I remember
By kun2349
@kun2349 (23381)
Singapore
May 7, 2008 2:59am CST
I remember a few years back, i was madly i love with this one gal.. Till the extend i can dun go to sch, just wanna be close and near to her.. That time it happened that she was just working at the boutique next to the cafe where i'm working.. Thus i can always hang around at the cafe, waiting for her meal breaks till the time she finished work and i will send her home..
We had alot of fun during those times and we were behaving more like than actual couple, but in reality, we are not.. Because she has a bf.. But i dun care about all that at that time, i just want her to have agood life and happy, be there for her always..
One day, we had a serious argument and her bf came down the next day to pick her from work.. The tension was risen from the moment her bf saw me but luckily nothing happened.. But she was stressed.. Then all my frenz and manager around me keep telling me to give up on her as she's attached and i should save myself from the unneccesary heartache.. But i din heed their advice.. Instead i go deeper into it Till now my frenz all that refused to talk to her.. I was very upset but i din care about her feelings, i carried on as normal.. I even got scolded and even banned from hanging around at the cafe, got scolded by her supervisor also..
SO 1 day i decided to give her up, and i told her that face to face, she was happy because she thinks that i'm also wasting my time.. But while on her way home, she started crying and her supervisor called to ask wat have i told her.. I told her the truth..
In my heart, i was thinking, did i do the right thing?? But after so many years had passed, i believed i did the right thing.. And soon after, she also broke up with the bf, and she admit to me that she did like me in the past.. BUt too bad, evrything is over.. And i'm also happy with the way i'm now.. haha
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
casper, even this post is already a year old... i still like your story! hehehe
while reading your post, it seems like i am watching soaps here...hehehe and reminding me some of those things in the past...
its really true that we just appreciate things when they are gone...maybe your girl that time is too confident about your feelings for her...and thus she never thought that you can actually give her up...is she the same age as you?
i am glad that you are good now hehehe...are you dating new girls now?
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
25 Jul 09
lol =D U are finally here, or rather, u finally found your way here ^_^ hehe 
YEah, it's an old post and that goes to show i really dun start much discussions huh.. lol =D
Well, most ple whom knows about my story, will tend to have the same thinking like u do, because it's so unreal and they dun believe it's happening in real life too.. BUt that's a fact and it did really happen.. hehe
I guess she's kinda confident, because i'm always by her side, and have given up alot of things for her.. She can feel it but then she cant take any actions for she's already attached as well ^_^ BUT she did not expect me to do the unexpected, when i'm so much in love with her.. Even i myself, is quite shocked and surprised after i told her that 
Yeah, she's the same age as me.. And that 'relationship' happened about 7 years ago ^_^ Right now, i'm single.. Why?? Interesting in dating me huh?? lol =D
YEah, it's an old post and that goes to show i really dun start much discussions huh.. lol =D
Well, most ple whom knows about my story, will tend to have the same thinking like u do, because it's so unreal and they dun believe it's happening in real life too.. BUt that's a fact and it did really happen.. hehe
I guess she's kinda confident, because i'm always by her side, and have given up alot of things for her.. She can feel it but then she cant take any actions for she's already attached as well ^_^ BUT she did not expect me to do the unexpected, when i'm so much in love with her.. Even i myself, is quite shocked and surprised after i told her that
Yeah, she's the same age as me.. And that 'relationship' happened about 7 years ago ^_^ Right now, i'm single.. Why?? Interesting in dating me huh?? lol =D@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
25 Jul 09
haha =D BUt too bad, it sounds more like a fairytale for most ple, without a good ending
Well, being in love tends to make one 'crazy' temporary for our world will only have them in it, and no one else matters.. Thus, over the months and time spent with her, i'm almost like being so much into her, that i actually forgot myself..
Actually, i told her i'm giving her up, twice.. First time, i din manage to succeed, because i cant bear to let go. BUt when i told her the 2nd time, i was really determined.. I was not hurt, but i just really wanted her to have a better life with her then bf ^_^
Well, being in love tends to make one 'crazy' temporary for our world will only have them in it, and no one else matters.. Thus, over the months and time spent with her, i'm almost like being so much into her, that i actually forgot myself..
