Men and taking advice

By twix
@teison2 (5924)
Norway
April 27, 2008 9:20am CST
My man is painting the firewall right now. I am usually the one that does all the painting around here, but now he just has to do it. He asked me how he should go about it, and I tried in some length to tell him what tricks I have been using to make it look the best. He appeared to listen, but he just did it in his own way. Half way through he discovered that his method did not give a very pretty result so he asked for some input. HÆ??? I have told him how I'd do it, he ignored me, and now he wants input? I tried once again, still he does not listen. Sp now he is mad because I will not cooperate (?) and because he did not do a good job. And I know that after this he will not do any more of the much needed paint jobs because he is no good at it. It is so frustrating! He would have done a great job if he would just consentrate and make an effort. I am not some kind of nazi picking on him either. He is free to do this however he likes, but when he askes me I expect him to pay attention, and I expect him not to blame me for a poor result when he does not do his best. So, how are your men at taking advice?
2 responses
@mnflower (1301)
• United States
27 Apr 08
I learned along time ago you can tell me how to do something even if they ask, but they are men and they will do it there way no matter the outcome and it is our fault, it is just life not going to change...My whole family are professional painters and my man is a profectionist so i won't even attempt it..I do get advice from him tho and he shows me how to do it and maybe that would of worked better for you if you would of went out there with him and showed him how you did it so that you could see just how you did it, some time telling don't work, I know that is how it is for me,I need to be showed that way it sticks in the brain, just telling me is to easy to forget and result to doing it my way..good luck
@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
27 Apr 08
Thanks! I agree it is better if I show him, but unfortunately I am not able to. But I sat with him and explained as he startet out. I think he did understand it. We did a bit better on the second coat though
@nanayangel (7862)
• Philippines
27 Apr 08
Hi there teison! My husband and I usually have honest discussion about things like that. Like if he doesn't agree, we talk it over and explain both our sides. But he's the one that's good in painting and stuff like that. Maybe just charge it to experience. Hope it won't happen again.
@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
27 Apr 08
Sounds like you have figured out a great way of doing these things I hope we'll get there too. I have just tried to explain how this session makes me feel. Hopefully there will be less yelling when he takes on the next coat