What do you do when your wife is a spender?

@Bebs08 (10685)
United States
May 23, 2008 9:30am CST
Well, I mean, when a wife spend the money unwisely. some husbands are having problems with this issue. I am a wife but I evade spending beyond what we can afford. I even go to the dollar store so that I can save a penny. How did some husbands put up with the wife who are spenders? do you have any idea? I have some friends who have these problems and it's hard to get rid of. what did you do then? thanks for the ideas.
6 responses
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
23 May 08
Bebs, you have wise spender and foolish spender. A wise spender is like you. The foolish spender now, she buy all what she does not need. Some man who are money conscious will watch a woman before marrying her. I have friends who change overnight because the husband can afford it. I tried and talk to them because it is not what you earn is what you save. Some husband will becomes annoy with it and when the money runs out well she is on her own. In time like this one have to watch how you spend.
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@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
23 May 08
That's right!!! you should watch very carefully where you money goes. That's a good idea when you try to observe first how a lady spend before marrying her... You are more wise to have this idea. LOL Thanks for replying
@Margajoe (4718)
• Germany
23 May 08
Maybe someone can tell me what I have been doing wrong all my life? Men are always costing me money!!! The one I got now is looking for a job. We have bill's to pay and he thinks everything will get better by itself. hahahaha! Take care, have a nice day.
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
23 May 08
What?? you mean man is the one spending too much in your case? oh!! that's awful!! it will drives me nuts!!! Tell him to work and earn so that both of you have enough money to spend. Good luck.. thanks for the reply.
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@Margajoe (4718)
• Germany
26 May 08
Thanks. I would like some good luck. Wednesday morning he has a date with a new job. Hope all goes well. If not he wants to work in a cafe. Normally no problem, but the woman that owns the place is a spoiled berate who always gets her way. She uses people, she used to use me too. She makes you feel sorry for her, and you automatically feel bad when you really want to go home. Cause she needs you so much... In the meantime you must still pay for all your drinks and food. She got me twice, I said no MORE! She uses her best friend too. Well I hope he gets the job Wednesday. It won't be good for our relationship if he keeps working for her, especially when he is working for free!!!! So that is enough complaining for know. I feel better. Thank you, take care.
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
27 May 08
Oh!! really? I hope your husband would get that job on Wednesday.. Good luck.. thanks for replying..
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@rookiekan (883)
• China
24 May 08
i suppose husband should tell her the sense of saving money.and it's better investing enough money on other region where could money produce money than spend money on useless commodities.what's more,,,husband and wife might keep their own money in bank in case spouse spend too much that affect the life quality.
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
27 May 08
Oh thanks for sharing your ideas. Have a good week.
@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
23 May 08
In a relationship, either husband or wife is a big spender; the other half should suggest and find an amicable solution. Otherwise, there will be problem growing in long term. It will be wise to open two accounts, one is a joint account, and another one is personal account under the name of non-spender. So the big spender is only allowed to spend certain amount of money weekly or monthly on the necessary items or stuff. The rest of the money goes to the personal account so that it can be used on the holidays; special treats, emergency or unexpected expenses and so on.
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
27 May 08
Very good idea.. I like your suggestion. That is a good thing to do. Good points. Thanks for sharing.
@excellence7 (3496)
• Mauritius
23 May 08
I think I would have had a serious talk to her and make her realize the importance of money...
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
23 May 08
That's right!! that's the best thing to do I think. I hope wives should understand this and not be offended. thanks for the reply.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
23 May 08
I can honestly say that I am the spender in the relationship. But so is he. I get money to buy food and for certain things that he wants. He will either give me the money up front or reimburse me later. With the lifestyle that we have and how we spend our money we don't have to worry. He makes more than the average person so we can live like this. He doesn't want me to work and because I can't work he gives me his money to spend. It has been agreed on from the beginning when I stopped working do to medical reasons. Some women I have found are over exesive spenders and they live beyond their means. I do not agree with this. We have a close couple friends that live like this and I can't see how they are going to make it to the say the least.
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
23 May 08
Oh!! good for you. that is very good that you have an agreement from the beginning of how you will spend the money. That's cool!!!! Thanks you for the ideas you shared.