Caught in the middle, mediating.
By alokn99
@alokn99 (5717)
India
August 1, 2008 11:28pm CST
I often find myself caught in the middle as 'mediator' whenever there is a huge argument or a fight amongst family members or friends. I do find it difficult in taking sides at that point of time ,as I find it hard to bear the sight of people I care about fighting with each other. Although my point of view may be inclined towards one side, I always feel there there are more peaceful and calm ways of settling things.
Do you feel the same way or land up in taking sides in an argument ?
3 responses
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
4 Aug 08
I also sometimges land in a similar situation. My purpose to mediate is to get the things sorted out. I know sometimes one fellow speaks in such a manner that other can misunderstood and might take it to his heart. I try to sooth and calm the other fellow down, who is agitating, because I know the exact 'nature' of the other fellow. Sometimes mediation does help and sometimes I become a butt of joke in the process of mediating. But I think, it is in our nature to help sort out the unpleasant situations, as much as we can.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
4 Aug 08
Yes Dpk,
It's in our nature to try and get people we care about out of unpleasant situations, but often get ourselves stuck in one. I remember once trying to seperate and mediate between 2 dear friends fighting and got myself slightly bloodied in the process.
Thanks for the response and have a great day.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
4 Aug 08
You should have the satisfaction of doing, what was best for them, even if you got hurt, it was none of your fault, you were trying to sort the issue, honestly, I suppose. YOu appear to be very nice and caring person. We need people like you in this society.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
2 Aug 08
Alok
most of us do that, we are hunad atthe end of the day. I have been into a lot of such fights and brawls myself where I had to fight all alone even though , truly, I wasn't at fault. Now I have kind of foregone that phase and try not to be in the middle of anything. If and when I do, I just try to give benefit of doubt to the one who's been squeezed.
Having said this, we donot get any where fighting, as you have said. Only thing we end up having is heartbreaks and draining of positive energy.
HAPPY LIVING.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
2 Aug 08
It is very hard to go through a situation of trying to fight it out all alone and I'm happy to know that you are out of it. Mimpi, I wish I could be like you and not get caught up in the middle of such fights. When I do try, I find my near and dear one's looking at me, trying to get me to agree with their points of view. So instead of doing that I try and mediate the solution. It's like trying to maintain harmony both externally and internally. It is very draining though.
Thanks for sharing your wonderful thoughts.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
2 Aug 08
Its hard alok, I know. But one has to overcome it. Its killing! We do get affected for its our loved ones but try to think the other way round, it could have been worse...
@mobilecubie (820)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
I also find myself being force to take sides at times, but I stay firmly neutral. If there is a problem then both parties involved have every reason to be blamed for it no matter who started it. I guess the best way to finish any arguments is to mediate between and try to find solutions that is acceptable to those involved.
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