She misinterpret me.
By ciades
@ciades (1623)
Philippines
March 16, 2008 6:38am CST
I have a friend who asked me if what i can say about the guy whom she like so much. The first statement that i told her was "the guy have a current girlfriend". And the guy that we talking about is also my friend. I know the guy first and been my friend for years now before she came.
So suddenly, my other friend told me that she mis interpret what i said. She interpret the words that i said to her. She said i came to that answer knowing that i like the guy too. Oh my, Its just makes me laugh. I just make a point there why i said that thing. Because i just want to aware them and just give her an idea not to force herself to that guy. And im just concern to her knowing that she just came from failed relationship. She hurt many times.
But, its no big deal with me. I know she want a word that could she like to hear with. Im felt sorry to her if she did not accept it that good. I didnt mean it too.
10 responses
@Amagnimo (635)
• India
16 Mar 08
Well, you are very good that you want to help your friends. You should not worry, as you do now, about anything that you didn;t mean to do and it happened.
But yeah, there's one saying:
Always know about what you speak, but do not speak all that you know. I mean here that you should carefully speak whatever you want to. Sometimes its not so good to speak everything. Ofcourse, you didn't do anything wrong in this case, but looking at the other things what you wrote, it seems that you don't think about waht you speak...so you should keep that mind!
:)
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@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
You said that you were a friend of her, and true friends say what your friends need to hear and not the one she like to hear.
In this point of view,i believe that you were just true to your friend. If she is really a friend of yours, she will understand.
It just show that when she admit that she just misinterpret you and feel mad at what you say is showing that a guy will destroy your friendship.
Hope both of you like different type of guy.
Correct me if i'm wrong.
You laugh because it doesn't affect you when she misinterpret it. Good for you.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
17 Mar 08
i know my freind. there are many misunderstanding in this circle. when you are friend with a person and you know the person whom she loves too.I have seen that myself. i was friend with one of my freind's GF. after some time there were misunderstnadings which made me mad. i am no more in contact as i knew it can only make situation complex
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
18 Mar 08
I would think the guy is mature enough to appreciate your relationship with him since you have known each other for so long. Since the 3 of you are friends, I guess the misunderstanding can easily be cleared. In affairs of the heart, may I suggest never let any misunderstanding grow. It will hurt all eventually.
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@jhoana_joey (616)
• Philippines
17 Mar 08
I can feel you're sincerity for your friends, if she misunderstood you just have patience to explain everything to her. Good luck.
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@2btrueinu (700)
• Philippines
17 Mar 08
Well she should be thankful that you tell her the truth. At least she is now aware what kind of guy it adore. You should now that guy very well you are also his friend. Maybe she misinterpret you because she can't accept the mare fact that that guy is .... Someday when she will found the truth she will tell that I should listen to you. You were a nice friend she did not appreciate your concern because she is already blind she can't see the real thing. What you did is right nothing to worry about she should be the one who must be worried.
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@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
16 Mar 08
Everything is fair in the name of love. In the 1st place, I think what matters is as long as the other party is not married I think your friend still has a chance. Besides, even if the other party may be attached, there may be still no guarantee that they will be together eventually.
I think you just do not want your friend to be unaware of the other party's relationship for fear that she might be 2 timed and be cheated of her feelings. However, as far as your concern is concern, I felt that you should not be over sensitive and could have advised her from another perspective. In life, you need to know that not all advices would be accepted, as the decision still lies with the individual concern. Some people may not heed at all and sometimes will need to learn things the hard way.
I think you should be a little broad minded here with what you advised to have avoided this unpleasant misunderstanding.
@idaantipolo (472)
• Philippines
16 Mar 08
Well, she asked for your opinion about the guy that she likes and you answered her. If she doesn't like it, then let her be. I do not think that she would listen to you in any way since It seems that she's made up her mind to get noticed with the guy she wants.
@heart143 (1202)
• Philippines
16 Mar 08
I admire you for being so honest and for your concern for your friend. I think you have done the right thing of telling her what kind of person she is falling for. You care for your friend and you don't want her to get hurt. Your friend is in love with your other friend that's why she became upset when you tell her bad things about the guy. Of course anything bad you say against the guy will definitely hurt her. But the truth really hurts. As her good friend, maybe you thought that it is better if it is you who will hurt her than that guy. Because if she will be fail again in her lovelife, she will be hurt again and you don't want that to happen. You just did what a friend should do. She was hurt by your words but I'm sure after some time, she will realize that you are telling the truth and you are doing that for her own sake.
@my_january (967)
• Philippines
16 Mar 08
You can sort it out with your friend. I am sure she will definitely understand what you mean with those words that you said, when you explain it further with her. You have a good heart that you even want to protect your friend from heartbreaks because you take in to consideration that she was from a failed relationship. What happened between the two of you is also a little learning on your side- the next time she asked you a question, you have to be direct in giving answers so she will not misunderstand what you said. You take care. =)
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