I'll probably be gone after today...

Thanks edigital...I will try to come on when no one is home. I'm really overwhelmed by the support I've gotten about this.

I did make it to dinner eventually. My mom just turned the oven down and waited for me so it worked out. I was taking care of my family just fine while also finding time for mylot but I guess she didn't approve and was making it harder and harder to be on. After what was said last night I don't know what else to do but give this up.

Mylot has been the only "just for me" thing I've had here. S/o and I are going to have a long talk while we're gone tomorrow so maybe we can get something resolved. It will be the first time we've been alone together (with kids in the backseat) in 2-3 weeks.

I'll still be around a little bit, I'll just have to come here when no one is home. Wih any luck maybe it will only be for a few months....it's been so great to hear from friends through all of this!

Hopefully you won't be gone for too long.

Well as long as no one is home I should be able to come on with no problem. It won't be nearly as much and probably not every day but it's something. I have been wanting to star an online something but since me sitting at the computer for any length of time seems to annoy everyone I'm not sure how to go about it. I guess it will be a matter of putting my foot down which has been hard lately because of s/o's constant bad mood. I hope you figure something out too! Maybe you can get an outside job only during his school hours so you're still home when he's home? Good Luck!

Oh, I see. We have full day kindergarten here but in your case you'd definitely be better off waiting another year. Funny how some men can sit on their butts watching tv or on the computer all day and it's fine but if we sit for more than 5 minutes anywhere everyone thinks the whole world will fall apart.

Oh I hear you. Just this morning my husband said he wanted me to do something and I said "now?" and he said, "yeah, anything to pry you away from the computer for a minute" Thing is, he is in the other room glued to the tv, what difference does it make? Anyways, my son is in kindergarten, so he is only gone for 1/2 day, I would rather wait until he goes for the whole day before getting a job..

Thanks xboxboy! No one is home right now...She's just very particular and set in her ways. She can't see that it's that clash between her ways and my ways that makes things so difficult here. S/o doesn't like confrontation so he won't say anything. The breakfast issue is actually quite common. The kitchen is small and she is in there first thing making just enough for everyone but me. By the time they are done eating and cleaning up so I can get in there she's ready to move on to other things and is at me about this or that needing to be done...actually every meal is that way. I wish you all could come here and get people to realize that I'm a person too and that my way of doing things works just fine....it's that or we find a bank that will finance $85,000 so we can buy the place and kick them out LOL!

Foxyfire, who actually owns this place? Is it you and s/o? Do you rent? You say if you can buy the place you'd kick them all out, if your name is on the lease/rental papers you still have that right. I'm all for community families, but seems like they was slaves to run around and to this and that for them. You are a person. This is completely uncalled for. Sorry, just expressing my concern and really, anger at how this person wants to take over and run your life. It's like you're supposed to be the mom and maid, but this person wants to keep you jumping like you were a 12 year old child. ljgbers-They own it but want us to buy it. S/o had his own separate home here but it is too old and needs too many repairs to be liveable again. Once/if we buy it, it will be all ours and we will be able to do whatever we want but it's a lot of money for what it is so we may not be able to get the financing. The las par of what is said is completely corect. She said something along he lines of doing all the cleaning is bad for her health, well I have been doing everything but washing their clothes and some of the heavy cleaning that I would do if I knew where the stuff is to do it or knew how to do it her way since everytime I have done it she's gone through and done it again.It's been only me taking garbage and recyclables out to the bins, burning the papers (even when I was sick and it was cold and raining/snowing), washing clothes for the 5 of us and some times my step son too if he forgets to do it himself. I vacuum, pick up toys, cook our meals, tidy things up, keep the kids out of their stuff as much as is reasonable....I just do things differently than her and she wants me to do everything her way and raise the kids like she raised her kids....and she's already gettin annoyed about me sitting here (I just sat back down and have been up several times doing things since starting this post)...4 more hours til s/o comes home and has off til Friday night so at least I'll get a beak from him.

ooops...I copied ljegbers response onto the page I was typing on so wouldn't forget to respond to any of it and forgot to delete that part befoe I submitted!

Thanks TerryZ...I can get on a little when no one is home so I won't be totally gone for now, my time is just very limite. I've used all my available computer time just for responding to this discussion since I started it and this is as far as I've gotten. Why does she have to take over my life and run it? because she's so used to having to do that with her son she thinks she can do it to me too...she actually let up on me a little yesterday when I kept saying (to my son but LOUDLY lol) that I needed to do my work here for my MONEY and then even more last night when s/o got mad at me when I tried to make him follow her rules. I think it made her realize that HE'S the problem not me since the day went just fine until he came home...then all you know what broke loose. Thanks for the hugs and I'll be hee as often as I can...but if you don't hear from in for a few days at a time don't worry.

