is it whining or educating?

United States
June 24, 2008 3:20am CST
when some one ask me what my health probs are i tell them.. that some times irritates people but i figure they cant understand what they dont know.. should i just lie and act healthy even though i have serious health probs? i dont think im whining if they ask.. the most i say when im not asked and if i bring it up i just say ive got health probs and thats it when there is like a topic on doing things that i may not be able to do.. some people get upset and act or even said that they dont wanna hear about my problems and that i depress them but then why would they ask?? what do they expect?? if they are so curious then they should be ready to hear what i have.. it just irritates the heck out of me.. i dont want to be perceived as a whiny person because i dont think i am but if your my friend shouldnt you hear my probs if i am worried about a test or something? i have to hear everyone elses issues so i dunno if they are being selfish or if i am really pathetic or something and of course it doesnt help that i am young and people dont think anyone young can be sickly so i have be told that i am making up everything grrrrrr.. if im faking it then i am awesome since i have dozens of docs agreeing with me..
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Tianna2
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
24 Jun 08
I would think hat your friends would want to know whats wrong with you. Its kind of surprising that they would ask a question that they didnt want to hear the answer too. I've never taken you as a whiney person because you dont do discussion after discussion about all of your problems. The next time someone asks about your illnesses, just ask them if they are sure they want to know. And no, you should never have to lie about your illnesses, just make sure that they are ready for the truth! Hugs, Tianna
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moonlitmagikchild
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
24 Jun 08
thanks that means a lot.. growing up people didnt know what was wrong with me and all the docs said i was fine so i grew up hearing that i was imagining it so now that i know what is wrong and then people act like that it makes me feel like they think im lying or something.. i wish people would stop asking in a way because i feel whiny unless they really want to know and are gonna understand.. maybe its because the people dont have health probs maybe?? so they dont get it?? i dunno.. just irritating.. one person said that she wasnt going to respond to any blogs about my health because she was sick of saying that she hoped i felt better etc.. that REALLY made me feel like i was whining.. but unless im crazy blogs are like diaries to some people (like me) so im writing to myself and if they dont wanna hear it they dont have to look.. grrr
desireeo
@desireeo (595)
• Philippines
24 Jun 08
why should people react like that? if someone has illness the least that a person could do is offer some sympathy and comfort. if not, then they should just leave the sick person alone. it's hard eough dealing with an illness. it is compounded by rude and insesitive people. maybe you should just distance yourself from people who don't understand you and focus your energy on people who really care about you. you're not being whiny. if you are, then it's your right to do so. health is a very improtant issue in life.
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moonlitmagikchild
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
24 Jun 08
what drives me nutz is some of the people that complain about not wanting to hear it are the people that ask me how im feeling every time i talk to them.. i tell them how i feel or if i am having testing or whatever is going on at the time and then they are like "well you are just falling apart" and then stop talking to me for awhile.. if you dont wanna know dont ask!!! im not a person to lie so when ever some one ask me how i feel i automatically cringe because who knows how the person will be after i tell them