how can u handle a problem child?
By cutie143
@cutie143 (215)
Philippines
May 21, 2008 8:11am CST
i have a friend who has a so called problem child. Her son is about 23 yeras old who prented to attend school for many years. Little did she know that its been a long time that her son did not attend classes but still ask money as payment for his tuition fees and allowances. The first she caught him, she gave him chance to correct his wrongdoings but unfortunately, he still do the same thing. would you still give him another chance to finally make things right after he had ruined the chance you have given him before?
2 responses
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
28 May 08
Well, there must be an existing problem with his son which his parents do not know about. Parents should follow up and check the whereabouts of their kids. Surely, it is always good to give another chance but know what the problem is. Why he is acting that way. If the problem is already identified, find solution and give support. Scolding and punishing would not help this problem. Understanding and love for the erring one works best.
@bubblyapple (2653)
• Philippines
22 May 08
i wouldn't even try to think of the reason why he is doing what he is doing (the problem child). if your friend ask for your advice on this situation, tell him/her that the best thing to do is cut all ties with the son. with cutting ties i mean, don't give him money for any reason, don't give him food, don't give him a place to sleep.
he is old enough to be responsible for himself and giving him all his needs just makes him feel that he doesn't need to do anything because he has a parent who can support him all the way. by cutting him off, he would be forced to be responsible for himself.
i know, your friend would think, what if he would not be responsible and just ends up on the streets. that is really a dilemma but if he/she wouldn't try this, how would the son learn a lesson.


