Talk To Me!

United States
July 1, 2008 12:01am CST
Am I the only one who would never say this phrase to the man I love? I was seeing The Bachelorette where DeAnna dismissed a guy because he couldn't open up enough for her.I just sat there and thought, there must me something wrong with me because I assume if a guy wants to tell me something, he will and if he doesn't, he won't.I don't need to probe his thoughts when he is just sitting there. Am I alone?
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5 responses
• Romania
1 Jul 08
sometimes things just can't be said as You want to say them.
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• United States
1 Jul 08
Exactly.And I don't know about you, but if I were pressured to talk when I didn't want to I would talk even less.
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• Romania
1 Jul 08
sometimes it's better to stop talking and start doing :) just joking :) In many cases it's difficult to talk and express verbally feelings that are hard to express.
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
1 Jul 08
No you are not alone. I saw that segment...I thought she was foolish for giving him up because you could see that he really cared about her. When you love someone and they love you then you don't need to know everything....every thought or need. I figure the same thing.....if and when they want to share that's great...but I don't like someone always probing me for every detail of my feeling either!
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• United States
2 Jul 08
Thanks for your response. I thought I was alone.
@spoiled311 (5502)
• Philippines
1 Jul 08
hi sarah! well, in my experience, my hubby is also not a "talker" per se, but he is an attentive listener. and although before he doesn't talk much, eventually, he has come to a point where he really gives me his opinion on things that i talk to him about. i guess it is a matter of getting your message across. he doesn't have to talk to you all the time. and when my hubby is concerned about something, he doesn't hesitate to talk to me. good day and God bless you1 :)
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• United States
1 Jul 08
Thanks for your response. I thought there was something wrong with me.I am glad to hear that he will come to you ans talk when he needs to.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
7 Jul 08
I like a man that can carry on a conversation not grunt, sometimes my ex husband would say as much as two words to me in a week, I don't like men like that,
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• United States
7 Jul 08
You know I wouldn't mind as long as those two words were kind.If he is only deemeaning me, it would be over.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
3 Jul 08
You're not alone Sarah. Problem is, this still exists in plenty of women. The men don't talk enough, the men won't open up, the men are shut in, the men focus too much on hobbies (and don't talk/pay-attention). Of course, communication is very important for a relationship, but forced or demanded talk... that is counterproductive. Sarah I don't know if you saw my gender double standards discussions (half satire, much experience)... but I highlighted a connundrum with the need for talk. If a guy doesn't talk enough he's a shut in, too shy, won't communicate, is closed off. If a guy does talk or talks too much... well he talks too much, or its perceived as being less masculine. In any case, this bachelorette situation just seems like another no-win scenario in dating/relationships if it plays out in either direction. The key is be yourself. If you are shy, you can either change it yourself, or be comfortable with the condition. If you are more on the taciturn side, then hopefully you'll find someone understanding: but more than that, hopefully you will open up when its right. If you are talkative, you can turn it down, or just accept your very vocal situation.
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• United States
4 Jul 08
That was the problem. The guy on The Bachelorette was being himself.I just can see making a guy talk when he doesn't want to. Or trying to get a guy to stop talking. I guess the best thing is to be with the guy that talks the correct amount.