Actually, i told her i'm giving her up, twice.. First time, i din manage to succeed, because i cant bear to let go. BUt when i told her the 2nd time, i was really determined.. I was not hurt, but i just really wanted her to have a better life with her then bf ^_^@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
yes i found my way here...i am looking for a good topic and i found this one from you! hehehe
well i know things like this can really happen coz i've been in this kind of situation also...(but not exactly the same as this...hehehe yours is more cinematic!) but i just can't believe that you actually do those things...i think when you are in love you can do everything for the girl you love and that's so sweet! hehehe and because of that, you just give her a feeling of too much security and boost her confidence! but do you really think about that decision before you tell that to her? or it just came out to your mind and decide to tell it to her? was that really in your heart? or you are just hurt and want to hurt her too?
dating you? huh!
but i just can't believe that you actually do those things...i think when you are in love you can do everything for the girl you love and that's so sweet! hehehe and because of that, you just give her a feeling of too much security and boost her confidence! but do you really think about that decision before you tell that to her? or it just came out to your mind and decide to tell it to her? was that really in your heart? or you are just hurt and want to hurt her too?
dating you? huh!1 person likes this
@angelia286 (2029)
• Singapore
16 Dec 08
Aww.. many of us were caught in this type situation at least once in our lives. This is the part and parcel of life. Anyway, was this the post that you were telling me about - the one about your past love life??
You seem to be someone who would give up everything for the one you genuinely love. Why not give her a chance now, and give yourself a chance too by chasing her now since she does not have a boyfriend at this present moment?
Right or wrong? Who can decide? There is never a right or wrong in any forms of relationships. And in this case, you acted on your own feelings, so is it considered right or wrong? Sure, she has had a boyfriend while you were chasing her. So what? Is she married? So in this case, is what you have done considered right or wrong?? 
It's hard to decide.
Morally, it's considered to be wrong, but legally, it's considered to be correct. Don't worry too much on it! As long as we do things with a clear conscience, nobody can ever say that we are wrong! That would be a different story if she is a married lady, but she is not!
There is a sort of love called letting go. And I believed that you had done so by giving her up, thinking that she will be happy. Glad to hear that you think that you have done the right thing then. If that's what you think, then yes, you had done the right thing! 
If only she had the courage to make a decision then to leave her boyfriend, it will be a fairytale ending. Alas, things turn out to be the way it is now because she did not do so. At least you have done all that you could at that point of time, and you won't be living in regrets ever. The regrets is hers to bear.
Well, take care! And don't think too much about it. What's past is past and will never come back ever again!
It's hard to decide.
Morally, it's considered to be wrong, but legally, it's considered to be correct. Don't worry too much on it! As long as we do things with a clear conscience, nobody can ever say that we are wrong! That would be a different story if she is a married lady, but she is not!
There is a sort of love called letting go. And I believed that you had done so by giving her up, thinking that she will be happy. Glad to hear that you think that you have done the right thing then. If that's what you think, then yes, you had done the right thing!
If only she had the courage to make a decision then to leave her boyfriend, it will be a fairytale ending. Alas, things turn out to be the way it is now because she did not do so. At least you have done all that you could at that point of time, and you won't be living in regrets ever. The regrets is hers to bear.
Well, take care! And don't think too much about it. What's past is past and will never come back ever again!1 person likes this
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
16 Dec 08
Finally u found this post i was talking to u about.. lol =D I just started to part 2 to this.. hehe ^_^
Well, she's attached now, as far as i know from a few yrs ago.. What has happened are all in the past, and i dun harbour too much hope now ^_^ ALl i know is that she's happy and content with her life, and i will be equally happy too ^_^
There are no rights or wrong in any relationship, but only those whom are involved in it, will truly understand it.. 3rd parties will only tend to side protect us if we were to tell or complain to them.. In a relationship like that, seeing is definitely not believing.. Because it can be misleading to alot of ple.. Thus, i dun really care about what's right or wrong, but only her feelings..
That's why in the end, i chose to give up on her, and let her choose the path she wants ^_^ Though in the end she did admit she likes me too, but she also added that, she's not suitable for me.. Well, what can i do?? I guess at that time, we just enjoy each other's company, and to me, that's my true love in my life ^_^
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
19 Dec 08
LOL =D Because this post is started so long ago, and i though nobody will gonna respond to it anymore.. lol =D Thus, i started a part 2 and forced this post out again.. hehe
Yeah, now thinking back, it might seem to be like a fairy tale, maybe also, i was young at that time and being simple minded.. lol =D But still, right now, i still cant really figure out how did i managed to do that?? hehe
Tempt me to like u?? lol =D That sounds so weird.. Like is like, tempting is of no use.. haha ^_^ I can be tempted to other things of u, but not love.. It's a completely different thing and feeling.. hehe ^_^ Is it too complicated for u?? haha
But what matters most is that, it's all in the past, and i can only look forward.. WHo knows u might be the 'lucky' one in my future.. lol =D So what's your verdict on my love life?? Touching or funny?? lol =D
@angelia286 (2029)
• Singapore
16 Dec 08
This post is sure well hidden from me! Lol, was it your intention to hide this from me? If not for the person who had replied to this discussion before me, I doubt that I would even have found it. Haha, I am just dumb at times. =X
Your story sounds just like those Korean dramas - whereby it's just like a fairytale. Do guys like yourself even exist in this world where everybody else is just thinking of their own interest? You are just unbelievable. 
