Have you ever been compared to a sibling?
By Jess
@JJ4Ever (4693)
United States
December 17, 2007 11:30am CST
I was born into a family of six children. I'm the second oldest with one older sister, one younger brother, and three younger sisters.
Sometimes I feel like I'm my parents "favorite" child. Is that possible? Have you ever felt like you are the "favorite" child?
Sometimes I feel like I've been compared to my other siblings. Has anyone ever felt this way?
4 responses
@EAStanley (2688)
• United States
23 Oct 08
I am compared to my brother all the time. He is the "perfect one". He is everybody's favorite! But, it's all good! I just deal with it!
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
23 Oct 08
I know exactly what you mean. I was born into a family with six kids (including me). My older sister was always the smart one. I was the second child, and obviously, there were four more born after me. My older sister in particular always got the attention because of her intelligence and awesome grades, but I was like you and dealt with it. After a while, it's only so long and you pretty much get used to it! In fact, I kind of took it as a challenge. I wasn't trying to be better than her or anything, but I loved setting goals for myself. She ended up being the Valedictorian of her class of 18 people. I wasn't surprised there. Two years later, I found out (the night before my high school Graduation!) that I was also the Valedictorian (of a class of 11 people). Like any good student, I'd written my Val speech two weeks ahead of time because I definitely anticipated being first in my class...I worked hard for it. I think it really paid off, and at the same time, I'm so thankful for my older sister in particular because she set a really high standard for me to follow if I chose to. I don't know where that came from, but your awesome response just kind of inspired me to share that story with you! Thanks so much for taking the time to respond. I love your positive attitude. Take care, friend!
@tazpromote (965)
• United States
21 Dec 07
I think you have got the answer and solution from discussions of edigital and your comments on his discussion, so there is no scope to add more information except that I also feel same things as per above discussions. God did not made one things of its same nature, our five finger in hand not equal, so there should be a difference but not much, little difference and that difference do not mean that parent do not love their children. If any son or daughter do crime then parent will go to court to release him or her, so parent's love cannot be ignored for any child but have little difference due to situation and I think it is a wish of God too.
@ssh123 (31071)
• India
18 Dec 07
Most parents do not dislike their children. They tend to favour children if:
1. They listen to parents
2. If they are good at studies
3. If they behave properly
4. If they have understanding
sometimes parents tend to help (favour) those children who are weak and cannot stand out for themselves.
My parents never showed any special favours to anyone. they looked upon us without any bias and I liked it.
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
21 Dec 07
I completely agree with you. One of the first ways to upset a family is to show favoritism, which causes the other children to feel tense and uncomfortable. They also resist the child who is favored by the parents. Thank you again for your excellent response!
@edigital (2709)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I am only one son of my family and no other brother or sister so it is hard for me to discuss exactly about a family with more than one child. But as I have many relatives, friends and neighbor so I can say something which I practically experienced seeing those family. Yes, in all family parent love their all child good or bad but each cannot become same favorite and one or two or three among many children become favorite - this is possible. When parent have dependent with one child or two child and see that one child is better than others they take special care about him or her so he or she become favorite. That do not mean that other children are non favorite. One or two may special favorite.
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
21 Dec 07
You definitely have an interesting perspective on siblings. It's true - it's impossible for parents to love their children equally as each child will always be different. Difference appearance, personality, attitude, character, etc. You have opened another realm of thinking. Thank you for your response as I appreciate it.
