[Rantings] I am Puzzled..

Singapore
July 31, 2008 1:53pm CST
Why is it that everytime I post a discussion, there is not much response to them, or there is no response at all? Why is that so? Can anyone teach me on what topics would interest people to discuss with me?
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@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
7 Sep 08
Dun be puzzled.. If u are puzzled, than take a look at my discussions and u will know, because i'm much worse off than u, and the fact is i'm much longer in mylot than u.. lol =D I guess it's due to the way we write and describe our post, or maybe it's too close for our comfort that most ple dunno how to respond to it ^_^ hehe =D But if u want to have a post to have many respond, there's one that will surely work ^_^ POst your discussion under, Love, and it must be about love, and u can be sure of many responses ^_^ hehe For me, i find that responding to discussions is easier and starting one, and thus most of the time i will respond and not start.. haha ^_^
• Singapore
13 Nov 08
Haha, it sounds very logical and realistic when we put it in writing, but how many of us actually act on what we think. Majority of us will talk the talk, but not walk the talk, if you get what I mean.
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@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
14 Nov 08
Yeah, i do get what u mean.. For we can think what we wan and talk in anyway we like, because there's no way to prove it.. lol =D BUt when it comes to doing, it's a completely different thing, as doing it is not as simple as plain talking.. It takes courage and confidence.. hehe
• Singapore
18 Nov 08
Lol It will take a really determine person to be able to stick to their own words and carry out what they say. No double standards one would say. But how many people can actually claim that they are that? I can't.
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@mysdianait (65079)
• Italy
31 Jul 08
Hi angelia! It's not easy to get lots of response when you start. That comes with practice. You are on my friends list and I respond when I have time and where I find something interesting to rspons to. You'll see that the longer you stick it out the more friends you get and the more responses you will get once your discussions are getting 'seen'. Try responding on as many discussions as you can so that other users come and find yours and return the favour Keep it up and happy posting!
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• Singapore
1 Aug 08
Thanks for your tips! =D I found that it is not that easy after a few of my discussion went without any response. Lol, and these are the discussions that I really need advice on. Haha, but I guess I cannot be demanding being new and all. I see what you mean though. The more I post, the more people will notice me and the more responses I will get. Hehe. Thanks for responding!! I really appreciate it ^o^
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@mysdianait (65079)
• Italy
1 Aug 08
Always happy to help! Thanks to YOU for the BR! Take care and have fun!
• India
1 Aug 08
LOL... I have heard similar rants throughout my stay on Mylot. Needless to say, I have wondered the same myself. How is it that seemingly stupid discussions get sooooo many responses and the really good ones go ignored? I honestly don't know. I guess it must have something to do with the number of friends you have. :) And you are new. Maybe you should be around more. Are you tagging your discussions properly? That's important too. Give catchy titles - that's another way to attract people. And ... umm.. well, apart from that, I really can't give any good advise. It is a Mylot mystery, and now, it has ceased bothering me. Cheers and happy mylotting
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• Singapore
1 Aug 08
I had always wondered about the same thing myself. Lol, it seems like poll type of questions get a lot of responses but when you post something that requires thinking on the other party's part, you won't get any responses for them. I had really wondered why. There are a few discussions I started where I really wanted advice from people as I was so confused myself, but funnily enough, there was not a single response at all. Haha, I am not sure whether it was because it was too difficult for people to respond to or was it because they were never in that situation, as such, unable to give proper advice and thus, decided not to give any responses. However, when I post 'poll' questions like giving people a choice between two or three items, majority of the time, I get lots of responses. Lol. Hmm.. I think I am tagging them properly or perhapes not. Hehe, I might have had been doing something wrong here. It's just difficult for me to summarise my discussion into ten key words such that sometimes, I just leave them blank. Ok, I will bear that in mind though the next time round I start a new discussion. Catchy titles! Now that's a good one! I had never thought of doing that! Usually what I did was just to post a title that is factual and somewhat describes what I am going to discuss, but it had never cross my mind to put in one that would catch people's attention. Will do all that you had suggested the next time round I post another discussion. Those are really great suggestions and you had been a great help! Thanks =)
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• Canada
31 Jul 08
I'm trying to figure that out myself. I have posted 3 questions....that I actually want answers for...that i didn't just make up so that I get more money, and only one of my questions has gotten a response. I asked one about relationship issues and 2 about traveling and trips and the one I got the response for was the relationship one. I'm thinking people are more interested in peoples personal lives then anything else!