Can I tempt you into liking me too? Hehe, just kidding! But seriously speaking, in future, lucky is the girl who will manage to capture your heart in the end. ;)
Well, so long as she is happy, you will be right? That is what love should be - pure and unconditional! Do take care alright! =D
Lol, was it your intention to hide this from me? If not for the person who had replied to this discussion before me, I doubt that I would even have found it. Haha, I am just dumb at times. =X
Your story sounds just like those Korean dramas - whereby it's just like a fairytale. Do guys like yourself even exist in this world where everybody else is just thinking of their own interest? You are just unbelievable. Can I tempt you into liking me too? Hehe, just kidding! But seriously speaking, in future, lucky is the girl who will manage to capture your heart in the end. ;)
Well, so long as she is happy, you will be right? That is what love should be - pure and unconditional! Do take care alright! =D1 person likes this
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
yeah, too bad you're already over her. if i were the girl i would be blaming myself for not quickly making up my mind before. her boyfriend must have been so nice. if not, i think she would have broken up with him after she realize that she has feelings for you. but she didn't break up with him so i guess her boyfriend is so nice that its hard to hurt him by breaking up. life is so complicated. ^__^;;
of course you did the right thing. it was just a little late that you did it. 
if you have done it earlier maybe the girl wouldn't have developed feelings for you and she and her boyfriend could still be together. you must have realized earlier that you couldn't expect her of anything since she's already committed. and being nice to a committed person is not such a good idea, it doesn't give a nice image. but who could blame you, you're just following your feelings. its hard to ignore it. i know. ^__^;; good thing you woke up, maybe it was late but, better late than never right? life is so complicated.
if you have done it earlier maybe the girl wouldn't have developed feelings for you and she and her boyfriend could still be together. you must have realized earlier that you couldn't expect her of anything since she's already committed. and being nice to a committed person is not such a good idea, it doesn't give a nice image. but who could blame you, you're just following your feelings. its hard to ignore it. i know. ^__^;; good thing you woke up, maybe it was late but, better late than never right? life is so complicated.1 person likes this
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
3 Jun 08
yeah.. It's always late than never.. JUst take it as a life experience for me, a rare experience that dun happen to every relationships ^_^ Wat's more, love is not about possessing that person, but allowing her to be happy with the one she really loves ^_^ As far as i know, her present bf is really quite a good catch, but with no marriage plans just yet.. haha
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
27 Jul 09
So how is she now..?
Is she attached, engaged, married or still single? Maybe you can just meet her up and catch up with lost times. Who knows, if something might be in the pipe? Hmmmm, love works mysteriously, bro.. you've gotta go for it sometimes..
If not, then make it a part of your growing up memory. I saw Growing Up on TV just now, was trying to catch some deep sleep. Then I watched it, those days reminded me of my school crushes, LOL..
If not, then make it a part of your growing up memory. I saw Growing Up on TV just now, was trying to catch some deep sleep. Then I watched it, those days reminded me of my school crushes, LOL.. 1 person likes this
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
27 Jul 09
If i'm not wrong, she's already married now, because the very last time i heard from her, she's about to get engaged!! haha =D Hopefully, it does come true for her though ^_^ hehe
Catch up on lost times? I dun think so, for seeing her again, might bring back all my feelings for her once again, which i took so long to put it all down So right now, i'm already quite contented to have it in my memory and nothing more.. hehe
GROWIng up?? lol =D U do watch that as well?? haha =D I dun really appreciate that when i was a kid, but now i do.. BEcause i finally understand what the thing story is about.. haha =D PLus, my main character in it is Jamie YEo, as well as andrew seow.. haha =D
Catch up on lost times? I dun think so, for seeing her again, might bring back all my feelings for her once again, which i took so long to put it all down So right now, i'm already quite contented to have it in my memory and nothing more.. hehe
GROWIng up?? lol =D U do watch that as well?? haha =D I dun really appreciate that when i was a kid, but now i do.. BEcause i finally understand what the thing story is about.. haha =D PLus, my main character in it is Jamie YEo, as well as andrew seow.. haha =D1 person likes this
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
28 Jul 09
There's jamie yeo as well, in the show.. Irin gan is way too skinny for my liking, and she's no longer acting i guess.. hehe ^_^ I like 'Gary' for his role in the show as it's kinda contradicting role.. haha =D
As for my gal, it's already been ages, and that whatever left are just memories ^_^ Just like all your crushes and ex gfs, i'm sure they do leave u some beautiful memories, just like first love ^_^
As for my gal, it's already been ages, and that whatever left are just memories ^_^ Just like all your crushes and ex gfs, i'm sure they do leave u some beautiful memories, just like first love ^_^@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
28 Jul 09
Indeed she's a babe..
