Grr... stop calling me
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
July 26, 2008 10:01pm CST
Recently my fiance and I have been burdened with repetative phone calls from an old acquaintance of mine. She has both the number to my fiance's cellphone as well as the number to the house phone, both of which are under my fiance's parent's names. I am no longer friends with this person, and wherein I should have put an old best friend of mine, I felt that acquaintance better suited my feelings towards this person at the present time.
I have a few questions in which I'd like to ask, but first would like to make it know that the person to whom is calling me is from another county. I moved in with my fiance and from there the friendships that I had went down hill for reasons that although I could express here, I do not feel is necessary in this discussion. She has been harassing me and my fiance and yet does not leave a message on the answering machine at home, rather she hangs up on it. It is very clear that the answering machine is coming on, and we have noticed that she hangs up halfway during the introduction.
My questions are, would you file for harassment? I am aware that I need to answer the phone to give her a warning. Do you feel that after one warning, the message should be heeded? If you have been in this situation how many warnings did you give before contacting the authorities and pressing charges? Did you give any warnings? Is it ethical to not give warnings?
The first few times she called she called to ask if I were mad, but I did not answer. After the first two times, she has continued to call and yet she calls and asks if I would like to attend a party. I know for a fact that she is very much aware that the friendship between us is over not only because of two messages I left for her prior to her phone harassment, but also because I have not only ended mine and hers, but also all of our friends for reasons in which are not applicable to this given discussion.
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5 responses
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
28 Jul 08
I'd give her one warning and if she called back I'd use the local phone company's Trace a call feature. Here that basically flags their number and if they call again you flag it again...after 5 times they disable their phone account. I'd also be reporting her to the police and indicate that I would be flagging her calls though the phone company if she called again.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Oh okay, yes. The guy your talking of sounds a bit creepy, am glad you used the feature for it! I appreciate your response!
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
28 Jul 08
We have what we call *69 in which you can get the number however, that is not needed as we do have caller id. I do understand what you are saying but if this is available in my area I do not know if it would be effective as she calls from her cellphone. I appreciate your response!
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
27 Jul 08
I know your feeling. I left some friends too, because of some reasons that cannot be mentioned here. These friends would never give me and my GF good influence, that's the only thing I can say.
The situation is that this ex-friends are still calling my GF, fortunately they didn't do any harrasment, and yes, I do think that you should file for it! You have cut out those friendship with them, and ongoing calls are really disturbing. You'd better tell them to stop calling you, threat them that you will call the police because you feel disturbed.
if your cellphone, and your fiance's cellphone has a features for blocking number, just block her number. Her calls to home phone will be registered so you will be able to file the disturbance too.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
27 Jul 08
I think that I can safely say that they were not of good influence to me or my fiance either. I am glad to be rid of them, and am happy now that I do not fret on their various meanderings. I may end up blocking the number as that is an option I have seeked, but I do hope that I do not have to go that far. She may very well stop calling after her party as that is her main concern. I appreciate your response to me! Have a wonderful day!
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
27 Jul 08
I appreciate your wishes for luck in our endeavor to block this girl. I am also glad that you have gotten away from their grasps if only a little. I appreciate your response to me.
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
27 Jul 08
Well, it is good to be able to get out from a society which can give us bad influence, I know the hard times getting out from those kind of people, which will always pull you back whenever you want to get away. I am glad you've made it, Girl! And I am happy you and your fiance are able to resist the temptation of getting back to those people. I wish you luck with your number-blocking action.
And... you're welcome, I am glad if I can help :)
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
27 Jul 08
I owuld just ask her not to call. If it continues, you can go to the police. They may not do much though. You could get a restraining order on her, that would at least get her to stop calling.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
27 Jul 08
A restraining order is a bit to much and I am not sure on what the limitations would be for phone harassment. I appreciate your response!
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I agree we have definitely been burdened with the fact that she keeps calling over an over again,and yeah both numbers are under my parents names,and I especially hate when she calls the house,because it not only annoys us,it annoys my parents as well, if it were up to me I would answer the phone and give her one warning,that if she ever called back I would call the cops and tell them she is harassing me,and do everything I could to get her arrested,or I would let Rickey answer and cuss her out, and she gives me a headache just thinking about her,and how much she is annoying us.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I agree that it's a burden and not only for just us but for your parents who have to know that we do not answer her phone calls. I appreciate your response to me, and I LOVE U!
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Yeah my parents know we refuse to answer her phone calls,and they also no exactly why we refuse to answer,and they are just as tired of her calling as we are,I was more than happy to respond to you,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day, good luck in your life,and Happy Posting.
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@reckon21 (3477)
• Philippines
27 Jul 08
Bear the intrusion for a little while. Maybe she
will get bored if you are ignoring her entirely.
Was it the attention she was seeking? I just don't
get her at all. I f she keep on pestering you,
telling the authorities is the best option. Good luck
with your decision.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
27 Jul 08
I appreciate your response to me, but I do hope that I do not have to resort to calling the authorities. Although it may be the best option!
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