Dads Health Etc
By webeishere
@webeishere (36313)
United States
October 2, 2007 1:21pm CST
Monday I ran my dad to his Dr's appointments. His surgery scar etc went well. They removed the stiotches & he has minimal bruising. His regular Dr ordered a couple bllod tests for kidney function as he had minor kidney failure when he was admitted to the hospital. Now as far as his stay at the nursing home goes. He is not doing anything as far as activities with other residents. They have a few things daily planned. Dad is the type that won't do a thing unless someone tells him or suggests it. I am not there at the times these activities start so I asked the nursing staff to try to suggest things for him to get involved in as part of his physical therapy. So I shall see how this goes. My stress level has been elevated since he went to the hospital etc etc. I am taking care of myself as best as I can. Not having to deal with caring for him is a relief but I feel lost now. There's noone here for me to cook for and to help with problems. That's the hardest part. Dads paper work also stated that the Dr recomended 100 days saty or until they feel he is mobile enough to care for himself as prior to his hospitalization/surgery. So I guess that's about all I can say as far as an update on dads health etc. He seems to be mind set of staying there as he gets waited on hand and foot. He never got that here. He wanted a pop I made him walk for it. Wish they'd do that then maybe he'd walk more than he is now. It's sad seeing him just sit and or lie all day long. Oh well. I am also having him placed on House Dr as it's too much right now to move him as he is for Dr appointments. That was really rough on me yesterday as his first appointment was at 7:30 a.m. Uggg. They had him up at 4 for a bath etc. Thanks all for your continued prayers, thoughts, concern and show of love & support in this trying time. I'm done babbliong I guess.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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22 responses
@aidonia (4209)
• Greece
2 Oct 07
I'm glad to see everything are fine.The truth is the last few days I didn't see any new update about your father health and I start worry.I had at my mind visit your profile at least see if you are active even without new topic.
Anyway glad to hear your news.You are always welcome to babbling as much as you like.
God bless.....Aidonia.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
3 Oct 07
yEAH i HADN'T BEEN DOING ANY MYLOTTING FOR A FEW DAYS i GUESS. sTILL FEELS WIERD BEING HERE. bUT LIFE GOES ON WITHOUT ME. hahaha
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Hi Grandpa. Sorry to hear about your dad not getting well fast enough. Maybe if you talk to the doctor and nurses into not giving him all he wants all the time but making him get up and get it instead will help him get better faster. Just a thought anyway because waiting on him like they are isn't doing him any good and it's going to be harder on you when he returns home. You're in my prayers!
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@Polly1 (12644)
• United States
3 Oct 07
I am so happy that your dad is doing better. I hope he gets busy socializing with the other patients. Nursing homes don't have to be bad places, some of the patients really like them. I hope your dad gets it in his head that he wants to come home, and then he will have something to work for. Take care. Tell him your mylot buddies are going to come and kick him in the butt, tell him we said he has to get moving.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
3 Oct 07
HAHAHA. I'd like to see him get kicked in the butt. Maybe I should do it huh? Hahahaha!! He did play Bingo juust the other night and won a quarter. HAHAHA! I spend $30 and win nothing. He plays for free and wins 25 cents.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@GardenGerty (169439)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Hay, I have worked in several capacities in nursing homes, and I have also known of people who did get that power mentality about being helped out all of the time. My question is, are you his guardian, or his durable power of attorney for health? If so, visit with the house doctor, and get stuff written into his orders that will preclude them waiting on him hand and foot. Go to his Care Plan Meetings--they are required by law to have one within a certain length of time of his admission, I want to say one week, possibly two weeks. Ask the social worker there for those kinds of details. I am really bossy aren't I?
@GardenGerty (169439)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Sorry, I just do not want them to ruin his quality of life.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Yes ma'am. I am getting right on this. HAHAHAHA!! Thanks for this insight. I am going to talk with someone later today as a matter of fact Ms. Bossy. HAHAHAHA!! J/K
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Hey sweetie. I'm sorry I haven't been on much to respond to your discussions lately. I just read all of your discussions on your dad, and I decided to give my response here. I'm sorry it's been so rough on you. But it sounds like he is doing better, health wise. But those care home nurses need to at least attempt to get him moving around each day to get him a bit of exercise if nothing else. I know you feel a bit lost right now without all of the extra things to do that involved your dad. But you just need to try to sit back and relax yourself at least a little bit. Otherwise you're going to drive yourself into the ground. Please take care of yourself hon, and let those nurses do the bulk of the work now while your dad is there. I worry about you hon. I'm keeping you and your family in my prayers my friend. Big hugs to you.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
3 Oct 07
I am relaxing. Too much at times I feel. Not only lost as far as dad not being here and the things I did in that area but the gardening is done for the year as well. Wahhhh! Wahhhh!!Wahhhhh! Hahahaha! Thanks for the prayers alos. They are needed & much appreciated.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
2 Oct 07
Hi Grandpa Bob,
I'm glad to see that you've given everyone this update. I'm very sorry that things are going along at such a slow pace, for your dad's recovery. It really must be hard for you not to have him to look after, and I certainly understand this too. I know you'll hang in there, and please make sure you take care of yourself. You're continually in my thoughts and prayers.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Thanks for the continuing prayers & thoughts. It is hard not having him here as my whole routine is out of whack. HAHAHA! But I live.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@ElusiveButterfly (45941)
• United States
2 Oct 07
Glad to hear that your Dad is coming along. As for him wanting to stay in the rehab facility, many elderly people enjoy it and prefer to stay there rather than at home. They feel as if they are a burden to their family members and eases the pressure by them deciding that they want to stay where they are. Remember that the decision should be his if he is of sound mind. If he should choose to stay, visit him often. Get him moving the only way a son can. He will enjoy your prodding and your visits.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Yezah he loves being tended to hand and foot. But he knows he doesn't get that here. But he is loved and waited on by me here. I do get the idea he feels he is a burden. But he isn't the type to say so. But I can't make his mind up for him either.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
2 Oct 07
Take a breather..you deserve it.
