If you got tricked into something
@cartoon4umaniacs (1648)
United States
December 13, 2007 1:02am CST
If you got tricked into doing something and it hurt you physically and financially would you be able to forgive this person if she was your aunt? What if now she comes to you for help? Would you help her? I have a distant aunt who got me into gambling as a day trader back in the days when the market was doing okay but heading for the toilet...I lost big time and I was mentally and physically drained as well as my pocket book...Now she tricked me into it and I got caught up into the game...I don't blame her for me having to stay and play but she tricked me into giving her my money to open an account for me and her and in so doing gaining would be shared and lost would be on me which was totally not fair but she was my aunt...Now she needs a job and she used me as her referral or recommendation...they called and ask for reference but I was not home. Now later that night my cousin (daughter of the aunt) informed me that her mother has used me for recommendation for all her applications on the positions she has applied for...Should I help her? Of should I get even? What would you do?
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
13 Dec 07
I think you got to be very rational now. She is your auntie and by right you should help her. However, do you trust her now? I think there's no point in helping her if you trust her no more. If you were to help her and she were to betray you again, I think it's going to make the relationship worse.
If you think that you can trust her, then do help her. =D
If a person has hurt me physically and financially, I would still forgive that person. However, I'll try not to have any future financial dealings with that person anymore. There's a chinese saying that goes 'Talking money can hurt feelings' I think this saying is true to a large extent.
@cartoon4umaniacs (1648)
• United States
17 Dec 07
Yup and I am Chinese. She hurt my feelings while talking to me about money LOL...yeah but seriously I don't trust her but I don't want to put her down either because she is family but I don't feel like helping her though...But what can I do maybe I should help who knows...
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
17 Dec 07
Hmm.. Since you do not trust her, you should not help her. If you really feel that you should help her out of obligation, then do tell her about what you feel before you help her. You must tell her about how you feel and also tell her if she were to betray you again, you will not help her ever again.
@shak143 (1279)
• India
14 Dec 07
i wont help a person who hurted me physically and financially though hw is my relative.iam not sure whether he/she will not hurt you again and now he came with a good intension and really need my help so it better to be away with these kind of people.
if they have done harm to me with out any intension and they also dont know that i will get hurted with there work then i will help them and observe them that what they said is correct or not.
if they do the same i wont help them in future.
