How do you face your stubborn child?

@Mamagee (392)
Malaysia
March 3, 2008 8:53pm CST
As a mother, what we need from our children is they obey us and make us happy. Every thing we do is for their oun goods. Sometimes i feel so frustrated when they are so stubborn. I never teach them to go against parent, and doing something without parent permission and many other negative things. Most of the negative behaviour they study from other children at school. We can avoid this at home but we cannot do the same thing at school.
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@KKKBsmom (1093)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I have to agree.... my girls go thru spurts of negativity... but we also have a little depression in our family and it comes out often. When they get depressed is when I see the stubborn ess and I just have to stand back and refraze what I have said to another way. Then I usually get what I want! LOL
@carolbee (16231)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Some of stubborness is inborn and some a learned behavior. We only had one child who was terribly stubborn but she's changed with age. Sometimes a child has a mind of his/her own and it's difficult to budge them. It takes so much time and patience. Some children are hardheaded when it comes to obeying their parents. Again, it takes time and patience. We raised three girls and it wasn't easy at times but I had to be consistent with my decisions or form of punishment for defying either myself or their dad. As a parent, commitment pays off in the longrun.
@eden32 (3976)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I don't approach parenting that way. I do want my children to do what's right & make good choices, but not simply because they blindly do what I ask. Some people are more stubborn than others, and that includes children. Stubborn people make changes in the world. Refusing to accept when things aren't right & bravely pushing for change. Sometimes, as an adult we may find that we have to go against the grain or what's popular to follow what we know is right. I don't take it personally when my child acts stubbornly. I respect his or her boundaries while explaining why the rules are the way they are.