do i have to do this???
By roniroxas
@roniroxas (10559)
Philippines
January 27, 2008 10:40pm CST
i have a friend and we are both musicians. i gave him 3 midi files that i need for a singing conference. i gave that to him for him to edit it and add a little more music into it. i told him if he is finish please give me a copy then he can keep it. we can both benifit on that music.
but he didnt give me any copy. i text him but there was no reply.
after 3 months of no communication his wife paid me a visit and is asking for 4 songs in midi files. she said that his hubby needs it for he will be playing on a friends wedding. i dont know if his wife knows about the file i told him to edit. i just told her wife write the songs title then i will just look at my file.
when she left i look at the songs and the songs are the rare ones. the songs he needed are the songs that are not easy to find. i have midis of that songs because i paid someone to do it for me.
i am not a selfish person, i always help in anyway i can. but now i am having second thoughts if i have to give him a copy because of what he did to me.
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4 responses
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
29 Jan 08
blackmail him roni! LOL i mean, asked first for the midi files that you gave him for him to edit. it should always be give and take since you are both in the music industry. just remind him about the favor you asked of him. if he doesn't remember it, which i think is impossible, then to heck with his request. LOL
i mean, if i were you i would definitely be mad and i'll just say that i have no files of whatever songs he is asking of you. ^__^;; i know the golden rule, don't do unto others what you don't want to do unto you, but since he first violated that rule, i'll just be teaching him a lesson and letting him experience the karma brought by the rule. bwahahahaha! ^__^;; i just hate people who takes and takes without ever giving anything. i might help but i will give a limit to it.
but hey, we don't know if he really did forget about what you were asking or if he has valid reasons for not doing it, so first, give him the benefit of explaining himself first. if you didn't like his reasons but he is truly sorry, then that's the time to decide whether or not to help him. i mean, help him but ask him to do your request. if he is not sincere, forget about helping him. ^__^;;
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
30 Jan 08
i dont think i should give him the benifit of the doubt and explain, im sure he will just give me fake reasons so he can get the files he needed from me. i never stop texting him about those files for i needed that too. so what is the reason for forgetting it.
this does really makes me feel bad that now that he needs a file from me he dont even have the nerve to face me. he just let his wife be the one to go to my place and ask for the files he needed. thanks for the response atleast it is giving me time to think and to decide what is right.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
21 Feb 08
wow. i didn't know he's such an azz. i would have been furious if i were you and i wouldn't lend him whatever it is he is borrowing. he seems like a person who only wants to take and take but never give and give. "ano sya sinuswerte"?? so what did you do roni??
thanks for the BR. ^__^
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
22 Feb 08
i text them that if he needs the file he has to pay just like i did, i payed someone to make me my files. aba kuripot pa. no reaction. there is nothing i can do with him, he is the one who started it. dava?!
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@noriko (1254)
•
30 Jan 08
if you feel like not giving him any files then dont. it is your right. you are my friend and i know how kind you are, but this people dont realize that. they are not worthy for you to call them friends.
if he comes back to your house tell them they have to pay just like you did, you paid the person who made those files for you and now that he is asking a copy then he has to pay you too.
for the old file that you gave him forget about that i know you can find somebody else that can do that for you.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
30 Jan 08
wow, sounds like kuyashi ne, hai. wakarimashita. thanks for the response
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
29 Jan 08
oh dear, this sounds like your friend is taking you for granted. if his wife came and asked you, then you could have mentioned casually that you had left another file with him and he had not returned it yet. and that you were waiting for it and would really appreciate it.
perhaps if he honours his promise on that previous copy for you, then you would be happier to help him back as well. people should not always be expecting to take and never give.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
30 Jan 08
yes and some people has the nerve to take and take without even giving. thanks for the response
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
29 Jan 08
Maybe you could get into a deal with your friend... He will give you the 3 midi files you asked him to edit and you will give him the 4 midi files he is asking from you. But if he continues to take your friendship for granted and pretend as if he did nothing wrong, then do not do him any favor... By the way, why not remind him about the 3 midi files? He might just have forgotten about it. *wink*
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
30 Jan 08
i dont think that he has forgotten that. from the time i gave him the midi that i wanted him to edit, i didnt stop texting asking him when will he finished it. at first he just text back with he is not yet finish but he is in the process, then after a few days when i text him no response. i text him regularly asking if he is finish then nothing happened.
