Tips on How to Get your Girl (Warning: a bit lengthy) Part I

@selece (2357)
Philippines
June 5, 2008 10:07am CST
Ok, please note that these are all based from my experience and my own point of view. I hope these would be helpful to you guys. I'm single too, by the way, but I have my reasons for that. I also have proven these ideas and consulted some female friends about it. So.. here... Have fun reading. 1. "Swallow your pride and draw out every bit of courage you have." - I think that it is important to be humble at all times and throw away your pride when the situation calls for it. Girls wouldn't fall for guys who show off or someone who never admit his mistakes. Also, if you have something to say or do, say it. Don't hold it back if it really comes from the heart. If you are doing it out of sincerity and you really love the girl, then there is nothing wrong about saying what you truly feel. You'll look even more stupid if she sees how you try to hold back. They prefer guys who have the courage to stand for themselves. 2. "Sing for her" - yes, it is very effective. If she has a thing for you too, she'll appreciate it even if you sound like a frog croaking under the heavy rain. If you are just starting to get to know her or the other way around, presentation is the most important thing, not your voice. Be creative, think of something that would sweep her off her feet. Don't overdo it though, you don't want to make her feel humiliated or so. One should know his limitations and capabilities. Be brave. 3. "Greet her goodnight and good morning" - make this a habit. She'll eventually get used to it to the point that she feels a bit incomplete if you don't greet her for a single day. It is important to remind her that someone is actually thinking of her the moment she wakes up and before she sleeps. Whether it be a text message or call, it would be appreciated. This is a good way of making a mark. A call weighs more so make sure to call her once in a while to do so. Again, don't overdo it. 4."Spend time with her, go out - a date" - try to set up a date every once in a while. With her consent of course, if she doesn't want to, don't force her to do so. Try to ask her again some other time. Take her to a place where you can have quiet and quality time together. Talk to her, share your thoughts and listen to her. This is important: maintain eye contact... make sure you are really listening or paying attention when she has something to say. Maintain a good flow of conversation, fill in those gaps with comments or a few stories of your own. It is awkward when silence hits the atmosphere. Good luck. 5. "Walk/drive her home" - make sure to do this after going out with her. This is very basic. On certain cases, giving her a lift and driving her home is cool. Then again, focusing on your driving and maintaining a good conversation is something that not all guys can do. This is why walking is the best option for you. When you walk together, you have more time to chat and you can focus more on the conversation. Make sure to keep her away from the danger side of the road. And try to be protective at all times. Hold her hand, if it's ok with her. It is a good start in building up intimacy. I guess that would be all for now. Please feel free to discuss anything related about this here. I guess I've overdone it somehow? Hehe.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
You surely know how to court a woman... and make her fall for you as well!!! I am really happy just by reading your post and you even made me realize that a simple goodmorning and goodnight means a lot to a woman's heart. I will do that to my girlfriend now... I usually forget to greet her before she sleeps and after she woke up. That's my biggest mistake. :( T hank you for sharing this wonderful advice to every REAL MAN in mylot. AND FOR SURE... ALL GUYS OUT THERE WILL BENEFIT FROM YOUR DISCUSSION HERE. May God bless you and all of your loveones too. Again.. Thank you
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@selece (2357)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
I am deeply moved by your response. Thank you so much for appreciating it. I could post a part II of this thing hehe. I am happy to be of help... I want to be helpful to other guys as well but I think this discussion isn't too visible. You know what, I do know how to court a woman but I'm actually single and lonely right now. How ironic! Hehe! Thank you for your response! I hope more people would read this.
@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
Just try to tell your friedns about it and after seeing it... they will have an interest reading it. Good luck and I'll help you out as best as I could. God bless
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@selece (2357)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
Thank you! I'll tell my friends about this post. Hehe.
@richiem (3646)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
These are great tips. I actually have done all of this at some point of my courting escapades with my girlfriend. And she totally loved them. I have not been doing some of these lately so it is always nice to be reminded of them again. The tip I like most here is the tip #3, "Greet her". I guess it really counts to make her feel you are there wherever she is and to let her know that you are thinking of her. Thanks!
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@selece (2357)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
Hello, richiem! It's nice to continue doing them even once in a while. Thank you so much!
@richiem (3646)
• Philippines
25 Jun 08
I guess we have revived this discussion successfully. So what I am trying to do now is to try to attract more responses. I hope it would do you good. Have a nice day! I also think being funny at times when you are in front of her makes you look cute in some way.
@selece (2357)
• Philippines
28 Jun 08
Yes, we are successful in reviving this topic. And wouldn't have done it without you guys! Thanks! Oh, yeah, being funny is a plus, girls like guys with a good sense of humor. Someone who acts funny but doesn't look silly. Funny is different from silly, LoL I was planning on saying that on my part II. But I'm having second thoughts if I should make part II. Hehe. God bless! Thank you so much!
