Friendship life expectancy

@LouRhi (1502)
Australia
February 16, 2008 4:21am CST
I went to lunch the other with a group of women who had been friends for over 20 years. Now I know lifetime friendships are not unheard of but this was a group of 5. Which struck me as amazing. That 5 people could remain so close for such a long time. Personally most of my friendships seem to have a stopping point. There is never any argument or bad feelings people just tend to drift out of my life almost as quickly as the drifted in. So my questions for you today are What are your longest friendships? or are you like me and more of a loner? Or do friends pass and go in your life?
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7 responses
16 Feb 08
That is a very amazing group. I'd love to have a group of friends like that. My problem with friendships is that I always have such high expectations that I'm always disappointed. I keep hoping the next one will be my best friend for life, no matter how much I tell myself that it's not a realistic expectation. The pressure it adds always seems to hurt the relationship. I'm finally learning now to see that most people don't have one best friend who's their soul mate. We all have different friends for different things and no one person can complete us. Most people in your life will come and go. We can hope for more, but we shouldn't be too disappointed when it doesn't work out. We're all only human.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
16 Feb 08
Yeah I was pretty amazed by this group as well, and slightly jealous! It is just so strange how some people are life long friend material while others fly by in the night. Thanks for sharing
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• United States
16 Feb 08
I have been best friends with my best friend for 24 years. I feel fortunate. We cannot believe how much stuff we have gone through together. It will be funny to be little old ladies together. God willing...
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@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
16 Feb 08
You are very lucky to have each other. It is amazing what friends can go through together. Thanks for sharing
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@gemini_rose (16193)
16 Feb 08
I am more of a loner, I have never held onto friends for very long, not fallen out or anything, just that we moved on in life and just lost touch. Sometimes when I think of the friends I have had I think, how did we lose touch, its strange. I dont really mind though, I have a friend that I see down at school times when we drop and pick the kids off, and we go for a coffee once a week and to be honest thats enough for me. Im not one for living in friends pockets so to speak. I also have another friend who I dont see anymore as she moved, but I know she is always at the end of the phone if I really need her and she knows that I am there for her too and that too suits me, we might meet up once in a blue moon!
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
16 Feb 08
Yes gr I hear what you are saying. It is strange how humans are generally considered as social beings yet there are many of us like you that prefer to be loners. Thanks for sharing
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@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
16 Feb 08
I have had a very close friend with a girl I met in Primary School. We went our separate ways during our 20's but reunited in our mid to late 30's. We have been close friends, almost like sisters for 40 years. I am so grateful to have her as a friend. Just returned home from having dinner with her and her husband.
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@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
16 Feb 08
That is a beautiful story, thanks for sharing you are very lucky to have such a bond in your life
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@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
16 Feb 08
Recently i met a close childhood friend I met very 30 years ago at a neigborhood primary school. We were in the choir, and we had good time as kids! When we met, we sang our school tunes-true friends never die-mine have gone and come but there are exceptions to a few who have defied time and stayed true to me no matter what!
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@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
16 Feb 08
You are very lucky to experience this. Thank you for sharing
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• India
16 Feb 08
I have been maintaining friendship with five for more than 40years, 15 friends for more than 30 years,20 friends for twenty years. but I can't say they are all my close intimates. We move from place to place. Likewise our friends also migrate to other places. In our life we move with many and extent friendship to those who accomodate us. After migration, some continue to be in touch with us, others mark a stopping ponit. It all depends upon how we move with them and their response to our values.
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@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
16 Feb 08
That was the amazing thing about these women they were all close intimate friends, even though two of them lived a fair distance from the others. Yes I know all about stopping points in friendships! Thanks for sharing
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@martinha (631)
• Portugal
17 Feb 08
I have some close friends but some of them are my friends for about 8 years, others 5. I'm still a bit young so I don't have long friendship relationships. Some people just pass through my life, just like you said, they are friends but they move on with their lives and we almost never talk.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
17 Feb 08
Still 8 years is still impressive! Especially if you are only young. Even in my youth friends seemed to just pass on by Thanks for sharing