Can you trust a cheater?
By djmarion
@djmarion (4898)
Philippines
April 7, 2008 10:50am CST
Infidelity is one of the most devastating things that can happen in a relationship. When one partner cheats on another it leaves lifelong scars. Sometimes those scars may not be evident until later in life but nobody escapes infidelity unscathed.
Being young doesn’t make it easier to deal with cheating. In fact, the innocence of youth and first love can make the wounds of infidelity cut even deeper.Being cheated on by a person you love and trust is incredibly hurtful.
Cheaters may genuinely care for the person they cheat on but they will always put their own needs and desires ahead of those of their partners. Cheaters are selfish. They don’t want to end one relationship in order to pursue another. They want it all and don’t care about the cost.
If you ask a cheater why they cheated they will most likely try to blame their infidelity on the relationship, the circumstances surrounding the affair, the person they cheated with or even the person they cheated on. They rarely blame themselves.
Most cheaters know that what they did was wrong and feel the need to justify their bad behavior. They will have a variety of excuses ranging from impairment to something lacking in their partner, but in the end they cheated because they wanted to. Try as they might to give a good reason for their behavior they rarely have one.
Given a situation when you were cheated by your partner and he wants to win you back, would you give in again? can you ever trust a cheater?
4 responses
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
7 Apr 08
Never. I could never trust a cheater ever again. I've done that before, and hoped each time I forgave him, he would change. He never did. I learned that once a cheater, always a cheater. It doesn't only become evident in relationships, it also shows in his attitude at work. He can cheat on anyone, even his own employers.
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@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
8 Apr 08
cheater is kind bad personality in person and i agree with your opinion to describe more about cheater. but still in my perspective, i would like to give second chance to any cheater cause i believe if they already realizing about what they did was wrong, they surely want to fix it up
@quiltedblessings (1066)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Thankfully, my husband has never cheated on me. But I grew up in a house where one parent cheated on another. I can say this, whether it is the girl or the guy who cheats, they will cheat again if the opportunity presents itself.
If my husband were to ever cheat on me, poof, he's gone. Do not pass go, do not collect 200 dollars. Done. Finished. I will not do to my kids what my parents did to me. Cheaters don't change typically. Yes, there is the exception to every rule, and everyone has to make their own decisions. So all of this is just my opinion.
