Struggling with a Choice

United States
July 23, 2008 8:14pm CST
My father is very sick with Alzheimers and as hard as we are all trying, it is getting very difficult to keep him at home and still function. So, obviously we are struggling with the decision of a nursing home and the next question is when and how? Anyone with any experience in making these decisions? I would love to hear from you.
1 person likes this
4 responses
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I think it's great that you have been keeping him at home. They do seem to do better in familiar situations. On the other hand unless you can have someone with him 24 hours a day, it can get dangerous. From your post I couldn't tell if he is still in his own home or if he is living at a family member's home. I think for now you should just seek out all options...what facilities are in your area, what in home care is available, what services he would qualify for, how much can family help? Once you feel you know all your options you'll be better prepared to decide which will be best for him. (I don't mean this part in a harsh way but it all boils down to what is best for him, not how you all feel about it...if a facility is best don't let feelings of guilt make you keep him home, if keeping him at home is best don't let feelings of inadequacy or being overwhelmed by the work make you put him in a facility)
1 person likes this
• United States
24 Jul 08
Well,he probolly do better in a nursing home,when depends on how bad he has it.But some nursing homes abuse their patients.
1 person likes this
• United States
24 Jul 08
my mother has alzheimers and we are keeping her at home. she is 90. but there were times she had to go the hospital and then be in rehab for 2 weeks or so. nursing homes don't have the stigma that they used to because there are some good ones. and there are health problems that you just can't deal with. sometimes it is best for them if they are in a home.i can't tell you to do it or not. i don't know your situation. i do know it is never easy when you really care. you will have mixed emotions one way or the other. it's hard to care for them sometimes. there are times when the loved one adapts to the care facility and likes it there. it can be easier to socialize. and there are activities as well. it is very easy to visit with the other residents. and everything they need is there. there is a good one in our area. they have a hair salon and they did a great job on my mother's hair. she got lots of compliments. in your area try to find out from people, ask around for some good care centers. then call them up and ask questions or look for info on the webpage. just try to get all the info you can to help make your decision. an alternative is there are skilled nursing agencies that have people come to your home. there are many options now days to help with the care of the elderly.
• United States
24 Jul 08
again i don't know your situation. but there is equipment you can buy to help lift them. a hospital bed in the home helps. there are bath aides that can come to your house.
@vanities (11410)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jul 08
i guess you can put him in a room of his own and let somebody take care of him if no one in the family does have time to do it..more convenient i guess since you can see him and at the same time monitor his health as well as the one who take care of him..and more practical and not costly since you have only to pay the caregiver while in nursing home you have to pay his board and lodging and other miscellaneous fees..