Do you ever get the impression that...
By greysfreak
@greysfreak (1384)
United States
July 17, 2008 1:07pm CST
...People don't read your whole response before commenting, or maybe your whole discussion before responding.
Well, in my case I have found this to be true about the commenting on a few of my responses. It hasn't happened often, but it seems like how my responses were read or lack thereof, lead to a big assumption by the creator who then commented back. I did write back correcting them. It's just kinda awkward when people don't read things exactly how they are written.
Anyway, I'm not looking for input into my situation, I did what I could to correct their assumption and moved on.
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I just wanna know, have you ever gotten a reply that made you think the person either didn't read the whole thing, or they read it wrong?[/b]

Anyway, I'm not looking for input into my situation, I did what I could to correct their assumption and moved on.
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I just wanna know, have you ever gotten a reply that made you think the person either didn't read the whole thing, or they read it wrong?[/b]

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@stagewhisper (901)
• United States
17 Jul 08
Yes, I've gotten that. I've also gotten people who only read the subject title before responding (even though the subject title wasn't particularly relevant to the actual topic!). I just try to laugh and move on.
I have to admit though, if a discussion is longer than one page I might not read the entire thing- though if it's interesting enough, I do try to. 

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@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
17 Jul 08
LOL Thank you for your response!
Yep, I've see that around also, where the subject line will be something and then there will be someone in there somewhere ranting about something that has absolutely nothing to do with the body of the discussion! LOL Yep, it is kinda funny, but sometimes assumptions can be embarassing or whatever, especially when you didn't realize you were putting out a certain vibe.
Oh yea, I know what you mean, I try to read as much of a discussion as I can, and eventually all of it if I started it. But I think the key is to read what the starter wrote and make your response out of what you take from that. And for commenting to people who wrote to me I try to make it relevant and in context, and I try not to read between the lines, because once that happens, people tend to jump to conclusions, that aren't always true. LOL 
Yep, I've see that around also, where the subject line will be something and then there will be someone in there somewhere ranting about something that has absolutely nothing to do with the body of the discussion! LOL Yep, it is kinda funny, but sometimes assumptions can be embarassing or whatever, especially when you didn't realize you were putting out a certain vibe.
Oh yea, I know what you mean, I try to read as much of a discussion as I can, and eventually all of it if I started it. But I think the key is to read what the starter wrote and make your response out of what you take from that. And for commenting to people who wrote to me I try to make it relevant and in context, and I try not to read between the lines, because once that happens, people tend to jump to conclusions, that aren't always true. LOL 
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@scaflone8 (190)
• Philippines
17 Jul 08
We don't exactly know if its due to lack of understanding or lack of reading into the materials we post or it could be that our post struck them in a different way than what we expected them to understand. People have different views and different ways on how they react and how they think. Sometimes the message we want to project in our posts will not be understood the same way by all people. And other people are just lazy to read it all specially long responses like this one i'm making.
Take Care
~Vincent~
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@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
17 Jul 08
Oh, I agree, there are times when it's just misunderstood context, and there is laziness and not wanting to read it all and just commenting off the cuff. Me, if I respond to something I have read it all, so I can give a valid comment or response. If I am in a mood where I don't want to read that much, I usually skip it or come back later!
Oh, LOL If you think your response is long you should see some of my responses, I am like the queen of long responses when I get on a topic or discussion that I know a lot about or just something that really catches my attention.
Anyway, thank you for your response. It was great to read your thoughts on this.
Oh, LOL If you think your response is long you should see some of my responses, I am like the queen of long responses when I get on a topic or discussion that I know a lot about or just something that really catches my attention.
Anyway, thank you for your response. It was great to read your thoughts on this.2 people like this
@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
19 Jul 08
mommyboo- yea, I really like to try to keep up with responses. I may not always comment on everyone in the discussion, but I definitely try to choose a good amount of people to comment to, since they went to the trouble to reply to me!
But I do read every one of the responses I get, otherwise I wouldn't start the discussions! LOL I mean, if I was starting them for the money I would just stick with responding, because I make just as much when I respond to a lot than when I start discussions. That is why I only start them when something really gets to me, or I think of something when I'm looking at my interests listings!
And that's great that you make long responses! I love to read responses! I sometimes even read long responses to other people's discussions, when I'm really in the mood to read, other times I just put in my 0.02, give some plus ratings and go on my way. :)
But I do read every one of the responses I get, otherwise I wouldn't start the discussions! LOL I mean, if I was starting them for the money I would just stick with responding, because I make just as much when I respond to a lot than when I start discussions. That is why I only start them when something really gets to me, or I think of something when I'm looking at my interests listings!
And that's great that you make long responses! I love to read responses! I sometimes even read long responses to other people's discussions, when I'm really in the mood to read, other times I just put in my 0.02, give some plus ratings and go on my way. :)@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Hehehe... I like to see back and forth in comments, which is why I mentioned in somebody's gripe about people who start 12 threads and never come back to any of them I pointed out that I wish you could know when somebody at least read your response if they aren't going to comment. I for one like your long responses, Grey, I make some myself 

