Calling all children of divorce

I find it hard to believe anyone in this day and age would be so naive as to think it will not affect the children, and I have to tell you I also have a major problem w/ this woman having "booty calls" while her children are home. Tis not my place to judge but that alone will totaly screw up those kids heads. I am child of divorce 2 times, and from that thru counseling I have learned that was the reason I chose men that would not be good to me, for I didnt feel I deserved it, why would I both my dad's left me, it had nothing to do w/ mom cuz as a child every thing is about "me". Then as an adult we understand it had nothing to do w/ us but by that time deep down we already have our image of ourselves planed out. I have been divorced 2 times and it had taken me 10 years to figure out and find a signaficant other that hasnt thrown up "red flags" as the counselor called them. Now after dating this man for 2 years we plan to be married and I'll tell you, it scares me still, but as he said he is here to say and when my oldest son told him you are just another one of mom's b'friends so stay out of family biz, he replied, I will marry your mom and be the family biz. That comment of my son came from no "booty calls" in the home or even shows of affection around my kids but 4 boyfriends in 10 years, now think of how awful the coment could have been if I had done things differently. I dont see that there is a chance of saving the marriage,unless she is willing to stop seeing this other person and the husband is willing to truely forgive her but one shouldnt have the children be the cause of staying together unless the children can witness the love of their parents, she has to get a grip and give the kids time to adjust to no dad at home before she brings someone else in, or there could be major problems with her kids in the future.

I am a child of divorce and she con't say it won't effect her children because it will in a huge way.You figure them kids have had their father around their whole lives now its gonna be like maybe every weekend or every other and that can be hard to deal with.Most divorcing parents will one time or another say something bad about the other parent which also takes a toll on the children,it makes them confused,and then they will blame there selfs no matter what the parents say.Take it from someone who knows,divorce is never good on the kids.

of course it has and effect. children, whatever age they are in will always feel the pangs of a divorce, or parents deciding of leaving each other for good.

I am a child of divorce. My parents divorced when I was 10 years old and it hurt like hell. However the pain I felt eventually went away. Divorce may affect children in different ways depending on things like the child(rens) age(s), but it does affect them nonetheless.

If she really thinks that a divorce won't affect her children, she really is in denial! My parents divorced when I was 16. Even though I was older, it was still hard for me. You don't know who to align with...and parents will usually try to make the children choose a side to take. That is completely wrong, of course, but parents do it. I divorced when my child was very young. I don't think it bothered her until she was older. She always had the rest of the family, including both my parents, to interact with. When she was older, though, she decided all on her own that her Dad wasn't worth knowing. I never told her that, either. I know how hard it is for a child to be made to choose sides. But, no, this lady is oh so wrong!

I recently went through a hellish patch with my hubby, the one thing that stopped me from throwing him out straight away was the effect I knew it would have on my children. I knew without a doubt that it would be the worst thing for them to have to go through. The way their behaviour changed and their personalities changed while the bad things were going on was enough to tell me. I still loved him and even though what he had done was awful, I knew that I could try and work through it, and so I did partly for me but mainly for my children. They are now back to their secure happy selves and that is fantastic!

Well i can say it does affect the kids my kids have had to go thru it. And well their dad left me for an 18 year old he had never met. She moved in with him and the kids we so upset by it all. I had my current husband move in but not for a awhile. It took along time for the kids too except that we were not gonna get together again. She need to be careful her kids are not stupid they will figure it out. My kids still have some anger about him leaving me like he did and they are 8 and 7.