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• Singapore
1 Aug 08
Haha I figured that out too! =D It's the same here with me, I posted 4 topics that I really wanted an answer to, as I was so confused over the matters. But, sadly, there wasn't any response for those. However, as advised by one of the old timers, just keep posting and people will soon take notice and return the favour by posting in our own discussion. I found that this is very good advice. Perhapes you can try it too! Wishing you all the best and happy Mylotting!! (P.s Had added you as a friend).
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
19 Dec 08
I too face the same problem from time to time. If you actually go thru the list of topics I have, many of them have responses numbered less than 10. Quite a few of them do not even have responses. The ones that generate a lot of discussion is few and far in between. I too am wondering why. I guess it could be the way we word the discussion. It could also be the way we write out the discussion that is not appealing to the people reading it. It could also be the crowd here. Most of them are not from the same country. So they cannot relate to the things we are posting about. There could be so many reasons. How do you know for sure which one is the one that is causing you to have so little discussion generated for the topics you started? What matters most is you are able to find a few kakis here to chit chat. Then it doesn't really matter anymore if the discussions you started generate a lot of response or not. Being your friend here at mylot, I notice that your discussions always have very lengthy conversations withing the discussions you created. That is a good thing. I sure wish I had more lengthy conversations like you do on your discussion thread!
• Singapore
28 Dec 08
I sure love it when there's an actual conversation going on within a discussion started. That is what i would call a real discussion going on. Hehe, yeah, I must say that I am considered to be lucky as I do have lots of lengthy conversation going on within a discussion. Thanks to friends like yourself and ahkun =D Rest assure! I would try to have some lengthy discussions going on in those that you have started. Hehe, I am getting more and more free time on my hands le, because MAS wants the company to wrap up all cases by mid-January! So, I could say that I am happy now. Lol and so, I will have more time to chat with all of you friends! In the past, I used to care about how many responses I would have in a discussion. However, strangely as time goes by, and the longer I stayed on Mylot, I no longer care any longer. You are very right to say that as long as we have a few good friends who can chit-chat and keep a discussion lively, there's no need to have hundreds of meaningless responses in comparison. Thanks for responding!! Take care!
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
30 Dec 08
Well, that is indeed good news eh? More time to chat on mylot. And at the same time, lesser work load on the job front! Good beginning to a new year eh? Well, I sure look forward to more of your discussions then! See you around. OH, before I forget... Happy New Year!
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
18 Nov 08
It is often hard to know what topics interest people and of course a lot depends on who is online at the time you start the discussionas to how many responses you will get. You have to remember that there are a large number of discussions posted continuously and so unless you get a response fairly quickly, the discussion you started will be "buried" under a whole lot of others. If you have any discussions without a response eprhaops someone on yoiur list of friends will look at them and respond to it. That wil bring the topic back into theline of sight and maybe someone else will see and add their response as well. When you do start a topic/discussion and people respond make sure that you go back and read what they have written. If you have any comment to make to those responses, again it will bring your discussion back into the top area. You do not have to make comment on the responses immediately but spaced out between other discussions and your discussion will see light of day for a while and maybe attract more responses. Good luck and I hope that you can find the answers that you are looking for.
• Singapore
18 Nov 08
I totally agree with you on that. Topics that might attract ourselves might not be of much interest to others, similarly topics of interest to others might not be so to us. And we cannot do anything about this, as everybody's interest and hobbies will vary from individual. Being on Mylot for so long, and active for 2 months, I came to realise that posting topics in the wee nights at around 3am in Singapore will usually generate lots of responses as it is day time in America, and that is where the majority of active Mylotters come from. Also, I realised that discussions that might just get started only 5 minutes ago on a peak hour will get buried all the way to the 10th page. And usually the interesting topics and discussions for me is not at the top of the discussion pages. Many a times, my discussion do get buried under tons of new discussions, and responses from the friends that I have made online somehow manages to save the discussion from the graveyard. Lol =D Lol.. I do realise what you mean about commenting at a later time will 'push' my discussion up to top page once again. It's the same with your response. It came after months of posting this topic with no response. Oh well, thanks for the tips and advices given. At the same time, thanks for responding to my discussion! Take care and happy mylotting!!
• China
14 Nov 08
the same problem happen to me ,,but I see it as my english isn't excellent and someone else can't understand what i say,so I keep going and pay more time to my english ...I am sure my english will be better...
• Singapore
18 Nov 08
Yes it will surely get better with more practice! I'm glad to see that you have confidence in yourself You will be able to do it! Mylot is a good place to start practicing our written English isn't it? Go for it, and hopefully you will achieve what you want to achieve. Take care and happy mylotting!!