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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
18 Jul 08
Sure have.! It's obvious they can't have read the question you've posted when they don't give an answer that's in any way connected to that question..Example..I once wanted to know (I STILL do!) some other websites that accepted payment by a certain well known online payment service..
One person replied telling me how the service worked,like I was a noob that had never used the service!
One person replied telling me how the service worked,like I was a noob that had never used the service!
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
18 Jul 08
Thanks for the thought,but I'm still shaking my head over that response!
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@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
18 Jul 08
OMG.. that is crazy, when will people learn? Seriously. LOL If I knew of any sites I would certainly have told you, but there are only like 3 places I've used probably what you are talking about with, and they are known, so it probably wouldn't be very helpful. LOL 

@Drumman (305)
• United States
19 Jul 08
I think you're taking this whole thing too personal. I would have spoken against anyone, not just you, who gets everyone all excited and tries to spread a cute little story that sounds good but just isn't true.
I don't understand your math. I only replied to two of your discussions. I was going to leave it at one, but after that one you searched out my discussions and told me they were too childish for you.
Thinking I might learn something, I figured I would see what kind of adult discussions you were having that were above my childish ways. The reply to your deep, life changing discussion about MyLot star ratings was my second and last, until now, reply to a discussion of yours.
@twallace (2675)
• United States
18 Jul 08
I that has not happened to a discussion that I have started. But it did happen to me when I started a discussion and the person told me that I didn't read it good. So I went back and read it again to make sure I was not wrong in my comment. The point they were making I understood and my comment was part of their point and them my own. So I see what your talking about. I try to make sure that when I comment to a discussion that I understand what they are talking about. I felt bad about that when they person told me to read it again. Now I make sure that I read the whole thing and then comment after that.
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@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
18 Jul 08
aww.. Well it's great that you learned from that experience. I know humans make mistakes, so I really wouldn't totally be annoyed, it's just the people who repeatedly keep doing whatever it is, like not reading it very good. 

