im affected and sad about my friend's...

@vanities (11395)
Davao, Philippines
March 13, 2008 8:48pm CST
yesterday my friend as well as my neighbor had visited me and confide me about her problem..that was about his husband/partner..her hubby pack his things and leave and its been 4 days since he did not come back..the reason was ( to make the story short)her partner are having an affair...i know its just an ordinarily happening to some couples but i felt bad about it since i had known them for a while..and its until now that i had known .. or what i mean was the husband or the partner was previously married and my friend was the mistress after all...and they got one child..a girl..shes been asking my advice whether or not she can ask for financial support..or would it be proper that she will go to his office to ask for support since he leave without giving a word or whatever...im too was confused sinced its my first time to handle this one..what should she do? and what about her rights? any ideas??
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
16 Mar 08
Hello dear vanities. I am so sorry for this issue of your friend's. I think that she needs to ask for support from him since they have a girl of their own. The father of this little girl is responsible for the cost of the girl. I am so sorry to say that he is not a responsible man and husband. That is the very cause for his leaving the family without saying anything to the family. If he is such a man, I am afraid that he will do the same thing to his next partner. So it could be a good thing that he has already exposed his irresponsible side. Bless your friend and the daughter of theirs.
• China
3 May 08
Thank you very much for the best response, dear vanities. Good day.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
14 Mar 08
I think that your friend should push for financial support. She won't be doing it for herself but for her child. If I am in her case, I would fight tooth and nail to have the financial support my child needs. I don't want to confound the emotianal problems more by dealing with financial problems as well. At least, financially, I could rest assured that my child has everything she/he needs as a try to rebuild my life and pick up the pieces.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Mar 08
i guess your right...its the financial thats more important than emotional one..and think of the future of her child....thanks for the advice more power kababayan!!
@gemini1960 (1161)
• Philippines
16 Mar 08
Not sure of what comment i will give since im a man,and dont know the other side of the story.I dont want to be one sided.
• Bahamas
14 Mar 08
tell your friend instead of going to his office march straight to the nearest court house. he has a responsibilty to his daughter. as for your friend she should have known that if he was capitable of cheating with her, it was more likely that he would cheat on her. it's a unfotunate situation...even more so for their daughter.