Importance of Friends
By carolbee
@carolbee (16230)
United States
January 2, 2008 9:05am CST
How important is it to you to have friends in your life? I'm one of those people who loves people and wants to be in crowds and around friends whenever I can but don't have a ton of close friends. My choice is to have one or two very close friends and more acquaintances. I do like my privacy and don't want to report to friends on a daily basis like it's a job!
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11 responses
@Wario_1 (965)
• Sweden
2 Jan 08
My friends are very important to me, especially my close friends. Dislike being with/in/around large crowds, rather be with a couple of friends instead. I like spending time with them more than on acquatintances.
I agre with you on the privacy part, id feel disturbed if i had to tell everything i did daily to someone.
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@Wario_1 (965)
• Sweden
2 Jan 08
Your welcome. I can understand the feeling of being suffocated by your controllfreak friend. I value my freedom damn high, so i could never stand to have such a friend. Had a friend that was similur to the one you described, but not as serious case as your. He wanted to do everything his way, that pissed me of after awhile. He hasnt changed a bit, even several years after we were friends.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
3 Jan 08
The control freak friend I mentioned is really no longer a friend. She caused all kinds of problems for one of our kids. I won't and didn't deal well with it. Thought I could trust her..........NOT! I run into her occasionally but we are not close.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
3 Jan 08
Hello dear carolbee. It is very important for me to have good friends in life. I have some very good friends in the places where I have already worked. We still keep in touch with each other via email. And there is a best one as my colleague working in the same school. We are just like brothers. He often invites me to have meals with his family. I look on his daughter as my own. We help each other and when there is something very important to be solved, we discuss together for a solution to the fullest.
Friends are a great asset to me, without which life seems to be on a lifeless desert with no water.
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@fianne (1057)
• United States
3 Jan 08
i have had lots of so called "friends". but i have only one hand to count on my true friends, per ce. well, i realized friends are different from true friends when i had trouble in school and personally in my life. one of my true friends is my family. and some true friends from the outside. i consider others cliches, just only good to be there. better if i se them, better if not.
@jillhill (37353)
• United States
2 Jan 08
I am the same way. I have a few very good friends. I work full time and also write at home and don't appreciate people that feel like they can constantly drop by. I have been that route. I like my online friends because I can talk to them when I want. My best friend lives 200 miles from here and we see each other on a pretty regular basis and really enjoy the time we have together. We do however sometimes email each other several times a day. I have friends here to do things with but I would probably be known as a stick in the mud for I am picky how I spend my free time.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
2 Jan 08
Working a full time job and writing at home is a very busy schedule. You are entitled to spend your free time however you wish.
Think as we get older we value our free time even moreso than when younger. The ratrace of raising kids, phones ringing and people coming by the house at all hours.
My longest friendship is one from Kindergarten. She lives mega miles from here but we keep in close touch. She just happens to visit the midwest once a year to see her daughter and we get together.
I love people, love places, love parties but still want my space.
Thanks for responding.
@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
2 Jan 08
I think that friends are very important and I have a lot of friends. But I also have several very difficult friends that just squeeze out all the energy out of me after half an hour. I don't really consider them my friends but they consider my their friend. I talked to some of them about it but they usually stop for a few days only and they start everything again. I like people and I like having friends because that makes our lives richer.
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@honeyface (8)
• United States
3 Jan 08
It is very important to have friends to me. Like yourself I only would like to have 1 or 2 close friendships and few acquaitances because sometimes I just don't feel all that friendly.
@albert2412 (1782)
• United States
3 Jan 08
I have tried to make friends, but people find a way to reject me. I do not have friends out in the world. I do not have friends or relatives to call on the phone or to go to visit. Life is hard when you do not have firnds in your life.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
3 Jan 08
Friend are obviously important in one's life. But in my life I am so much hurt from so called good friend taht nowadys i really find it hard to consider anyone as my true friend.But we should have some friends in life without them we can't live a good life.
@delladidit (466)
• United States
3 Jan 08
...To have a friend, you must first be a friend.
...There are three women I call my best friends. We met shortly before the movie "The Boyz In The Hood" came out, so we are the Girls In The Hood or GITH.
...These friends of mine have seen me through things my husband should have been next to me through and wasn't. Just one of the reasons he is now my ex. Men may come and go, but my gf's are forever!
...People who want to control your every move are not your friends. They are self-serving, manipulative, insecure people. If you are unable to help them grow, then RUN AWAY from them! Some just need to know they are invading your privacy to learn. They may not have been aware of their insecurity. Others will never see it and never get it.
...Peace be with you and be a good friend so you have great friends. =(^;^)= Della
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
3 Jan 08
And you are exactly right. I have friends that fit into every category you mentioned. I tend to shy away from the very needy ones since most often it only amounts to wanting my attention. I can and do offer support when necessary. Thanks for responding.
@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
2 Jan 08
my friends are very important to me. I ahve two special friends online both from India that I can aks and converse with any time. Here in Jamaica I dont have anyone that close to me. All are acquaintances and just like you I love my privacy but love people too.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
2 Jan 08
I have one friend in particular who we stay in touch via email all the time and we meet for lunch about once a week. She only lives about 4 miles from me but neither of us just love the phone. I certainly understand about the privacy. Thanks for responding.
@KingPiccolo (95)
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3 Jan 08
Friends are pretty important to me, hell the profession I wish to get into in future may as well depend if I have the right friends, although you may think the profession is stupid. but in life they are also important to me if I didn't have anyone to talk to, I'd probably go insane, and also they are important because I like to know that people are doing well although I probably would feel the same way if I hated their f'n guts.