It seems like you are lost without the responsibility of Dad, may I suggest that since the holidays are upon us, that you take some time to plan out these events, so that when Dad does get home it will be less stressful for you.
He maybe out well before the 100 days if you can get him up and moving. It sounds like the nursing home people are making life easy for him, which is their job, but it is not necessarily in his best interest.
I would guess the best thing you can do right now is to visit him every day for a few hours and get him up and moving around as best as you can. This is the best way to help him heal and get better.
And don't you ever apologuze from rambling and babbling...we are here to hear this, if you can't talk to us to make you feel better, who can you talk to?
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Holidays? Hahahaha! The stores have everything Christmas on display. How can I not think or plan at this time. HAHAHA!! I don't think they are making it easy actually. I think as he's been there only a week they have waited the right amount of time after surgery. Soon I am sure they'll have him moving during his physical therapy and not just sitting exercises. I've tried to get him up but they get upset as his orders are minimal movement and only when assisted by staff. But he is doing good either way.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@Grandmaof2 (7578)
• Canada
2 Oct 07
I don't consider this babbling at all, it's called caring. We only have one set of parents and when there's problems it hurts to see them go down hill. I was a bit taken back at the idea of getting poor ol' dad up at 4 am to bath. I would not be at all impressed with that action. Who the hell wants to bath in the middle of the night. I think a 7:30 in the morning appointment for an elderly man who has just gone through what he has is totally unreasonable. They should let the man at least have time to wake up. Now whos' babbling???? Oh the more I hear of doctors the more I think the system sucks. Thank You so much for your update even if it did hit a nerve, I'm always anxious to know how your father is as I have been following your posts. So nice when people provide updates on health issues. Take Care, and lets hope your dad trys to do a bit of walking. I think if everyone quit taking him whatever he wants he would make an effort. I know when my bones hurt so bad I could cry but you know when I move around that really does help for the time being. It's hard getting old and I hope and pray he isn't giving up. Take Care loyal friend...
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Yeah 4 a.m. was ridiculous I think. Granted he needed a bath etc. From now on I am asking to be the one to make his appts. No more early morning ones like that ever again. You're welcome for the update. I figured I hadn't been on here for a few days & had better let frioends know what's happening.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
3 Oct 07
Hi Grandpa Bob,
Is great to hear from you and thanks for the update. I just find it really strange that the Dr's office would give an elderly man who has gone through so much an appointment that early in the morning. Don't even get me started on him having a bath at 4 am!! I really hope that he starts to participate soon in the activities, and I am so sorry that you have been stressed and are feeling so lost without him there to care for. Please keep us posted!
Your Friend, PurpleTeddyBear ;)
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@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
3 Oct 07
I haven't always responded to the posts about your Dad, but I read them and am glad you are keeping us posted. I know what you mean about feeling kind of lost with him out of the house. It's tough to watch someone you love lose their abilities and suffer. I'm thinking of you.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Thanks for being so open about this. Tee hee hee!! Yeah it just doesn't seem the same withoput him around. I visit him most every day around 8:30 so I get up early now without him around. Normally I sleep till noon when he's home as he eats breakfast then goes right back to bed till noon or later. HAHAHA!
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
2 Oct 07
I am sorry to hear it is going to take so long for him to come home to you guys. As much of a relief it is to have a break, it is also overwhelming to have your schedule disrupted when you have been so used to doing this for so long. I pray that all things work out for you and your dad and he comes home soon. Take care and my prayers as always are with you!
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Thanks for the prayers also. Even the dog Buster is crazy wiothoput the old man here. His eating habits have changed a lot since dads been gone. He gets dog food only now. HAHAHA!!
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
3 Oct 07
glad to hear eveything is coming along well with your dad.i know its gonna be a long road ahead but make sure he moves alot around to keep his strength up and dont get any bed soares.my prayers are still with you and your family.god bless.pattie
@clamarco808 (312)
• United States
3 Oct 07
It is so nice to hear that your dad is getting better. Our prayers still are with you & your family!!
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Thank you so much also.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@usmcsgtwife (4997)
• United States
2 Oct 07
thanks for the update, contiuned prayers are being sent
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@usmcsgtwife (4997)
• United States
2 Oct 07
thanks for the update, contiuned prayers are being sent
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@mummymo (23706)
•
3 Oct 07
It sure sounds like the staff at the nursing home should be encouraging your dad more Grandpa Bob - I guess if it is anything like here they don't have the time to spend encouraging him to do things for himself but I sure hope they try harder! Glad things are going well with his healing though and I guess you will still be stressed - just try your best to look after yourself!
Keeping you all in my prayers and hope that your dad starts doing more for himself soon! xxx
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@tdbrower1969 (1242)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Maybe it will help if the nursing staff does suggest that he do some different activities during the day. They have to know that him lying around is not helping him become mobile again. I am glad that it is a relief from stress for you, but I am sad that you are lonely without your dad there with you. I am sure that he will be back with you soon! Take care!
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
2 Oct 07
I am glad things are going pretty good. I hope they do get him to be more active, because the longer he sits the worse it will be for him...but you already know that..You are still in my thoughts and prayers..Take care and Hugs to you and Grandpa Senior.