@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
18 Jul 08
yep.. i would have a post and i would use something as an example and they would answer the example and not the problem!! im like ummm.. thats not real.. lol
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@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
19 Jul 08
LOL
People are so funny! That's a good example of what I mean though, obviously people who do that are either no comprehending the discussion or they are just skimming and hit upon something that pops out to them and saying "oh, this is about ...." LOL
People are so funny! That's a good example of what I mean though, obviously people who do that are either no comprehending the discussion or they are just skimming and hit upon something that pops out to them and saying "oh, this is about ...." LOL1 person likes this
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
19 Jul 08
i cant complain too much because i have been having really bad concentration probs and long post are KILLING me as far as comprehending it and i know im prob doing the same thing lol.. so right now im staying away from long post till i get a few brain cells connecting lol
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Jul 08
Ho boy I got a humdinger one time. I was responding to a discussion about interracial relationships/marriages. The originator was of mixed bloods, and so am I, being that I'm part Native American...I happened to remark in my response to the originator how not that long ago, we Native Americans were still considered heathen savages...well YIKES! Out of the blue this other person chimes in, telling me "for shame on you" for saying Native Americans were heathen savages...that she was an honor student and Native American and called me an outright bigot...like HUH? Well she may have been an honor student but she obviously didn't learn one thing...how to read...I AM NATIVE AMERICAN ..so how could I be a bigot?? I was given an example of the viewpoint of people that still existed prior to the late 1800s
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@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
18 Jul 08
OMG.. WOW! Talk about jumping to conclusions!
LOL Some people definitely react WAY too quickly! If I read something that I found offensive, I would read over it several times before even thinking of saying something about it, and even then, I wouldn't jump down a persons' throat! WOW! Thank you for your story! People never fail to amaze me. LOL
LOL Some people definitely react WAY too quickly! If I read something that I found offensive, I would read over it several times before even thinking of saying something about it, and even then, I wouldn't jump down a persons' throat! WOW! Thank you for your story! People never fail to amaze me. LOL
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Yes. I've even gotten a response in another language, and I could make out that the responder DID have an idea about my topic, which makes me think they could READ english so why didn't they respond in english? I've also gotten responses that are one line and poorly written, it would be okay if the one line was a sentence but sometimes I'm not sure WHAT it is.
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@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Oh wow, I don't know what I'd think if I got an answer that wasn't written in English! I mean, I took a few weeks of German in college, but all I know of that even is some numbers and a few simple words! I agree, if someone can read English I would think they could respond in English. Ahh.. yea, sometimes one liners are fine, and sometimes discussions can't be stretched to much more than one line, but when even that one line makes no sense I'll just be like
no matter how many times I read it! LOL 
no matter how many times I read it! LOL 
@alkurishy (2068)
• Iraq
18 Jul 08
Sometimes, yes that happen when I give a mention (for a meaning of word that I have use in the discussion I start)in my replay for the first response to this discussion I have realized that 3 of other responses have not read the first post and the first comment of mine, maybe they read the discussion in a hurry to get more discussion to response.
have a good day my dear.
have a good day my dear.1 person likes this
@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
18 Jul 08
LOL
OMG.. that is crazy, talk about not being able to make up his mind. haha
Yep! I love Grey's Anatomy! When I first joined I had just really started getting into it, hense the name! LOL Now I kinda wish I had used one of my usualy screen names, just because it's really hard to get used to seeing this one. (I didn't really get active till last month! LOL) But yep! I LOVE Grey's Anatomy, and I'm dying for the new season to start!
OMG.. that is crazy, talk about not being able to make up his mind. haha
Yep! I love Grey's Anatomy! When I first joined I had just really started getting into it, hense the name! LOL Now I kinda wish I had used one of my usualy screen names, just because it's really hard to get used to seeing this one. (I didn't really get active till last month! LOL) But yep! I LOVE Grey's Anatomy, and I'm dying for the new season to start!@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
18 Jul 08
First of all, welcome to MyLot!
And I am glad that you say that, actually just reading the whole thing that the discussion creator wrote was what I was getting at, I typically respond without reading everyone's responses, because I know I like to hear from all different viewpoints, so I like to return that to other users. But I do thouroughly read the whole discussion the creator wrote so I don't start writing something completely irrevelant.
Again, welcome! 
And I am glad that you say that, actually just reading the whole thing that the discussion creator wrote was what I was getting at, I typically respond without reading everyone's responses, because I know I like to hear from all different viewpoints, so I like to return that to other users. But I do thouroughly read the whole discussion the creator wrote so I don't start writing something completely irrevelant.
Again, welcome! 
@roysville (496)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
Yes I do, and I myself am also guilty of that sometime, and I just notice that after posting my response. fortunately, the items I missed reading wouldn't really have an effect on my response ;)
@jillhill (37353)
• United States
18 Jul 08
I responded to a discussion a long time ago....the lady started the discussion about cars....and went into spending time with the family...or when you like to spend time with them....she did it to see if her discussions were really being read. I read several of the responses and most of them responded to the car part only! I have had a few where I was confused by the response...so I asume they didn't read it all the way through.
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@thebeaddoodler (4262)
• Lubbock, Texas
17 Jul 08
I haven't had it happen a lot, but it has happened. I don't know if people don't read all the discussion, or if they read it wrong. I usually go back and re read what I wrote asking myself "what did I say to bring that on?" LOL I thing the person that stated people are just answering as many discussions as possible to get money was right on. It does take longer to read a discussion and understand fully what it's about.
Oh well some are here for money only, some to chat and some for both. You can usually tell the first catagory. :)
@aussieblonk (236)
• Australia
18 Jul 08
I have been on both sides, often you see the topic and something you have experienced comes to mind, so, you start getting it down, oblivious to the fact your straying from the actual post.
Some people have responded to things i've posted and made little or no sense, thats just who we are I guess.















