insights on eloping

Well I, personally, and I speak for my ex-wife also, we would never leave our children in the position, to where they would have to elope, and we never did! We had a very up front, and understanding relationship with all six of our kids! But I've talked with all my elders, and my parents, and apparently, eloping in their generations, was 80% frequent! I don't know but I think the generations before us were pretty dad gum strict, and this forced a lot of couples to elope, I guess they had no choice! Basically, I just believe on giving a person a chance to prove himself, I guess that is what I am trying to say!

I say good for them. I don't feel we need to get our parents approval on who we marry. I's our life and we need to live it the way we want to. Life is very precious and can be way too short so we need to do what we want to do with it. After all it is our life not our parents life, that we are living.

I don't think eloping in this manner is a good idea. Most of the couples I know that have thought about eloping are young and don't want to hear what their parents have to say. Looking back, my parents saw things about my ex-boyfriends and ex-husband that I couldn't see at the time. There is usually a reason parents don't approve of a potential spouse, and they really should at least be heard out. I think eloping is like saying that the couple doesn't care what anyone thinks. Well, in that case, the couple should not expect a big deal to be made of their wedding or their marriage. They are opening themselves up to a life lived alone with no support from their families.