Bro not Jamie Yeo, I think it's Irene Gan.. though I agree both of them look the same, ha.. and Gary, ha.. the gangster with a big heart. I love that show, yes, because I love oldies type of movies and dramas. There is something musky and nice about them. 
What a babe.. don't know what happens to her now; never really see her acting anymore. As for the lady whom you have fallen in love before, I sometimes always feel that first love or those first badge love don't really last too. Most of them are just add-on to our memories. I kinda guess she's married now.
A lot of my exes and crushes are married already too. How time really flies.
What a babe.. don't know what happens to her now; never really see her acting anymore. As for the lady whom you have fallen in love before, I sometimes always feel that first love or those first badge love don't really last too. Most of them are just add-on to our memories. I kinda guess she's married now.
A lot of my exes and crushes are married already too. How time really flies.1 person likes this
@MinamiKesh (527)
• Philippines
7 May 08
Yeah...love does to be like that and those and these..**
we AREn't really sure whose gonna be with us till the end of our life's
sometimes we may feel that this IS REALY IT the love we''ve been dreaming of..BUT still destiny is not along side by our feelings as for the moment....we cannot deny the fast that even time can't tell...our faith for LOVE to come...##
everyone..is paired and molded by our DEARest GOD at the right time to find each other PERFECT..!!
Hope your love this time will last a Lifetime:)
@jam@
~enjoy life~ simply amazing****
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
7 May 08
Yup.. but the memories with her are unforgettable.. Though it's just a short 9 months, but it seems like years to me.. hehe.. We meet each other everyday and talk on phone everyday without fail whenever we get the time..
Even so, she's still not mine.. I guess, it's destiny..
@rashmi1979 (112)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Love is a beautful feeling and it finds a way to stay in teh coziest corners of our heart forever! I am glad that you two had a good time together..whether things worked out or not. I feel you gave all your affection, innocence and sincerity to the friendship while it lasted and that according to me is the most important thing.
I am impressed that you beared the brunt of many people for this friendship and still went on through it...against all logic and reason...:) May be you did have a small hope somehwere that it will work out..that you two were destined to be together..I appreciate the fact that you had the courage to follow your heart and believe in your own self. Thats a very rare quality!! It does land us into heartaches quite often but then whats life if we didnt live it to the hilt!
You seem like a really nice guy...I wish you all the best in life! May you find your soulmate soon :o)
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
31 Dec 08
Yeah, u are right ^_^ Love does not come easy too.. ANd if it's true love, everything we do will come naturally and that includes protecting her, shielding her, at the expense of hurting oneself ^_^
Since the relationship is now over, everything has been put to an end, and i can only have memories to fall back on ^_^ Whatever it is, the world is round, and the world is big, there will always be someone out there whom i will meet ^_^
HAppy new year to u, and have a great year ahead too ^_^
@vermillion (887)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
I do not believe in destiny nor the saying that you are already paired with someone and the only thing to do is find that person. I do believe that if you are in love and happy with the person, then go for it., do whatever it takes, but be sure that you are also loved in return. If not, move on. And that's what you did and you should be proud. See, now she's the one with the regrets. Too bad for her(^^,)
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
3 Jun 08
I dun think she regrets.. Though she admitted that she do likes me too, but she din really say will be with me too.. PLus, i think her love for me is not as deep as the love she has for her then bf.. THus, i believe she has nothing to regret about ^_^ hehe
@vermillion (887)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
Anyways, she still didn't deserve you before, up to now. Stay happy(^^,)
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
7 May 08
It's real.. I take it as funny because i wun have this experience ever again.. Let it be a happy memory for me instead of something i cant get by.. Though it's a serious relationship, but when thinking back, u will find it amusing at times.. Such as, how stupid m i to believe wat i saw that she was happy when i told her i wanna give her up, but yet her heart was hurting deep inside.. This is one thing till now i still dun understand..
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
7 May 08
Yeah if you are happy now, you did the best thing. She already was attached and she didnt give it up, but when you said good bye, she broke up with her bf, as well as admitted that she liked you? Yeah i guess its now of no use. Just be ur self and find some1 ,w ho loves you for who you are, and just straight from the heart.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
7 May 08
it's only months after she broke up with her bf, den she admitted to me that she did like during that period of time b4 i say wanna give her up.. In saying i wanna give her up, i din really succeed.. It was up till almost 2years, then i succeeded in really giving up everything.. haha
@lonelylucie (194)
• China
9 May 08
you're something! the way you facing the fact just enlighted me a lot...thanks for sharing your experience with us and take care...
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