Years in Getting Married

@julyteen (13259)
Davao, Philippines
April 24, 2008 10:01am CST
to all couple out their, i am asking this simple question: how many years should a relationship take place before getting married? some favor 2, 3, 4 and a maximum of 5 years after that male should proposed to the women ant they will be getting married. in you experience (to couples) how many year your relationship takes before getting married? to all singles like me how many year now with you gf/bf? is their any plan for getting married this month, this year or next year?
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7 responses
@cbreeze (1207)
• United States
25 Apr 08
The years are of no importance. It is based on what the two people want out of the relationship. One may never want to get married and the other may want to. In which case somebody needs to make a decision about where their relationship is going and should it continue, which may be a painful road. If they both want marraige then they set the timetable. I think it is important for people to let their partners know what their expectation is of the relationship so that there are no misunderstandings. You can't just assume marraige is where people are headed just because their in a relationship.
@lynboobsy11 (11345)
• Philippines
25 Apr 08
For me I don't look at the years, on how many years they have been on a relationship. The important thing is they can handle the marriage life. If they are mature enough to handle some difficult trials in having a life time partner. If they are financially stable and can sustain the needs of having a family. Then they can married anytime.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
24 Apr 08
I'm not really sure. It all depends on how long you both knew each other. some people know one another for years before getting married. Some meet each other and get married right away. I knew my husband for three years before we got married.
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@jesbellaine (4156)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
For me, years is not really important. As long as both of the parties is ready to settle down for good then they can marry each other.
@Galena (9123)
24 Apr 08
I would say it would be unwise to marry less than five years into the relationship. when we get married next year, we will have been together for nine years. which is a little longer than I would have expected it to take, but for some years now we've known it that it was a case of when rather than if.
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@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
24 Apr 08
It depends on the couple. My parents knew each other only 6 weeks. I dated my ex-husband 5 years (I should have learned) and I knew my current husband about a year before we married.
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• Canada
24 Apr 08
I don't think there is a right answer to this question. I think people should get married when they are ready. Some people get married after only a few months, and they are happy. Others do the same and they are miserable. Some people get married after a few years, and they are happy, others do the same and they are miserable. It all depends on the couple.
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• Canada
7 Jun 08
Thanks for the best response.