Clothes given to my daughter now what?

@TriciaW (2441)
United States
March 25, 2008 7:49pm CST
It was very sweet of my daughter's friend to bring over clothes to give to her. They out grew them so they brought them to us saying they are still going through more clothes and will bring them over later. I went through the clothes and there were some small boys clothes that were too little for my daughter and some that were way too big for my daughter. My daughter has dwarfism so she won't be growing into them anytime soon. So now what do I do with these clothes? I am not talking about just a few outfits we are talking about a very large garbage bag filled to the brim. We live in a very small town so they would know if I gave them to anyone else. Would it be wrong to give them to others? Of course we said thank you but now what should I do? I don't want to be rude as it was a very nice thing for them to do. I know they have at least 3 more bags coming. Help!
4 people like this
14 responses
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Gently worn kids clothing - There's nothing wrong with used clothing. If it looks decent then why not?
They were given to you and your daughter so they're yours to do as you please. So I would give them away to the kids who can fit into them and won't mind hand me downs. Or you could take them to the salvation army or goodwill store or even a homeless shelter. I'm sure the people who gave the clothes to you know that there is a possibility that the clothes won't fit or won't be her style so by all means, do as you see fit.
1 person likes this
• Australia
26 Mar 08
Sorry if i am repeating what others have wrote but i would say thankyou for the generosity keep the clothes that would be the next size up and then politely suggest giving the rest to a charity as say she has enough and for the ones that do not fit either keep them for some dolls and ask if you could give the rest to charity yourself or when u go away for a weekend or that put them into a lifeline bin.
1 person likes this
• United States
26 Mar 08
I would tell them thank you. Find some church or organization and give them to charity. I am sure that they wouldn't mind. Or have a garage sale and give the proceeds back. There are a lot of charities out there. Maybe you have some friends who can benifit from the clothing.
1 person likes this
@tessah (6621)
• United States
26 Mar 08
i dont think theyd object to you helping another the way they helped you considering some of the clothing wasnt something you could use. in fact, id be pleased that more people would be aassisted by it.
1 person likes this
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I would go though and keep what you can use and when they bring the other bags, just politely say that you are very thankful, but these clothes won't work and if they would like to give them to someone else or if they would mind if you donated them to someone else..
@mrsbrian (1951)
• United States
26 Mar 08
first off I would thank her for her nice thoughts , than I would ask her if she minded if you donated what didnt fit or you could not use to a needy family or maby several families? that way many can benefit.
1 person likes this
@selby70 (283)
26 Mar 08
I would do what the previous person has said, I know they have been given to you, but I have given things to people to find out after they have sold them at a car boot, toys for their children not nice.So I would say thank you but the ones that dont fit do you wish them back.
@selby70 (283)
26 Mar 08
I would do what number 11 has said.
@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I would talk to the person who gave them to you and tell her that you are able to use a couple of the outfits and see if she wants them back or if it is ok for you to pass them on to someone else who will use them. I am assuming that she gave them to you to get rid of them. It is nice that you can use a couple. I think telling her that if she doesn't want them back you have some people that can use them is fine.
@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
26 Mar 08
Like so many others have said I would thank the family for their generosity and ask them if they would mind if you donated the clothes that did not fit to a charity. You mentioned you live in a small town and the clothes might be recognized. I would wait for the three other bags to come, then sort them out and pack up those that did not work, then I would take the clothes to the Salvation Army, St. Vincent de Paul or whatever used clothes store there was in the next bigger town and donate them.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I would be right up front as to save any hurt feelings - thank them for their kind thoughtfulness and generosity and explain that there are several pieces that will not work for your child - and ask them if they would like those back or would they like you to pass them along to others that might could use them.... and they want you to pass them along - either do it through private friends or donate to a thrift shop dealy.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
26 Mar 08
its very nice of her friend. just tell them that now at this moment you need no more. you will definitely ask them wghen you again need some. say them clearly and let them donate those clothes that are not her size to others, they will also feel good about it.
@chrysz (1603)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
My kids are also using "hand-down" clothes from my sister who also got it from my mom's friends. There is nothing wrong disposing them to other people who could and would use it but for the sake of courteousness, tell your friends that some of those clothes no longer fit to your daughter so you think it would be better if you would also give to other people who could use. I don't think your friend would be offended with your gesture since the very reason maybe for giving you those clothes is for your daughter to use. Since your daughter can;t use it anymore, just give it to other kids. Keep those that are still large on your child coz she might be using it someday, no matter now long it will take for that someday.
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I would give back to them the ones that don't fit and thank them very much for their thoughtfulness. I can't imagine them being offended. If t hey don't fit..they don't fit. I'm sure they just want to see them go to someone who can use them. If you don't tell them the truth then you are going to get over-run with clothes that y ou have no use for.
• United States
26 Mar 08
That was very thoughtfull of the girl. If I was you maybe you could donate them to the salvation army or good will. If not then maybe you could sell them in a yard sale and the money you get from them your daughter could go get her own new clothes. Its a tough situation. Or you could let your daughter wear them for dress up play? Then atleast they would get worn even if they are to big. And Im sure she would love it. Whatever you decide will be fine.