slamming doors and spitting

I think its important to talk to your child and tell him that such action is not good. If it still does not work, then perhaps its is time to give him sort of a reward program like giving him things he like if he does not do those bad habits for a week or so. But sometimes its not so good to do this rewarding all the time since the child might just do it for the reward so you should weight it out properly. As for me, if my child does something wrong and he does not listen to what I say after talking to him, then I give him some punishment like no tv until he follows and behave. I do hope everything will be okay, but I think as your will grow he will soon overcome this things. But the important thing is discipline even at an early age. Giving them love and affection and setting a good example is very important.

Is he getting a reaction? Sometimes kids do things for the reaction or because they don't have the words to say what they want. If you know he understands his actions then there is certainly need for discipline. One way would be every time he spits at someone he has to give a favorite toy to the person he spit at. Of course you aren't really giving them the toy but let him think it. Keep the toys hidden until he stops spitting. I did this and you'd be amazed at how well this works, but be prepared for him to react at first. Sticking with it is important.

i don't have a child yet... but i think bad habits should be deal with the child as early as possible... otherwise, as the child gets older, it will be more difficult to deal with those bad habits... i think what i will do to the child is to give him punishment... the punishment will be taking away his privileges or things that he likes for a certain period of time whenever he spits or slams the door... that way, hopefully he will learn and will not dare to do it again in the future... good luck and have a nice day...

I would sit him in a chair for a couple of mins each and every time he did it. You have already told him that it is wrong and it didn't work so now you have to come down a little harder. It is hard for 3 year olds to have to sit still so only 2 or 3 mins. will seem much longer to him. good luck.

you need to use timeouts or standin in the corner whenever he does the slamming or spitting. and tell him why so he knows he must not slam doors or spit. be consistent and you will soon break him of that habits.

I didn't have to deal with the spitting, I had a bitter though. Currently my 12 year old is the door slammer. I have no idea why he does is and if you find anything that works please let me know. I just wrote an article about this so if I have any suggestions come my way I will pass them on to you. My middle child did spit on a child once and the child spit in his face and my son never spit again, I don't know if it was shock or his dislike of it, maybe it will happen to your sipper and he will stop. Good luck!

My sister's oldest son was a real go-getter when he was young. He still is and he's almost thirty. However, when he was 3 and 4 years old, she started having problems getting him to behave (i.e. to stop hitting her, to follow the house rules, to pick up his toys, etc.). Although, or maybe because, he was so intelligent, talking/explaining his mis-behaviour to him was not working. So ... My sister implemented time outs. But, because her son was so smart, sitting him in a chair for quite times did not work. He would talk, hum, look around ... generally keep himself amused during his discipline time. The solution she finally found was for him to take his time outs in their main floor half bath. And, although the getting him into the bathroom was a chore (long arms and legs that latched onto the door frame), eventually this quiet room method helped her get him to stop his unacceptable behaviors. You would think a bathroom would not work ... all kinds of things to look at, etc. But ... this room was small, only big enough for a toilet and a sink. And the window was to high for him to look out of when he was sitting on the toilet seat (closed toilet seat). And it was pink. And ... no one could hear him talk, at least that is what he believed. (In reality, we could all hear him talking ... to us, to himself, maybe he even talked to the fixtures. It was hilarious. We would stand outside the door listening to him have conversations with himself.) I think the reason this worked so well is that he really liked having an audience. In the bathroom ... no audience. In order for him to have his audience, he had to stay out of the bathroom. To stay out, he had to change his behaviour.

I don't have children but I have watched many friends and family discipline their children. I have noted that it is important to be consistent when rewarding/ punishing children. If a child knows that when he spits his favourite toy will be given away/ confiscated i will be an effective deterrant. Often this behaviour is for attention, so perhaps if you only give him attention when he is good then it'll inspire him to be better behaved!

Hello Been there,now a grandmother of three and my middle grandson is doing just the same,he was 2 in Feb this year. The best way for both things,totally ignore him,the more response from you the worse he will get,if he spits at a friend then say "I am really sorry" and on the quite say that this is how you are going to deal with this issue,,if they are a friend they will understand. It may sound a bit like bad parenting but high praise for good and low key for the not so good. Within a few days of doing this with my grandson he was bored and forgot all about it.

Hey, I feel your pain, my son was a spitter when he had just turned two...he will be 3 in two weeks. He still spits occassionally, and it's hard because time outs are not fun. I have to keep putting him back in timeout because he'll get up repeatedly and scream and cry. But I just keep doing it, and it has definetly improved. One thing I noticed is that children will go through phases and you will think it's the worst until they start a new phase...lol.