Self control and weight control
By sharone74
@sharone74 (4837)
United States
May 1, 2008 1:42pm CST
I am not by the stretch of anyones imagination obese or even fat. Thought at age 33 I will admit that I am fighting a marginally uphill battle with the bulges. My metabolism has finally begun to slow. For years I have been, healthy, active and fit. Now my life is much more sedentary as I work on completing my online degree and I work from home on the internet so I am not getting nearly the kind of exercise that I used to get when dancing. My bf is however very heavy. He is in that grey area between overweight and grossly overweight which is one step down from morbid obesity. He admits he does not like the figure he is cutting lately and hates photos taken of him from the neck down, but he doesn't want to have to give up any of his eating pleasures.
Part of his problem is that he used to be a lot more active. He played hockey all his life, he coached for his son's hockey team for years, while playing in the men's league and also scating as an official for the children's hockey league. So he spend hours every day on skates getting tons of exercise and keeping his bod rock solid. The son is now grown and doesn't play hockey and they shut down the ice rink out here so he doesn't play anymore either. He consciously now makes no effort to exercise and after about 5 years off the ice, it shows. I am trying to get him interested in exercise more so than food, but he is resigned to his big belly and is uninterrested in getting out and exercising just for the sake of exercising. I on the other hand and practicing portion control and self control. Which is difficult because I am home with all of the food all day long, but I have lost 4 of the 8 pounds that I had gained and when daddy took me out to buy a new pair of jeans the other day we accidentally bought me a pair of size 3 jeans instead of 5's but they fit!
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3 responses
@LilyPad123 (377)
• Singapore
3 May 08
Sharone in situations like this it is hard to get someone to execrise. Its like telling a child to stop eating sugary delights and asking him eat something sour. It would be even harder for your bf to execrise as well as it places more stress on his kness and other joints will high becuase of his weight. The best is to find some Carb-blockers or fat-blockers pills which actually work by blocking out the carb or fat being absorbed by the body. You can eat as usual but your body will not absorb the same amount of fat or carbs. Maybe after the weight loss you guys will be better motivated to do some excersie. But as always consult a doctor first.
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
2 May 08
Well, long post
but i would say little care of ur work schedule and little concious about ur intake keep u fit a way longer
33 is not an old age
or do u want me to realize that i am old tooo
u r ok, just eat normail food, no more dieting, no bigger exercise, just right food, no junk food or cold drinks
take care
u r ok, just eat normail food, no more dieting, no bigger exercise, just right food, no junk food or cold drinks
take care
@desertdarlene (8911)
• United States
1 May 08
I know a lot of people who are in your situation where you want to lose weight, but your spouse or significant other doesn't seem interested. It makes it really hard on you. Is it possible that your husband may be depressed? I don't want to make assumptions about you or him, though. Perhaps, he's tired or working too many hours. If you only bought healthy food would he get mad, or will he eat the food you buy? The only thing I can really say is not to put too much pressure on him to lose weight or he will resist and resent it. He might really like the way he is.
Good luck, though and congratulations on your recent weight loss.
