Gossips, Gossipping, Gossipers

@BYOLA2871 (4371)
South Africa
May 18, 2008 7:05am CST
People do gossip about a lot of things .It happens at home, church, at work, etc.In fact it happens in almost all facet of life you can think of. I understand that gossip is a way of sharing views and facts but unfortunately it can have a negative effect when people spread secrets, rumours and lies about others and worst of all it can become an addictive behaviour if care is not taken. I don’t enjoy it when people spread negative news about others so I really don’t allow this attitude around me and I appreciate it that my friends respect my view on this.Yet,it happens everyday that there is one gossip or the other about somebody,somewhere.How do you handle the issue of gossip?
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5 responses
@checapricorn (16049)
• United States
18 May 08
I tried to ignore it especially if it is not true. I don't need to defend myself and try to avoid people who have that habit, but if I believe that I need to confront the person for some reason, there are also moment where I will confront directly to the person for spreading gossips about me! I hate it too and as much as I can, I don't entertain people gossiping, I will just say really, o yeah, expressions like that and if people is sensitive enough, he/she will recognize if I am no longer interested with the topic!
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
19 May 08
yes the best is to either ignoire it or just make sure the person about whom they talk about is available so it does not become a case of you encouraging them
• United States
19 May 08
I agree BYOLA! ignoring is the best rather than adding more fuel on it!
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
23 May 08
I agree that it would be dangerous for people to talk about other's secrets without paying attention. I prefer to keep my mouth shut. My point is that I might know a lot of things, but that's not necessary for me to show others how much I have collected. Thus basically their secrets is safe in me. When somebody is talking about this kind of stuff, I can listen but I may not give any comment.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
23 May 08
yes it shows reliability when we know so much about other people"s secret yet talk so little about them ,i agree with listening and passing no comment its better to listen than to say thinhg s that will destroy others
@Elixiress (3882)
23 May 08
Gossip really doesn't bother me. When I was at school, I was always gossiped about some was based on truth other stuff were lies, but after a few months of it, I became immune to it, if they have nothing else better to do than talk about me then I feel sorry for them. It is quite interesting and funny to listen to, but that does not mean I take it all seriously, because as with Chinese whispers it is passed around, changed and made to sounds worse than it was, that is if there is any truth in it.
@jonesy123 (3949)
• United States
18 May 08
Lets face it, you can't escape it. You either have the option to join in with the possibility to clear up any false rumors being spread, or to walk away and ignore it when the gossip starts.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
19 May 08
wow good talk you just gave here,no matter how much you try gossips have sort of come tpo stay the only two options are either you ignore it or join in and set the records straight just like you suggested.thanks and good thinking.
@stephcjh (32303)
• United States
18 May 08
Gossips, gossipers and gossiping gets on my last nerve. I have dealt with that alot in the workplace outside of my home and it cause me to quit my jobs that I had. People drove me nuts with it instead of doing their job, they would come to me all night long. I told them several times that I did not want to hear it but five seconds later they would come to me again and ask me if I want to hear the latest. I work at home now and try to stay away from these types of people.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
19 May 08
well,you cant possibly isolate yourself from people because of gossips,its come to become part of our lives but the truth is i will not allow myself to be dragged into some slighting gossips about other people especially when its at work