Second Wedding

Show me where its written that you can't do these things? Who says I cant have a pretty dress? or reception? You are old enough to marry. Allowed please! Did anyone stop Elizabeth Taylor? Don't think so?DO change your attitude. Repeat after me: “I’m engaged and deserve to be excited!” Never, I mean never, say things like “well, you know, this is my second wedding, so it’s no big deal.” This is a common attitude for brides the second time around. Publicly committing your love to a person IS a big deal and like all brides, you should have your day, your way. DON’T limit your options. Listen carefully: You can have a bouquet. You can wear white. You can have a first dance with your new husband. You can be given away by your father. There are no limitations. It’s your day, so maintain that attitude throughout. On the other hand, if you want to wear a nice pant suit or a tea length dress and skip the veil, go for it, but only because this is what you want. Do not make any decision because you feel like you don’t have the right to participate in a meaningful tradition. ITS YOUR DAY! YOU ARE ALLOWED! BE HAPPY

My second wedding was the first for my husband so I bowed to him and agreed to have the wedding down where his family lives (3 provinces away). They are pretty casual down there to begin with. Our so-called "ushers" showed up in shorts and golf shirts. LOL! I wore a knee-length champaign coloured dress with matching tuxedo jacket that was trimmed in satin. I found shoes that matched perfectly. I didn't go OUT and get my hair done because where we were was the middle of nowhere. DH bought himself a new suit. I had my sister stand up for me, DH's brother stood up for him. We didn't have all the bridesmaids and such and the priest actually commented on how nice that the wedding was more about the marriage and not an extravagant affair. We did have a reception in a hall with dinner and a DJ. We took a limo to our hotel. It's all a matter of choice. After all the hoopla with my first wedding I had wished I had eloped, that is why I let this one go so low key, but we still dressed up and made ourselves look nice. You can do whatever you want but best not to break the bank doing it. Congratulations and good luck!

There are no "rules" anymore. You can do anything you want. It's your wedding your day and you have every right to do it your way.

I'd like to know where it's written that you are not allowed to be excited and do all the things that you did at your first wedding. You're allowed to do whatever you want, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It's just unfair to deny someone a happy, perfect wedding that they want just because it's their second, third or fourth wedding. It shouldn't matter what wedding you're on, you should be able to do what you want, and how you want it. Be excited, you're getting married!

Hi Bytemi, Of course you can have all these things! I would hope that every bride is excited, and happy. Just go out and have a wonderful time, and oh yes, Congrations! Blessings.