How would you handle this?

When my oldest was this age we had a similar problem. We grounded him and he didn't seem to care. So when nothing else was working his father came up with a plan. We asked him to sit down and right a list of his favorite things. We told him that we needed it for future reference and left it at that, he assumed it was for gifts. We asked him to write down, in order, his favorite toys and activities. Within an hour we had the list. His father then looked at him and said ok, now you have lost everything on this list until you earn each item back. For every 3 days that you follow the rules and abide by our wishes you will recieve one item on the list back starting from the bottom. If you break a rule or do not follow our directions then you will lose it all again and start over. It took a lot of patience and stick-to-it-iveness on our parts and it took him a long time to finally earn everything back. But it was worth all of it because he never pushed us to that point ever again. This was a last resort for us. We had tried all other methods first. But when you combine taking things away with a system of reward it does seem to work much better. At other times we have offered much less. We have made deals with our kids that if they can follow our rules for the day and get everything done then they can have the tv or gamestation for 2 hours that night. We have also done the one week of good behaviour for a weekend of tv and game privelages.

Most of the times its hard to discipline our kids, for we are also concern of their feelings. We dont want to hurt them. In your case, since your son is almost 11 years old already, maybe he will understand if you will explain to him heartily, why you are doing that. At least he will understand which to priority. Watching TV can be done anytime as long as all the important things are done already. Good luck!

When he is grounded from the tv, I would make sure that he isn't in the room that the tv is on. We don't watch tv here because you tend to not get anything done. Try the house for a week without. I know you don't want to punish the others for his behavior, but maybe offer them something special. But I think the biggest way through this problem is spending a good week or two where you are constantly watching him and making sure he is nowhere near the tv. This is time consuming and as a parent I know you have LOTS of other things to do. But if you can be consistent for a period of time, it does pay off later.

Do not allow him to be in the same room as the TV while the TV is on. Make him go to his room or in another room while the TV is on.

I think I could help you with this one since I was once 11 years old and also was once glued to the television. just like your son, it came to a point where I wasn't doing anything around the house because I was glued to the so called "idiot-box". My parents immediately acted on it and took the television away for a month until I finally came to my senses. And yes, it did work. Maybe this way could help you and your kid.

i think your child should not be in the living room whiles the television is on his has to me in his room to be learning or making his homework , so after that in the evening he can be in the hall to watch news in the hall with all the family so that what he doe snot under stand in the country he can ask the family because mostly children learn from the news because they need to no what is happening in the country

Letting other people watch TV when he is punished from it completely defeats the purpose of what you are trying to do. It would be like "oh, you can't eat the cake, but just taste the icing." You either need to have a no TV while he is in the room rule or have him stay in his room when others are watching TV.