To Be Able To Talk With Sufficient Caution
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
Philippines
September 25, 2007 12:12pm CST
I have noticed that there are some people who always keep a good watch about the words that come out of their mouths. I envy these types of people. No matter how much I try to shy away from uttering words which may be hurting or offensive, still some words come out though they are not so easy to the ears.
I wonder now as to how many among us here can effectively exercise enough caution at all times such that they have never experienced getting into some heated arguments at times, just because some words just simply got offhand.
4 responses
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
26 Sep 07
I do my best to choose the words I would use, since I know it can be interpreted the other way around. I'd also choose the perfect timing to butt in, stay focus into the subject and share my point in the most proper manner as possible. But if I find out that conversations are starting to turn into arguments, I do my best to keep my mouth shut and let them do the talking.
Sometimes it's better to keep quiet, to avoid further misunderstandings.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
well, raijin i should learn from your good ways, my friend. people like you is a gift to the crowd where you come in and participate. maybe, time will come when i will be able to have at least half of your talent on communicating with people correctly. thank you so much for your kind thoughts and ideas on this matter. nice to see you around again, my friend.
@cutepenguin (6430)
• Canada
26 Sep 07
I don't think there are many people who keep their cool all the time; I wish I could. I often find myself saying stupid things, or wishing I could unsay something.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
oh, this is a common occurrence with me too, cutepenguin. when i try to recall what has transpired during the day before going to sleep, how i wish i had instead kept my mouth shut in so many occasions. anyway, maybe it has still done some good to others that we had said our piece rather keep quiet all the time. there will always be some good friends who'd rather hear our thoughts rather than see us keeping too quiet in one corner.
@candiec2005 (828)
• United States
26 Sep 07
This is really hard to do. I have been able to work on this and have gotten better over the years. Now I need to work on HOW I say things becuase sometimes I am misunderstood not becuase of what I say but becuase of how I say it. That's probably the hardest part for me since I am a very passionate and animated person.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
i can see that we have the same troubles, candiec. it is the way that we say things that is offending. how i envy those people who can say even the most difficult lines in so friendly a manner. i have always heard comments from friends that i am just simply tactless, i should observe how one good friend deals with situations so lightly such that she has never offended anyone at all. i believe that having a good way with words is also a natural talent. for us who were not born with it, it will be quite a task just to be able to be sweet enough when we talk with people.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
that is indeed the trouble that we have to deal with if we are by nature, too brutally frank. until now, though i always try to bear in mind to exercise caution when talking with people, i still notice that some of them whom i am talking to frown at times. that is of course, the signal that i have crossed someone again. i can see that it is never that easy to change how we are, how right of you, eshaan. to think that i am of age already to be seen to be starting to mellow in so many ways, i don't feel good at the way i am doing in this one goal.
