Do you believe in spanking?
July 31, 2008 7:20pm CST
I had started a discussion regarding undisciplined children. Among the responses most thought a good spanking would do the trick. What do you think? For me I think that there's nothing wrong with spanking a child. However, kicking or punching, or any thing other than a light spank is different. There is a fine line between harmless spanking and terroristic beating. Some children dont need it. Others beg for it. My older daughter was spanked. She tested me on everything. It was as if she could not accept the word NO or dont do that. Now my youngest has never been spanked. For the record both of my children are well adjusted responsible young ladies. I am not a grandmother and my oldest is able to support herself in a very comfortable. Dont get me wrong. People are abused. Anyone with abuse in there background shouldnt spank. If there isnt any issues, then I think a child needs discipline. Imagine how many times you have been disrespected by teens on the street, in the store, at the mall, or anywhere. You were shocked at their behavior. When you turn on the tv and see all the teen crime. How many could have been avoided if their parents disciplined them sternly and constantly. Half the battle is sticking to the punishment and not falling for the It wasnt me's. Parents have become intimidated by their children. The schools are explaining abuse factors wrong. They have the kids believing that if the parent does something that feels uncomfortable no matter what it is. Tell some one. Of course being punished or a tap on the A** doesnt feel right. If it did what would be the point. The school system and other organizations need to back off just a bit. Give the power to the parents. Monitor it if need be. I bet statistics regarding kids and crime, violence, and truancy would diminish greatly. Whats your take on this? Remember this is just my opinion. dl
• United States
1 Aug 08
Yes of course. To spare the rod is to HATE the child the Bible says. I know we have watered this down to spare the rod is to spoil the child, but please remember that is watered down. I believe in a good spanking if need be. They need boundaries. I know this is a touchy subject because people only think of abuse now. But I still believe it b/c I do not do it out of anger only love to teach them right and hope that one day they teach their kids right from wrong.
• United States
1 Aug 08
Please feel free to quote whatever helps us to understand that a LITTLE discipline may save the life of a child later on. It is a touchy subject but where better to broach it then on myLot? I agree with you. Discipline shouldnt be taken to the extreme. Thanks dl
1 Aug 08
Hi, I had the same with my daughter when she was little. My son was totally different, I just needed to look at him and he new he did something wrong. I only wish I knew then what I know now. Hitting is not the answer. It is being consequent, setting rules and keeping to it. When the child needs punishment, send them to a corner and tell them you should think about what was wrong. When they calm down (normally no longer then 10 min) talk to them. My ex boyfriend had a little girl, she would start crying for no reason other the wanting attention.(4-7) I send her to her room and told her she could come back when she was finished crying. The first time took a long time before she came down. But, after a short while, I could say;" Go ahead cry, but do it in your room." She would dry her eyes and tell me she was not crying and it was all better. Her mother did not understand how her daughter was so nice with me. We had a great time together, because I was consequent, and that was what she needed. I miss her... Take care, Margajoe
• United States
2 Aug 08
I am glad that that everything worked out. You probably helped the mom get thru to her daughter as well. Dont misunderstand my discussion. I dont think spanking should be used as a first choice. I am saying not all children do that. My dad said as a child I was hard-headed. He would say no a million times, put me in time out and still I would repeat the same bad behavior. When he tapped my hand even. I got spanked not beat and not as the first option. Eventually the repetition of telling a child can lead to other children picking up the behavior or to being avoided by people who dont want to be embarassed by someones child just being nasty. I am one of them. I never beat my child a day in her life. I took them anywhere with no issues. I was always asked to bring my children. How many times have you wished someone you know would leave their children at home. Or not even invite someone because of putting up with their kids. Everyone is different. As I said in my discussion, some need physical discipline. Some dont. CHildren are the future adults of the world. What they learn and how the behave is up to us as parents. If you overlook your childs behavior, you are allowing him/her to think they can do what ever without consequences. That's the problem today. I just want children to be loved and know that discipline isnt hateful but to guide them in the right direction for healthy choices in future. Thanks for the input. dl
5 Aug 08
Hi! Yes I agree. But, it is not always the parents that cause these bad behaviors. It also has to do with school. And most of all, what kind of friends they have. Sure it starts from home. But, seeing as everything has gotten so expensive people are working more. They need the money. But the kids need there parents. It is not easy know a days!!! We can only try to do our best. Hopefully the children of today will all get better and learn respect fast. Or our future is going to be even harder then it is already. Take care, Margajoe.
1 Aug 08
Is something good or bad? the answer lies in the context in which the question is being asked. I believe there is nothing wrong with a little spanking if the child is getting out of hand. But I don't support it as the first line of action for any and every issue regarding a child. There are times when you have to put your feet down and then I don't mind if the parent takes the support of a rod and gives the kid a little spanky-spanky. But it should only be one when you run out of all other options. I agree with you about the rising teen crime rates and the rough behavior they have towards the elders but always remember that even kids who are over disciplined either grow too timid or become too rebellious. So everything depends upon the situation. If need be Spanking is a Good thing.