heated arguments

Hello vanities, My husband is a few years younger than me and he can get offended easily over a small matter. As the man in the house, he wants to handle everything but he doesn't know everything pretty well like anything related to household expenses. So, I always help him to settle some of the matters. Due to his ego, he always think that I act like I am the one who control everything in the house and I belittle him because he's younger than me but I always remind him that, I am glad if he is willingly to take over every single matter in the house. Once we're arguing about the telephone bill and he told me that he would settle it by himself. So, I explained to him what he need to know, what need to solve and how much need to pay. He brushed me off. I asked him one simple question - When is our telephone bill due date? He couldn't even answer me without looking at the bill. But whatever it is, I respect him as my husband - doesn't matter the age gap. For me, as long as he is my husband, I will just obey him.

You are so cool and level headed person.. i could understand from the narration that you have given here.. It is only the mere give and take policy in life holds the relation ship together.. And certainly,you are a more matured and intellectual personality i think.. Take care friend.

hello vanities, i have never had a bad argument with my hubby coz we always do talk and we never have the same problem like yours (but i assume your relationship is older coz we are just about 5 years) coz we make sure that we communicate about anything specially if it involves big decision. i find it not fair to his part coz often time it is my decision that prevails coz he always make sure that he is making me happy and that whatever my say will be something that is heard except of course if its beyond reasonable (but that havent happen yet) him and his friends often tease me that i am one spoiled girl coz my man will just talk about me wether i am there or not and will always buy something based on my taste and just rarely his. i do the budgeting and we talk about the big expenditures coz we dont have much to spend really so we have to be really wise about it. anyway, there is only one time that i can remember that i get really upset coz he forgot what i said and totally do the opposite of it but that very moment that he did it we talked about it and he said sorry and that he is just busy at work so he forgets about what i said but he said all these time he is doing whatever that makes me happy coz i am his priority in life. after hearing those i came to realized that yeah, he always do what he thinks and feels will make me happy and will not do something intentionally to hurt my feelings. i think the most important foundation of our relationship is communication and the openness that we have for each other (beside love and respect of course). we also dont see the gender, age, color and other differences we have but we each other and our decision as ONE. btw, we have never have arguments that last a day we always talk about it even when we are just dating. if we cant talk about it we write it on email and or other form of communication. hey, 7 years is not a huge age gap. i feel it is just perfect beside age IMHO dont play much role in one's relationship it is how we really communicate, oh well just my own thoughts and feelings about your discussion. takecare