 2 kids and my boyfriend and I take them out trick or treating every year. We also decorate the outside of our house. We both go along when we take them so no one is here to hand out candy. And I wouldn't do it any other way. If that had been me I would have said something to those clueless people. You have every right to decorate your house and then take your daughter trick or treating. Don't feel bad that you aren't giving out candy to other people- you have given back to the kids and community just by decorating and allowing people to enjoy what you have done. It is rude for anyone to expect that you should stay home to hand out candy in the first place- it is something that people do voluntarily. Rude people make me sooooo mad!!!!!!! Especially when they have no idea!
• United States
13 Sep 07
My mom always decorate,I decorate a little but I usually go over to my parents because my daughter lives with them.
@mari_skye (1638)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
Nope, too bad we really do not celebrate holloween here in our country. Although there are some villages who are starting this tradition, it's not really as pervasive as in other countries. But we do have lots of ghost stories during this season to compensate for the lack of 'celebration' of holloween.
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@Laurla98 (786)
• United States
13 Sep 07
We do a little decorating for halloween. Both my husband and I like to share in trick or treating with our children. We don't leave candy out when we leave and I don't feel bad about it. Sometimes we just can't afford it. I wouldn't feel bad. You should just focus on your own child being happy on halloween. You can't be the only one that does the same thing.
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• Canada
20 Dec 07
My kids are grown and gone but I never had that happen to me , I`m sorry some kids just don`t know and make comments they don`t understand ... Sorry you had to hear this young child , who should be taught not to be ignorant to others to begin with ....