how can u handle a problem child?
By cutie143
@cutie143 (215)
Philippines
May 21, 2008 8:16am CST
i have a friend who has a so called problem child. Her son is about 23 years old who pretended to attend school for many years. Little did she know that its been a long time that her son did not attend classes but still ask money as payment for his tuition fees and allowances. The first she caught him, she gave him chance to correct his wrongdoings but unfortunately, he still do the same thing. would you still give him another chance to finally make things right after he had ruined the chance you have given him before?
3 responses
@canjo13317 (396)
• United States
21 May 08
no offense, but i had to laugh when i first read your topic. you see, at 23, he no longer is a problem child....he has graduated to a deadbeat son. he needs to be pushed from the nest. when and if he isn't attending school, he should be working. at least part time. she is not doing him, or herself, any favors by enabling his laziness. trust me, i was once that deadbeat son..sort of. all it took was a good swift boot in the behind, and a reason to take a little pride in myself, to get me going. good luck to "your friend". and welcome to mylot!
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
29 May 08
canjo, I can understand this situation because this does not happen in the US. It happens in another country like Philippines. Well, even me myself, this kind of mother is pampering her son. If I were her? I will leave that son alone to decide for himself. Look for a job!!! I will just assist him but not to the extent of spending everything for him like a little baby.
He is old enough to support himself, although I would still help but, he should work. As to giving another chance? yes.. but not for me to spend for his education anymore. He has to work for it.
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
29 May 08
cutie, tell your friend to stop pampering her son. He is over 18 and is already matured. He is not a little kid to depend his parents for his education specially that he is just fooling around? Second chance? well, ok for me but he has to work not depending everything from me. That If I am the mother.
Good luck..
@Kierstal (142)
• United States
21 May 08
If it were my son, I would give him a second chance, but not a third. Everyone messes up sometimes, but if you do it twice in a row, chances are you're not really trying to change, and therefore is just using you. Personally I think it's a waste of time, energy and resources to keep blowing money and effort on someone that is simply taking advantage of you.