@joliefille (3696)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
It's ok lah. No prob. =) I just was able to check the comment you left on my profile a few minutes ago. I rarely scroll down! Haha. I like it too when a guy sings to me even if he's offkey. It's the effort that I appreciate a lot. =) And if he knows how to play the guitar too that'd be sweet. No, I'm not the type to fall in love with musicians. It's just one of the little things that endear us to a guy. You should add "kiss her in the rain". Hehe. As for number 1: "They prefer guys who have the courage to stand for themselves." -- I think this relates to you more these days. =)
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@selece (2357)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
Thank you dear friend. hehe! I see, most guys nowadays know how to play a musical instrument or two. I guess it's just a bonus. In my case it's the way I express myself and based on my experiences and my friends', I came up with that tip. Hehe. "They prefer guys who have the courage to stand for themselves" wah hahaha! You caught me there! I can do that, if I'm actually courting the girl. but I was caught in a different situation so I held back. But now... Guess what... I got her number already. haha. I met her this afternoon! Weeee!
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
23 Jun 08
Hello Selece, I love this!! If I could find a guy that would be willing to go through all of these things for me, he would have me eating out of his hand forever!! I hope all of the single guys read this and follow it, You will make some girl very happy!! Hugs, Tianna
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@selece (2357)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
Oh LoL. Eat his hand forever?! Hehe! Cute line! Hehe. Thanks for the response and thanks for recommending this post to single guys. hehe. I really appreciate it!
@raina21 (130)
• India
23 Jun 08
My God thats so long but u really know how to woo the girls.I think u must have done all this otherwise how do u know what the girls want and that too u've put in words so perfectly.Am I right?
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@selece (2357)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
Well, I warned my reader beforehand that it's a long post. hehe. Yes, you're right, I have done all these. And I was sincere in doing those things that I was willing to share what I know with people who might find this useful. Thanks for sharing and thanks for being my friend.
@mtsandeep (1586)
• India
23 Jun 08
I don't have a lover yet. thanks for those tips. It will be handy when i see a girl which i need to love. The problem i am facing when speaking to girls is that i will think in my mind " what will they think about me". The first point you explained here. so pride is the very first thing i should remove from my mind when talking to girls. but it's very difficult to do that.
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@selece (2357)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
I see. I hope this would help you somehow. Indeed, what I've said are difficult, easier said than done but that it what makes it more interesting and challenging right. Thank you so much! I really appreciate your response.
8 Jun 08
very nice :P
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@selece (2357)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
Thank you. ^^
@sunkissed (4331)
• United States
5 Jun 08
selece, this is a great post, and it is very true, these trury are things that a woman wants a man to do.Spend quality time with them, have quality conversation with them,being honest about how they feel.Taking them places.Thaking them home.Thanks for posting this.
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@selece (2357)
• Philippines
6 Jun 08
Thanks hehe. I got the idea when I saw the post "why are men such jerks?" by someone... Well, I'm a guy and this is something that would be helpful to others. Then again, no one's reading just yet. hehe. Thanks a lot for reading it and appreciating it. I'll probably come up with a next one depending on how people would respond to this.^^
• Malaysia
23 Jun 08
Hie Selece, that's a very detail and thoroughly thought through tips to woo a girl. In fact with those tips, you could actually woo any girls or ladies no matter what ageAnd I bet any girl would be swooned over in minutes by your full attention, caring and romantic ways. And I really like the #3 tip, not because of the singing but more to the confidence, boldness presented by a guy to woo a girl even when they are not good at it. Yes, we girls know sincerity when we come across it and flaws do not matter when we like a guy because he is THE ONE we like or love. And things could be improved over the time. Honesty and sincerity is very important. Besides that, listening and paying attention to us is not an appointment thing or when needed only. It should be continuously even when not together so we will have a reassurance that our guys will be there through the thick and thin at all times. So guys never underestimate the smallest act of caring, be it the power of touch, a smile, a kind word, or a listening ear or an honest compliment. All these does matter to us. Cheers and happy wooing!
@selece (2357)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
Thank you! I am very much pleased with your response. Thank you so much for taking time to read it and leaving a nice response. And, as far as I know, guys should still do this even if he gets his girl, some guys only do this only when he courts the girl. After that they tend to give less attention. Indeed, giving a girl attention and care no matter how big or small the act is, matters a lot. Thank you so much for granting my request and for sharing your thoughts on this. Cheers!
• Malaysia
25 Jun 08
You are welcome. Yes, I think some guys just like the challenge and once they could overcome that, it has not much fun in a way anymore And true too that every guy should continue even after the courting period, so to keep the sparks between them alive and kicking Best Wishes and Cheers,
@selece (2357)
• Philippines
25 Jun 08
True True! It's funny how I could say this stuff now when I can't even go near someone I like right now... Hehe. I'll tell my story through another discussion. Hehe.