Okay Im glad you got on here!LOL Not to worry Ill still be here! Hope to see you soon!

Well I hope that she gets the message, way to go!;)

LOL raijin...Surprisingly she's tolorating me being on te computer right now. I have mentioned very loudly several times now that I'm WORKING for MY MONEY so I'm sure that has something to do with it. I'll definitely come on when no one is home although that's rare and any other time I'm able to, it's just not going to be like it was before.

Some days I don't know either. I definitely need a place to vent so I'll sneak back here as often as I can.

It wouldn't contribute any money at all and would probably cost us money once gas. childcare, and other work expenses were added up. I'm not getting a job right now, I don't care what anyone says. I will earn online if I'm allowed but that's it.

Good for you Foxy! I wouldn't either, if I was in your shoes.

Part of the problem is that when he's home she let's him get away with whatever and doesn't try to enforce anything because he's ben so grumpy so he doesn't see how hard it is on me when he's not here. The other part is that this place is the only permanent home he's ever had and he is unwilling to leave and will put up with everything if it means beng able to stay. Obviously I'm really frustrated with him right now too...I'm sure I'll figure something out, things can't stay bad foreve, right?

Looks like I'll be joining you in the exodus. I'm getting tired.

She does have a job it's just not enough to pay her bills. They have gotten themselves into serious financial trouble because of credit cards so they're looking to keep us under their thumbs to help them out of it. We don't use credit cards and pay cash for everything so the way we see it, it's not our problem. We provide just fine for us on one income and even though we'd like to have more money we aren't going to sacifice for it....She had everybody else's breakfast fixed by 9:00am but there wasn't enough for me and by the time they ate and cleaned up the kitchen so I could get in there she started saying this and that needed to get done so I didn't get to sit down and eat until 1:00 and even then all I had time for was a quick bowl of cereal. I did make it to my family's dinner later and got to really fill up there!

legbers- That's what I think too. I think it's more of a selfish/jealousy thing. They have 2 1/2 incomes and can't even come close to paying their bills even with the $200 a months for the one bedroom and the fold out couch that we pay them for. So they're looking at us and seeing more money since s/o could get a part time job on his days off like his dad does and I could work and it would all be extra money (for them) since we're getting by on our current income. They refinanced everything just over 5 years ago into one big bill ($990 a month) for the same problem but instead of learning anything fom it they have since bought a brand new vehicle, a large camper and run up thee new credit cards to (I'm guessing based on the few statements I have peeked at which was only about 1/2 that they have) at least $20,000. Right now they have no cash and their credit cards are so maxed out they can't even come up with $450 for heating oil. We don't mind pitching in our share of shared bills but they seem to want us to take over which we can't do unless we had a few more incomes.

MSV-Can you call my s/o and tell him that? LOL I keep saying the same things but he won't listen...

Still here a LITTLE bit. I figure I can sneak on when no one is home. It won't be everyday but a least it's something.

I know I don't like letting someone else run my life I just haven't figured out a way to fix it. I'll still come back on when no one is home but that doesn't happen very often.

Her "demands" are really just normal, everyday things really but just the way SHE wants them regardless of what is going to work for me. Like she wants the boys up at 8 am and immediately dressed etc. BUT no one around here will settle down until 1-2am and I'm still getting up in the night with the baby and he usually needs another feeding around 8am, how exactly am I supposed to change and dress 3 boys, take 2 to the bathroom and brush teeth AND start breakfast while I'm still nursing the baby and on less than 6 hours of sleep? She also wants them ALL to take a nap at the same time in the afternoon...umm yeah like that's real easy to pull off. And then they have to be in bed at 8pm. Sure kids need a lot of sleep but 12 hours straight at night plus a 1-2 hour nap? She also set out mealtimes which do not fit ou schedule at all. She wants them to have dinner at 5 pm everynight. I have been giving them a small meal at 4 pm so they are ready for another small meal around 7:30 when teir dad gets home from work when he's on days...you know "family time". Also with an 8pm bedtime they won't get much time with him on those days. Then there's just the ongoing issue where everytime I sit down for more than 2 minutes she comes up with something that needs to be done right then. Just a few nights ago I sat down to eat a bowl of mashed potatoes because I was hungry. I had to reheat it 3 times and ate the last bit of it cold because of how many times I had to get up. I will try to ome on when no one is home but that's rare depening on work schedules. I'll miss everyone too.