You know that's where it's headed anyway...

Hi foxyfire, I have no words of advice, just a wish for happiness. May you know more love and joy than you ever thought possible. Blessings.

You sound like you have a wonderful friendship still and at least you know that the reason the marriage didn't work initially was because you were both very young and perhaps outgrew each other at that time. I don't want to give you false hope but I do know a couple who married young, grew apart, got divorced and after a ten year break away and failing with any new relationships ended back together and married again. Every relationship is different though so I really can't say if this will be the case for you and your ex. I suggest having the conversation about his joke and say why wait til she moves out get rid and lets make a fresh start and see what his reaction is, perhaps he said jokingly to feel out the situation and see your reaction as he himself may have a fear of you rejecting if he asked in plain English. Whatever the outcome if you remain friends thats brill if you turn back into lovers thats fanstastic. All the best. There is certainly a mix of emotions going on here eh! Questions I would be asking myself 1. Am I IN love with him or do I Just Love him. 2. Will I always feel like the plan B and will that make me insecure therefore affecting any chance of it working again. 4. Will it make me happy. You don't say how long you have been apart, whether children are involved or not and what type of relationship you had when you were together as a couple and other than the marrying young factor if there were another other reasons it failed. I hope the situations resolves for you and you become clearer on how you both feel. Good Luck. Ellie :D

I am not telling that it is not at all possible to again be together. but i think your answer lies in the discussion yourself.you should not be plan B or just second option. try to understand what is there in hois mind. if he actually wants to continue, then its OK.

You're probably too young to remember the old song that goes "Love is lovelier the second time around" but that just might be the perfect theme song for you guys. The lyrics go on with "much more comfortable, the second time you fall". I think it's something that happens pretty often, two people fall in love when they're very young and immature and when the going gets a bit rough and the romance wears off a little they bail out but then some are fortunate enough to keep the door open just enough to perhaps get a second chance once they're grown up more but still young enough to have much of their lives in front of them. What I'm trying to say, I guess, is if you think it feels right this time you should go for it. I've participated in enough of your discussions here to know you've been going through more stuff than anyone deserves to in your current situation so it seems like a pretty safe bet that you'll be happier with your ex than you are with your current SOB. Good luck, no matter what you decide! Hugs! Annie

Foxy, You need to ask yourself some serious questions. 1.Do you still love him, or is he more of a friend to run to with problems? 2. Will the problems you have in your current relationship stop, or will you be taking the baggage along with you when you leave. 3. Is this relationship what you really want or a safe haven for the time being? The old saying the grass is greener on the other side is BS Foxy, I think what you need to do is get out on your own for a change. Don't jump into an old, or another relationship until you know what you really want. I used to be the kind of person who thought I had to have someone in my life to be whole. I jumped out of one relationship into another, and have been regretting the choice since. I still had all the issues I had before, compounded by the new relationships issues too. That has been 23 years ago, I made a decision that I would stick it out in this marriage instead of running when the going got tough. It has not been an easy road, but would it have been easier to pack and leave, then I would probably have made the same mistakes again. I love my husband, but it has been a tough battle. I do believe history repeats itself, and I feel like until you get your own life straight, and know what you want for yourself, you would be making a big mistake going back to a relationship that has already failed once. Let him be there for you as a friend, but don't jump right back in. Love yourself so you can love others.

Hey, foxy it sounds like that you are in a bit of a situation here. If you don't mind me asking I would like to know why the relationship that you are in isn't working? Also What were some of the main reasons that you and ex broke up for? Besides the just being to young part. I mean like what was the straw that broke the camels back? Just wondering, Surrenda

I don't like to burst bubbles, but if it were going to happen, he would not be waiting for his girlfreind to leave, he would be breaking off the relationship with her.. You know that you can do whatever you want to do to be happy, but as for myself, I think that I would tell him to hit the road and take her with him.. When someone sees that you can't be run over in a relationship, sometimes they quit trying to run over you.. I do hope things work out for the best for you..

I once heard it said that true happiness comes from within ourselves, and not from others or other events or circumstances. I could tell from your words that you do still love this man very much. I think that right now time is your best ally. This may be your second chance at this relationship, or it may be your chance at freedom so that you will be ready for your next relationship.