Hands Off!
@whiteheather39 (24403)
United States
March 14, 2008 3:32pm CST
I gave a neighbor a ride in my car to the store I had just turned the motor on when she immediately lunged toward the dashboard and started adjusting everything. The air vents, then turned on the a/c, changed the airflow so I had an artic blast straight onto my face, changed the radio station, opened the window, etc, etc. I thought that was very rude. She could at least have asked my permission and I would have changed the controls if I felt it was necessary, which I did not! It was cool enough and I like my radio station.
When she got out the car the door did not close properly so she started to thump it with her butt so I walked round to see what the problem was and the buckle of the seat belt was jammed between the door and stopping it from closing..yikes. What would you have done?
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@Ldyjarhead (10233)
• United States
14 Mar 08
I think I probably would have let it go for now, but keep it in the back of my mind if she ever needed a ride again.
I might help her out again, but I'd be prepared to say something before she got in the car.
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@mummymo (23706)
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14 Mar 08
I think I would have exploded! How truly rude and inconsiderate is that? I would have been grateful for getting the lift and would never have started changing everything in your car, I wouldn't even have considered it! I do hope you said something to her sweety - I try to be polite and not argue with people but I really wouldn't have been able to bite my tongue if someone behaved in this way when I was doing them a favour! xxx
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
14 Mar 08
Honestly I was so surprised I did not say what I really felt as she is also someone who gets her feelings hurt at the drop of a hat.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
14 Mar 08
I don't think I would be offering her a ride anymore that's for sure. If that is how she treats other people's property then she can do it to her own car and not mine.
How well do you know her? I might have said something to her depending on how well I knew her. If I didn't know her that well and was just offering a one time ride, I might just bite my tongue and get the trip to the store over and done with and never offer again.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
14 Mar 08
I know her very well and I did say "let me do that" as she could not get the airflow just how she liked it.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
14 Mar 08
Hehehe---I would have shoved her out of the car
How rude..to put it mildly. I mean here you are doing a favor for a neighbor by giving her a ride and she practically takes over your car...I'm almost surprised she didn't insist on driving the car herself1--wonder if, when she visits someones home she starts moving and redecorating to suit her purposes--did you say anything to her as she was doing this?
How rude..to put it mildly. I mean here you are doing a favor for a neighbor by giving her a ride and she practically takes over your car...I'm almost surprised she didn't insist on driving the car herself1--wonder if, when she visits someones home she starts moving and redecorating to suit her purposes--did you say anything to her as she was doing this? 1 person likes this
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
14 Mar 08
Believe me that is exactly what I wanted to do.1 person likes this
@jeanne94668 (478)
• Philippines
18 Mar 08
by being nice, i would tell her that before she adjusts on things to ask me first. that is not being rude, it's just showing who has authority in that car. besides, she's just taking a ride to the store. and you should be a bit timid in moving in a another person's car. i just don't know why there are some like her.
@KrazyKlingon (5005)
• United States
15 Mar 08
I think making a few left turns at 50-plus miles per hour would have been a nice, rude awakening. Well - depending on the road & your tires, maybe not that fast. If she asks, that's when you say, "I am really a good driver. Just that messing with the environmental controls & changing the radio from my favorite radio station caused a few minor driving mistakes."
As for the seat belt jammed in the door, tell her she broke something by not paying attention, & that it would cost her (insert a number of dollars here).
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
15 Mar 08
I would have politely asked her why she was messing with everything. I would have then proceeded to tell her that I had things the way I wanted them and that if she thought it needed changed, she should have asked. I doubt that I would offer to give her a ride anywhere else.
thats for sure.. @sid556 (30953)
• United States
15 Mar 08
Knowing me, I'd probably have said nothing and just felt disgusted. If I ever gave that neighbor a ride again tho, I would tell her right off to keep her hands to herself and make sure that she shut the door properly when she got out. By then my disgust would have worn off and I'd be able to tell her what was bothering me with some humor. Hopefully that would end the problem and keep the neighborhood at peace.
@punkgurl73 (248)
• United States
15 Mar 08
I think that she acted very rudely,and no i would not offer her a ride anymore she could have asked about the radio and the air at least!adults should not act this way.did you tell her how you felt?
@gemini_rose (16264)
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15 Mar 08
Well you know what I would do, never offer her a lift again! Let her walk next time, how rude. I would have gone mad if she had touched my radio and changed my station, some people just take advantage of a friendly offer.
@idaantipolo (472)
• Philippines
15 Mar 08
I would have asked her politely to stop going through all the stuff inside my car, because it really is annoying for me. If she takes it badly, then I would pullover and ask her politely again to get off the car.
@GardenGerty (169439)
• United States
15 Mar 08
I would have reopened the door, moved the seatbelt, and shut the door correctly. And I would not take her in my car again. I have clients who fight over the front seat in the van when I am taking them places, and reset the radio, etc. I prefer, when the van is full and noisy, not to have one more noise, that is the radio or CD player.With one person, though, she could have asked, or just listened to what you had playing.On the other hand, most of them,my clients (and they are mentally handicapped, you know),take great pride in taking good care of the car. I do not know how your neighbor got so freehanded and rude.
@Darkwing (21583)
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15 Mar 08
I think I would have said, if she didn't mind, would she please leave your controls set as you like them. I would have told her I was cold, and that I liked the radio station of my choice. She had no right to start fiddling with things without asking you if it was ok... besides, you could have adjusted things yourself. As for trying to shut the door with the buckle of the seat belt in it, she could have done some real damage.
I don't think I'd be offering her a lift again, and if she comes out and asks, I would tell her that I would give her a lift but only on the proviso she doesn't touch any of the settings in your car, nor open the window without asking. Some people just have no consideration for others and their property.
Brightest Blessings.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
15 Mar 08
I dont think you will be offering this neighbour a ride again. What a rude person.
If I had a passenger that started adjusting the ac, etc, most likely I would say something if I was adversely affected. If the change in temperature didn't bother me I would keep my mouth shut.
Now the radio, that is even ruder. I would have just turned the station right back to where I wanted it.
@raydene (9871)
• United States
15 Mar 08
Well Doll
First I would have said
I really prefer that you
don't mess with my stuff!
I don't think it would
be at all out of line
but I do think she was.
You would expect that
behavior from a child
or even teen...
but adult...
crude!
If it were me she would
have seen her last ride in my car!
xoxoxoxoxoxo
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
15 Mar 08
i would have said please don't touch anything in the car without asking me ok?
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
14 Mar 08
How RUDE!! I have told her just how I thought of her actions and that she needs to ask to do something before doing it because this is MY car and I'm happy with the way things are! If you don't like it then get the hell out. I would NEVER let someone do any of those things to my car. For her to hit the door with her fat behind knowing the seat belt was stuck in the door is plain ignorance and she would be told something of that as well. Damn people like that! Ungrateful as hell! ARG!! She wouldn't get another ride from me again!
